You have probably heard about this. I mean, Melissa Nelson, a female dental assistant was fired after ten years because her boss believed that she was “irresistible” and that an affair with her was inevitable down the road.
First of all, let me just talk about this generally. I’ve said: “Damn, girl, nobody’s going to be able to keep their hands off of you!” It’s often a prophesy that I fulfill myself, because I am very handsy with my friends when I’m drunk. Truth be told, I’m not exactly prim and proper when I’m sober.
Shocking, I know.
I do not, however, literally mean that anyone’s appearance or attire will somehow release this siren song or Poison Ivy (from comics, not botany) pheromone that shuts down someone’s prefrontal cortex and lets the amygdala run wild.
It’s an expression, you guys.
Unless you are Phineas Gage*, you can probably moderate your social behavior enough to not have an affair with a coworker, now matter how “irresistible” you deem her to be.
At the risk of sounding like an alarmist, claiming that a woman is so irresistible that you cannot imagine yourself not eventually having sex with her sounds rapey. It’s not the same thing, but, logically, it’s a few steps away from “but look at how she was dressed,” or “she was asking for it.” Because, let us not forget, this is not a coworker of his who is pressuring him to sleep with her. This entire “inevitable affair” scenario exists solely in his mind. The whole “it takes two to tango” thing applies here—otherwise it’s rape. Unless the dentist in …