Why Are We Obsessed With The Female Sex?

Well, it’s been a while. Lately, I’ve been watching the Showtime series “Masters of Sex” in which they follow the lives of William Masters and Virginia Johnson. Masters and Johnson wrote the book on sex. No, really, they did.

But the interesting part is in the show, Masters’ wife, Libby, is a pretty blonde ‘Madonna’ character. They sleep in separate beds, they don’t talk about his sex study, she tries to masturbate in front of him to arouse him and he stops her saying, “I love you too much”. So, he loves her too much to see her as a sexual being but he fantasizes about Johnson who is a sexually progressive woman.

Johnson is a dark haired (cause blonde is good and dark is dirty) woman who is all about telling a man what she wants, casual, easy sex, and she doesn’t blush when she says “penis”. Masters dreams of her but married Libby. It’s the Madonna/Whore played out. Why is a woman’s sexuality such a big deal? Why does it matter if you’re a prude or a slut or somewhere in-between? Women put such a heavy emphasis on this…because men do.

It dates all the way back to biblical times. A woman couldn’t be “ruined”. I’d been dancing around this Madonna/Whore thing since watching this show but haven’t had time to rant about it. It was kicked into overdrive when I read about a Saudi Arabian preacher who raped and tortured his 5-year-old daughter to death and was sentence to 500 lashings, paying some blood money to the mother and 8 years in prison.

He said he did it because he “doubted her virginity”. He doubted a 5 year old’s virginity. Now, I know this is Islam and you could make the argument that women are treated like dirt in Islam…but this isn’t a one-time occurrence. Women are often raped because they’re whores and they probably wanted it. Or because they drank, or wore a short skirt, because our “purity” is called into question so men can do as they please. Women do it to each other. She’s a whore she doesn’t have feelings. Or she’s too pretty to be nice. She’s more comfortable with men…she must’ve slept with all of them. Who cares? Why are we so interested in what women do in their bedrooms?

Sexuality is no one’s business. It’s not a toy for someone to play with. It’s not a measurement for someone’s worth, it’s not even part of someone’s personality. What I do in my bedroom has nothing to do with what I do outside of it. What is this obsession we have with female sex?



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Life Isn’t Like Mad Men

I love ‘Mad Men’. Not as of late. I feel that Don Draper is really predictable and not the complicated existential dilemma he should be. But Joan, Peggy, even Betty…I’m a big fan of the 1950’s style. In fact my style icons are Hepburn (Audrey not Katherine), Monroe, Bardot. Women of the 50’s just knew how to look.

Having said that I would never say “I love the 1950’s” or “I wish I had been born in the 1950’s” My heart isn’t even there. Great style and movies sure, but what a horrible time! I didn’t realize this until today…but it really bothers me when women say things like that. “Oh, I wish it were back in the 50’s” NO YOU DO NOT! It ain’t all Mad Men. You would not be “the Joan”. You would be “the Megan”.

I don’t know why we forget how horrible it was for women. If you were beaten, you dealt with it. It was probably your fault. You want to work? How are you going to get dinner on the table by 5 and mind the children you have to have? You have an opinion? No you don’t. Why? WHY would women ever think they would enjoy that?

Women have it pretty rough in 2013, imagine what it was like in 1953. These recent protests of women taking to the street telling the government to get out of their vagina? Well, only sluts would need abortions and only indecent women would talk about or support it. It’s best you die in a back alley from a botched hanger job. Really, women…get it the F together. A pretty dress and nice handbag does not mean a good life.



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One Nation, Under Celebrity

A few years ago, when Tina Fey was still on Weekend Update, she did a story about how the education secretary was doing a study on why girls weren’t pursuing careers in math and science. Tina Fey responded with, “Why?” she stood up and continued, “When you got an ass like this you don’t hide it in a lab.”

Now, it’s a joke…and a damn funny one…but when I saw it as a gif on tumblr, I realized how true it is. Where most countries and cultures value succeeding in business and academia…America seems to value succeeding in being vapid.

We don’t care that we’re last among developed countries for education and healthcare, or that most high school students can’t located a foreign country on a map. As long as they look good and can tell you the full name of the newest Kardashian baby….they’re on the right path.

Our government shut down. The House Republican’s held us hostage because of their temper tantrum over ‘Obamacare’ and so 19,000 kids couldn’t go to head start, NASA can’t tell us if an asteroid is headed toward Earth, but their six figure salaries are getting paid and do you know what was trending on Twitter while this was going on? I’ll tell you because social media is my day job:
Congress
New York
#governmentshutdown
#SoundCloud
#music
#momtexts
Chicago
#shutdown
Netflix
Target

I scrolled 3 hours back under the #governementshutdown hashtag and didn’t find a single non news corporation tweet. People just aren’t talking about it. #Obamacare hashtag is snarky jokes mostly by second-rate celebs. Why isn’t there a real conversation on this? This is serious. When Australia had a government shut down the Queen fired parliament. We make jokes?

Why don’t we value information? Why do we buy into this b.s? Why don’t we call these assholes on their lies and manipulations? Why don’t we stand up and say, “You are not making another dime until you put on your big boy pants and fix this mess”? Why? Oh, I know…because Kim Kardashian went out in a really ugly dress and we need to discuss that.



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Girls at Comic-Con…DO BETTER!

I recently returned from Comic-con. This is not about a “woman’s place” at the con…this is about how women need to learn to value themselves at the con. There have been several articles discussing how sexist the comic/action world is. Yeah, it is—but that doesn’t mean that women need to play into it, and that’s what I saw this weekend.

Women dressed up as Wonder Woman—but not in a Wonder Woman costume—in a bikini. A reporter interviewed girls on the street dressed as “slave Leia” and I’m not really sure what the others were trying to be…one was a slutty pirate the other a furry monster…but those aren’t comic characters so what are you doing? But when he asked “Leia” “what’s the difference between a nerd and a geek?” another girl responded “I’d do them both”. Why? Why would that be your answer?

Why would you choose to demean yourself? Are you that needy? This is Comic-con—you could wear a moo-moo and guy’s heads would still turn. Why must you blatantly say “I need to be seen as sexual”? You don’t’ need it. You don’t. You are sexual. You are beautiful why must you have men dressed as Spider-Man confirm that for you?

This is why men get away with keeping the female role weak. This is why men write articles about girls not having a place at the con.

Tony Harris who’s big in the con world went on a rant a while back. Here’s a taste:

“I know a few who are actually pretty cool-and BIG Shocker, love and read Comics.So as in all things, they are the exception to the rule. Heres the statement I wanna make, based on THE RULE: “Hey! Quasi-Pretty-NOT-Hot-Girl, you are more pathetic than the REAL Nerds, who YOU secretly think are REALLY PATHETIC. But we are onto you. Some of us are aware that you are ever so average on an everyday basis. But you have a couple of things going your way. You are willing to become almost completely Naked in public, and yer either skinny( Well, some or most of you, THINK you are ) or you have Big Boobies. Notice I didnt say GREAT Boobies? You are what I refer to as “CON-HOT”. Well not by my estimation, but according to a LOT of average Comic Book Fans who either RARELY speak to, or NEVER speak to girls. Some Virgins, ALL unconfident when it comes to girls, and the ONE thing they all have in common? The are being preyed on by YOU. You have this really awful need for attention, for people to tell you your pretty, or Hot, and the thought of guys pleasuring themselves to the memory of you hanging on them with your glossy open lips, promising them the Moon and the Stars of pleasure, just makes your head vibrate. After many years of watching this shit go down every 3 seconds around or in front of my booth or table at ANY given Con in the country, I put this together. Well not just me. We are LEGION. And here it is, THE REASON WHY ALL THAT, sickens us: BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT COMICS, BEYOND WHATEVER GOOGLE IMAGE SEARCH YOU DID TO GET REF ON THE MOST MAINSTREAM CHARACTER WITH THE MOST REVEALING COSTUME EVER. And also, if ANY of these guys that you hang on tried to talk to you out of that Con? You wouldnt give them the fucking time of day. Shut up you damned liar, no you would not. Lying, Liar Face. Yer not Comics. Your just the thing that all the Comic Book, AND mainstream press flock to at Cons. And the real reason for the Con, and the damned costumes yer parading around in? That would be Comic Book Artists, and Comic Book Writers who make all that shit up.”

Is he so wrong? I’m a “fan girl” I love comics and superheroes and anyone that knows me would call me a nerd & socially awkward and this year I went to Comic-con for the first time because of work. I never went before because I knew this was not my crowd. This was a commercialized version of my crowd…Glee is at Comic-con….HIMYM was at Comic-con. This is a whoring out…so I guess the girls I saw this weekend were kind of fitting.

Yeah, I’m a feminist that just called girls that walk on the street in a slave costume and answer “I’d do both” on camera whores. You are selling your sexuality…stop it. You’re better than that.



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