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Stories From the Ivy Halls: College Students Stop Their Female Friends From Having Drunken Hook-Ups

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photo of a girl helping a drunk friend

If I read one more “study” telling me something that is essentially common knowledge … well … I guess that cliff is still there?

A new study, aptly entitled Friends Don’t Let Jane Hook Up Drunk: A Qualitative Analysis of Participation in a Simulation of College Drinking-Related Decisions, has come to the utterly shocking conclusion that “college students are less likely to let their female friends engage in risky sexual behavior after a night of drinking alcohol.”

The study highlights “three distinct communication strategies” that college students use to prevent their friends from going home with strange men: “highlighting the regret associated with the situation,” (aka, telling her that she doesn’t want have a bad rep on Monday!), using “trickery or deception” because …

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Men’s Health Wants to Teach Guys the Fine Art of the “Bedroom Burrito”

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If you are hooking up with someone that reads Men’s Health magazine, be alarmed — very, very alarmed.  And not just because their magazine is notoriously misogynistic but because — brace yourselves — they are now offering a list of  ”33 Simple Sex Tips to Turn Her On.” And on a side note, is anyone else as perplexed as I am why they stopped at an odd number like 33?  Were they too lazy to get to 35 or was it a lack of creativity?  Regardless, the list is fantastic in a really horrible way. Their 33 “tips” are so completely:

1. Misogynistic

2. Ridiculous

3. Hilarious

This article may have been one of the most unintentionally side-splitting reads of my LIFE — iIt ranks right up there with the outdated Sex Ed. pamphlet I was given at age 11 by my polyester-pant-loving gym teacher.  The one that warned of what the “sinful” masturbation habit can become and the evils of sleeping around.  Yep.  That guy.

I’m going to place the most asinine tips (which were tough to narrow because they were all pretty terrible) in the following categories:

Terribly Stupid Advice and Terribly Misogynistic advice. Let’s start with the stupid, shall we?

Topping off this list is Tip #1: Buy Her a Silk Thong

A gift of lingerie is clichéd, right? So twist it. Give it to her when you (seemingly) don’t expect sex right then and there. Pass it under the table at a restaurant and ask her to go to the ladies’ room and change into it. “It’s a little naughty, but she has a chance to play back,” says Joy Davidson, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in Seattle. Not recommended for a first date.

Really, Men’s Health, this is the tip you choose to open your ridiculous list with? Silk panties! First off, I am offended by your lack of out of the box thinking (no pun intended … OK, you caught me; pun intended) and more importantly, the stupidity behind this tip.   Are we living in a poorly lit soft-core porn flick?

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‘Grindr 2.0′ Developed for the Heterosexual Market – But Will it Work?

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Grindr, the phenomenally successful iPhone app that allows gay men to locate one another using GPS technology, has this week announced plans for the release of a version of the app aimed at heterosexuals.

The application, which we’ve looked at before here on Zelda Lily, promises to help users ‘Find gay, bi, curious guys for free near you!’, was launched in 2009. Here in the UK, it enjoyed a relatively modest uptake initially –- that is, until Stephen Fry showed it to Jeremy Clarkson on Top Gear. In the week following this, 40,000 men downloaded the application — and numbers have continued to grow ever since. Currently over 700,000 men use Grindr, with another 2,000 downloading it every day.

Grindr is the invention of Joel Simkhai, an American economics graduate. With the help of a Danish app developer and a friend who was an expert in branding and design, it took him six months to develop the application. Simkhai claims the application is about ‘Finding guys. Being among your peers. Socialising.’ And this philosophy is something he’s keen to expand upon –- after all, socialising and being amongst your peers is not something that appeals exclusively to homosexuals .

Simkhai himself says, of launching a straight version of Grindr:

‘This notion of: Who is around me? Who is in this room now? Who else is like me? This is not just a gay thing. Gay men don’t have the monopoly on loneliness and isolation.’

Some take the view that the philosophy behind Grindr, and the way the app works, is a genuine solution to problems with ‘traditional’ online dating. I can see how Grindr could be seen to take away the problems of missed connections, or combat fear …

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