It’s Not An Affair…It’s Love

The title of this piece is the worst excuse I’ve ever heard for being selfish. “It’s not an affair, we’re in love”, no you’re just unable to control your biological urges you’re no better than an animal, apologize for setting back our evolution. I

Saying this is just another way of saying “I’m sorry, but it’s not my fault”. That’s not a real apology…and neither is this nonsense that Rielle Hunter, ex-mistress of John Edwards, is touting as a public apology. Hunter wrote a piece for Huffington Post saying:

“I am very sorry for my wrong, selfish behavior. Back in 2006, I did not think about the scope of my actions, how my falling in love with John Edwards, and acting on that love, could hurt so many people. I hurt Elizabeth and her kids. I hurt her family. I hurt John’s family. I hurt people that knew Elizabeth. I hurt people who didn’t know Elizabeth but loved her from afar. I hurt people who gave their hard earned dollars to a campaign — a cause they believed in. I hurt people who are married and believe in marriage.”

So, it was love that she was acting on? Not lust? Not attraction? Not greed? Cause I’m pretty sure she made a pretty penny off of this affair. She wrote a book…and oh, by the way this apology came while promoting said book.

“I fell in love with John Edwards and wanted to be with him and that desire trumped everything else. And then instead of apologizing when I should have, I went on to hurt more people by writing a book,”

She forgot to add, “and continue to hurt her surviving friends and family by putting a death grip on my 15 minutes of fame. “One of my favorite quotes is this one:

“My publisher came up with the idea of me going through my book and annotating all of my regrets and mistakes,”

Maybe that’s because your book is selling for $1.77 on Amazon and they needed another PR scheme.

This woman is selfish and disgusting. I’m so sick of people who have affairs claiming it was “love” no it was your hormones and if 13-year-old kids are expected to control them than so should middle aged adults.

Take some responsibility for your actions.

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Everyone Needs To Be A Feminist


I asked my friend if she would consider herself a feminist and she said “no”. When I asked “why not” she said “I only want power in my home, and I like when my husband holds the door for me”. There is some strange…thing…that hangs over feminism. It’s this dark cloud that says, “if you say you’re a feminist that means you’re a man hater and don’t like kindness.”
I don’t know why this started…I’m pretty sure it’s a slur campaign by the patriarchy (look I’m man bashing—I must be a feminist). But really, I do think it’s a direct reflection of how men responded to women saying “I want to be treated equally”. They stopped being nice and called it equality. Now, I don’t know about you—but I’ve seen dudes hold doors for other dudes. I’m pretty sure that means you could be a God damn gentleman and hold the door for a lady. Just because I’m equal doesn’t mean I’m not a lady. I’m still a chick; I still get all emotional and swoony when boys do something nice.
The point is, you can be a woman—you can be uber feminine and still be a feminist. I want to hammer this home because it is so important to be a feminist. Men should be feminists too. All of human kind should be able to stand together as equals. And being equal shouldn’t mean there isn’t kindness—it should mean that we are kind—not for any ulterior motive (like getting into some panties) but because that is how human beings should act toward each other by default. That should be our default setting.

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Men Are Not Animals (Opinion)

It’s a common saying that “men are animals”. We say this when men cheat, when men act in a disgusting way, when men don’t control themselves. But lately I’ve been wondering if we do men a disservice by saying this.

We are all animals. We all come from the animal kingdom. We have evolved. I think it’s unfair to just say, “oh men are animals”. I think it gives them an excuse or a pass to behave badly. It’s like saying “they can’t do better.” But they most certainly can do better and many men do.

I have had the privilege of seeing both sides. I have suffered at the hands of men—I have seen the worst of men. For a long time I was scared because of what men did to me. I saw, what I thought was a great man, turn to a horrible man, I was lucky enough to have another great man pick up where that horrible man left off, and because of him I now I have seen a little boy grow into a man.
I’ve watched struggles and growth and pain and suffering and let me tell you—men are not animals. Men are humans. If you give anyone a pass to behave badly they will. If you give anyone the excuse to not try to exceed expectations—they won’t.
I’m sick of hearing people say, “that’s men for ya” or some form of that saying. Men—this country was built by great, flawed me. Some of the best books were written by genius men, discoveries were made, countries were grown, and children were raised. I would love to see an iguana do that—since men are just animals.
Men—like women, are subject to what is thought about them. If you think little of something or someone why would they ever strive to prove you wrong? Yet, if you look around you—every day men, like women, are fighting a battle for equal rights. The right to be a stay at home dad, the right to be a man even though women are leading the charge as bread winners, the right to be an equal partner, the right to be a feminist, the right to be more than an animal.

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Catch Up

We’ve got to catch up with the times. Our laws do more harm than good because they’re stuck decades behind us. I am so sick of hearing about how overcrowded prisons and jails are when I know that the majority of people housed in them are causalities from “the war on drugs”. People that had some weed on them, or coke serving five years.

There are no laws for cyber bullying, the way the current law is written a clever lawyer can manipulate it to get someone who bullies a kid into killing themselves off scott-free. Recently, a girl was charged with statutory rape. She was in a consensual relationship with another girl—with a two year age difference. They started when they were 17 and 15—the 15 year-old has homophobic parents and did not want her to be dating a girl so the moment that her girlfriend turned 18 they pressed charges. Now, this 18 year-old, whose only crime was loving someone, is facing 15 years in prison and having to register as a sex offender. The law needs to catch up. This world needs to catch up.

Then I read about a transgender woman who still has her penis, but for all other intents and purposes is female was arrested. That’s fine, if she was doing something wrong arrest her—but this woman was housed with men. This woman with breasts, and full lips, and platinum hair was forced to be housed with men. Safety issue, much?

This world—this world is full of different people and different experiences and one blanket law protects no one.  This world needs to catch the hell up.

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