If You’re Breathing, You’re a Feminist

There is an influx of celebrities denying being “Feminists”. Famous ladies like Melissa Leo, Carla Bruni-Sarkozy, Marissa Mayer, Taylor Swift and Katy Perry have all denounced being “feminists”. While accepting her Woman of the Year award from Billboard Perry said, “I am not a feminist, but I do believe in the strength of women.” Well, they’re wrong.

I’d like to categorically say that these women are wrong. It doesn’t matter if they want to admit it or not but they are feminists. Any woman breaking boundaries in a male dominated world, any woman succeeding in her choice of career, any woman that says I am more than a “sister, wife, mother I am a person” is a feminist. If you want to sit and say, “I am defined by what a man or society tells me I am” then you are not a feminist.

The problem with saying, “I am a feminist” is it is perceived as “I am a man-hating, unshaved, beast that will cut the sleeves off my t-shirts and refuse to wear skirts”. Feminists have a brand issued. We have a PR problem. There was a radical movement that hi-jacked what being a feminist is. Gloria Steinem is a feminist and is gorgeous. In fact she became the face of the movement because it was a good face.

You can still be pretty, girly, frilly and demand to be treated as equal. Being a feminist isn’t being angry and boorish. It’s not about being hard and masculine. It is about standing up for equal rights because you are a human being and a citizen of the world.

It does a great disservice for Katy Perry to say “I’m not a feminist”. Of course you are! You believe you are worth something! That’s why you beat down the doors of the record industry and didn’t conform to what they wanted to be. In her movie trailer Perry stands on stage and says, “thank you for believing in my weirdness.” But it was Perry herself who trusted her weirdness who knew she knew what she was doing and didn’t let anyone tell her “no, no silly little girl you can’t sing about this, you can’t dance that way, you can’t dye your hair pink”. She said, “Watch me dye my hair, put on a whipped cream bra, dance around Candy-land while singing I kissed a girl and make millions”. In the trailer someone also says, “What are people saying she can’t do? That’s what she’s going to do next.” That’s a feminist.



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Would You Break the Law to Change Your Kid’s Grades?

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I fear for the youth of today.  Seriously fear for them.  Not because of global warming or cyberterrorism or a zombie apocalypse, but because of their parents.

I’ve been quite outspoken on my distress that helicopter parenting has elevated (heh heh) to a point that would have seemed ridiculous a generation ago, and I keep hoping I’ll be proven overly cynical, the girl who cried wolf, or completely wrong.  After all, I am personally invested in this serious problem as a citizen, an educator, and … well, someone who sees an awful of parents whose kids control them the way a puppeteer directs a marionette.

But I think I’m right about this one, much to my chagrin.

There are news stories that crop up all the time, giving credence to my theory that far too many underage inmates are running an increasing number of asylums.

Consider this, from Time Magazine:

A Pennsylvania woman faces six felony charges for doing just that. Catherine Venusto, 45, hacked into the Northwestern Lehigh School District computer system and altered the grades of her two children, ABC News reports. Venusto had worked at the district as an administrative office secretary from 2008 through April, 2011. A year before she quit, Venusto, of New Tripoli, Penn., had been accused of changing her daughter’s failing grade to a medical exception. And in February, 2012, she was accused of changing her son’s 98 to a 99.

I have worked in enough school districts to know that, if a medical exception is warranted, it is given.  In fact, it’s not exactly difficult…

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The UK’s Top Female Role Models: Not Who You’d Think

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A new poll of women for mydaily.co.uk has revealed that the likes of Kate Moss and Cheryl Cole are non-starters in terms of influence when compared with the more ‘heavyweight’ likes of Baroness Thatcher, Condoleezza Rice and The Queen. I’m genuinely surprised by the results of this survey, which asked the question ’which woman do you find most influential’ – but pleasantly surprised. The women who make the survey’s list are women who have made a difference to the lives of others, rather than just being famous women in the public eye.

Harley Street psychologist Sue Frith told The Daily Telegraph that the findings of the survey are ‘very much substance over style,’ and went on to say that ‘this is very reassuring.’ She’s right. The mainstream media feeds us this …

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Study Proves That an Ideal Female Body Exists … But Does it Matter?

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I have met very few females that are 100% comfortable with their bodies. Everyone from movie stars to supermodels to Jane the Plumber has some sort of flaw—real or imagined—that they are sensitive about.

A recent study conducted by Australian and Hong Kong scientists (and published in the Journal of Evolutionary Biology) does not exactly give a warm fuzzy feeling to those of us with the stomach flab that never quite bounced back after having a baby, facial hair, knobby knees, short stature, no butt, or any other perceived imperfection you can imagine.

Nope, the ideal woman is young, tall, and long-armed.

I’m freaking screwed.

From Science Daily:

“Physical attractiveness is an important determining factor for evolutionary, social, and economic success,” said lead author Robert Brooks from the University of New South Wales. “The dimensions of someone’s body can tell observers if that person is suitable as a potential mate, a long term partner, or perhaps the threat they pose as a sexual competitor.”

It’s interesting how evolution has been dragged into this along with the notion that Darwin’s idea of natural selection extends to the purely physical. And perhaps not entirely surprisingly, that mindset has led to a look at torso, waist, bust, and hip measurements—it’s all about childbearing, don’t you know?

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