Abstinence Only? Screw that!



Elizabeth Smart was kidnapped when she was fourteen and held for nine months. Now, she’s an activist and an ABC News contributor. I have a few issues with Elizabeth Smart, namely that she really capitalized on her trauma. Immediately there was an interview, a movie, and a book all with her help and participation. Pretty sure she’s the only trauma victim that did that in under a month. Also, the part of her story in which she said she was out with her captors, went up to someone and said, “I’m Elizabeth Smart” and when they just kind of shrugged, not recognizing her name she went back to her rapists.
However, I’ll give credit where credit is due and Smart is speaking on behalf of victims and “abstinence only” education. She was at Johns Hopkins discussing human trafficking and sexual violence and said:

“she “felt so dirty and so filthy” after she was raped by her captor, and she understands why someone wouldn’t run “because of that alone.”
Smart spoke at a Johns Hopkins human trafficking forum, saying she was raised in a religious household and recalled a school teacher who spoke once about abstinence and compared sex to chewing gum.
“I thought, ‘Oh, my gosh, I’m that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.’ And that’s how easy it is to feel like you no longer have worth, you no longer have value,” Smart said. “Why would it even be worth screaming out? Why would it even make a difference if you are rescued? Your life still has no value.”

Psychologists and sexual abuse counselors have all said that a comprehensive sex education can help prevent sex crimes. I don’t understand why in 2013 we are still teaching “just say no” when it comes to sex. Teach kids to be responsible about their bodies. Give them the tools they need. Right now we’re sending them into the woods at night without a flashlight and saying, “don’t trip or get hurt!” GIVE THEM A GOD DAMN FLASHLIGHT!
It’s backwards thinking and it makes sex dirty and our bodies bad. It causes shame, body issues, secrets, and self-destructive behavior. I would for once like someone to do something that would actually benefit the education of our children. But no, they won’t. They’ll keep banning Anne Frank, Red Riding Hood, and teaching us how to multiply fractions (I have NEVER needed to know how to do that in my life and excuse me that’s what a calculator and Google is for) but they will not teach anything that has any type of practical use.



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Peggy Brick: Aging and Sexuality

Peggy Brick has had quite the enviable career. She was a pivotal member of the sexuality movement, discovered the g-spot, and declared that it is great for the elderly to have sex, she seems to have done it all in the intellectual world of sexuality. This woman has been a Director of Planned Parenthood,the author of several books and a plethora of academic papers. During her earlier career she explored why European cultures are so much more open about sexuality and contraceptives than American cultures are.

Brick now provides workshops on sexuality and aging for agencies and community groups, and she trains staff at assisted living and nursing homes. Many of these adults never had a formal sex education. Some of them are widowed, some view masturbation in a religiously wrong light, some have health issues… the list can go on forever. The elderly have just as many sex questions as young people do.

She once told MSNBC that “My main theme is that people need new expectations. If they expect sex to be like it was when they were a teenager, they’re going to be disappointed. It’s different, and in fact it can be considerably better, but people have to understand the changes.”

Consider this: there are plenty of commercials aimed at younger people in order to prevent the spread of disease and unwanted pregnancy. There are even commercials pointing at middle aged married couples for trying new lubricants. Where are the sexuality commercials for the elderly? The old are surely concerned about more than diabetes, falling down, and forms of insurance.

Commercials that market condoms and lubricants for later life individuals would be quite lucrative as a business scheme, as well as providing some much needed knowledge for the elderly population of America. Does this nation assume that the elderly can’t contract gonorrhea? Over ¼ of HIV-positive individuals are older than 50 years old now- the population is seen as “graying”.

Some of these people contracted the disease when they were younger and then aged, and some older people contract it later in life there are reports of cases of STIs being spread around retirement communities like wildfire. If this is a generation that never received a formal sexual education, then perhaps a condom commercial is necessary to get their attention. Peggy would approve.



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