Woman Fired For Being “Irresistible.” In Other News, I Hate Everyone

You have probably heard about this. I mean, Melissa Nelson, a female dental assistant was fired after ten years because her boss believed that she was “irresistible” and that an affair with her was inevitable down the road.

You. Guys.

First of all, let me just talk about this generally. I’ve said: “Damn, girl, nobody’s going to be able to keep their hands off of you!” It’s often a prophesy that I fulfill myself, because I am very handsy with my friends when I’m drunk. Truth be told, I’m not exactly prim and proper when I’m sober.

Shocking, I know.

I do not, however, literally mean that anyone’s appearance or attire will somehow release this siren song or Poison Ivy (from comics, not botany) pheromone that shuts down someone’s prefrontal cortex and lets the amygdala run wild.

It’s an expression, you guys.

Unless you are Phineas Gage*, you can probably moderate your social behavior enough to not have an affair with a coworker, now matter how “irresistible” you deem her to be.

At the risk of sounding like an alarmist, claiming that a woman is so irresistible that you cannot imagine yourself not eventually having sex with her sounds rapey. It’s not the same thing, but, logically, it’s a few steps away from “but look at how she was dressed,” or “she was asking for it.” Because, let us not forget, this is not a coworker of his who is pressuring him to sleep with her. This entire “inevitable affair” scenario exists solely in his mind. The whole “it takes two to tango” thing applies here—otherwise it’s rape. Unless the dentist in …

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Big Surprise: Sexual Harassment Leads to Health Woes

Cartoon of Man Slapped After Sexually Abusing a Woman

I suppose we owe a debt of gratitude to Herman Cain, in some strange way.  The seriousness of sexual harassment has come once more into the forefront, and that means that conversations are happening.

Important ones.

I realize that sometimes the line gets blurred, that people take things the wrong way, and so on … but the fact remains that sexual harassment is a problem.  A big one.

And Fox News recently ran a piece pointing out that there are medical repercussions of suffering sexual harassment.

Serious ones.

And the truth of the matter is, virtually all of these areas of concern are made …

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The Historical Lessons of Rosie the Riveter

Photo of Women Working in a Factory During World War II

I started reading when I was a toddler, and it has long been both escapism and passion to me.  However, whereas I used to devour fiction, my love for the written word has expanded in the past year to include historical works of non-fiction.  If you think of the books in the world as existing in a candy store, you could say that I’d been enjoying one floor my entire life, blissfully unaware that thousands of equally delightful options existed.

One of the most important things I’ve learned is how little I really know, and this is as true of some of the historical bases for feminism as it is anything else.

I’d heard of Rosie the Riveter, of course, and had read a fair amount of feminist literature (from Mary Wollstonecraft to Andrea Dworkin) in college, but the “touched upon” nature that one receives in a survey class is completely different than diving …

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Women Do Shy Away From Competition in The Workforce

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“We know that women, often working at the same kind of job as men, frequently are not paid as much as men,” says researcher John List, a professor of economics at the University of Chicago. Boy, do we ever (women are paid on average 3/4 of what men receive for equivalent work). But anew University of Chicago study published by the National Bureau of Economic Research adds proof to the old myth that women shy away from competition in the workforce. List found that this preference may lead to the pay discrepancy we see between men and women. The study found, however, that this lack of interest in competition …

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