Possible Link Between Childhood Spanking and Mental Illness?

Cartoon of Dennis the Menace Being Spanked
According to the medical journal Pediatrics, there appears to be a link between childhood spanking and adult mental illness … or at least that’s the headline making the rounds.  (And, in case you can’t tell from my tone here, I’m calling shenanigans on this one)

From Yahoo:

Researchers examined data from more than 34,000 adults and found that being spanked significantly increased the risk of developing mental health issues as adults. According to their results, corporal punishment is associated with mood disorders, including depression and anxiety, as well as personality disorders and alcohol and drug abuse. They estimate that as much as 7 percent of adult mental illness may be attributable to childhood physical punishment, including slapping, shoving, grabbing, and hitting.

I guess my concern is, what exactly is the definition of “spanking” we’re working with here?

I know very few adults, both in my age group and on either end of it, that were not spanked as children at one point or another.  I personally was spanked pretty consistently (which should probably have demonstrated to my parents how ineffective beating on your kid’s butt is as punishment, but that’s a different story), and I don’t think being spanked as a child had any impact on the adult I am whatsoever.

When you get into the stuff that goes beyond spanking, though, the punching and the kicking and the throwing down stairs and smashing little kids into walls, I’m sure the correlation exists.  It’s just the way the reporting out of the study is spun in terms of its title that pisses me off, I guess.

And the fact that it’s pretty much an outrageous attempt to control parenting.

Before I go any further, I feel like I need to state that I have never spanked either of my children.  This has nothing to do with any sort of noble mindset or belief that it’ll screw them up or anything, but more because I have found that either logical consequences (you hit a kid with a baseball bat, so we’re canceling your birthday party) or revoking privileges are far more effective.  I mean, if she thinks her iPhone is at stake, my older daughter will do pretty much anything I ask.

The thing is, though, establishing the idea of logical consequences and revoking privileges is something that needs to be started at …

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Mom’s Mad That Teacher Taped Teen Daughter’s Mouth Shut

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I always rolled my eyes when my mother started the, “Back when I was a kid …” spiel.  You know what I mean, right?  “I had to walk two miles to school in snowstorms.  Uphill.”  “I had to eat everything that was put in front of me.”  “If I got anything less than an A on my report, my father would have killed me.”

The subject of school brought on a whole new list of woes from my mother.  Evidently if you were really bad, you got hit with a ruler by the teacher or, for especially bad offenses, the wooden paddle in the principal’s office.  My mother avoided these tidbits of corporal punishment doled out in loco parentis because she was a “good child”.

I was not.

By the time I was in school, the ruler and the paddle had given way …

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New Hampshire Killer Fails In Effort To Blame Mother For His “Insanity”

Photo of Christopher Gribble Testifying in his Murder Trial

In October of 2009, Kimberly Cates of New Hampshire’s Mont Vernon was savagely and senselessly murdered by a group of angry, antisocial adolescent boys.  Her daughter Jaimie was also stabbed and beaten but survived the attack.

Steven Spader was found guilty of first-degree murder last fall.  In light of Spader’s fate, his chief accomplice, Christopher Gribble, decided to go the “not guilty by reason of insanity” route … and failed miserably. 

Yup, Gribble, like Spader, was found guilty of first-degree murder (Judge Gillian Abramson actually said in court, “Infinity is not enough jail time for you”) … and deemed “sane”.

Sanity is an interesting concept, one that means different things to many people.  To me, anybody that cold-bloodedly kills someone else is completely insane—but that doesn’t mean the person should not be punished to the fullest extent of the law.

I mention this because one of Gribble’s tactics involved laying the blame for his “insanity” directly on the doorstep of his mother, sharing in court details of what he considered to be a “troubled” childhood and exposing fantasies he had about killing his mother, Tamara, who he claims abused him.

From WMUR:

[Gribble] at first declined to go into detail about his fantasies, smiling and saying he didn’t think his lawyers wanted him to get too specific while on camera. But when his lawyer pushed for detail, he obliged.

“Things like cutting little pieces of her off, little bit by bit,” he said. “Listening to her scream like I screamed. Telling her, ‘Hey! How’s it feel now?’”

According to Gribble, his mother’s overprotective and overbearing nature in raising him directly correlated to the killer he became … and therefore should allow him to get away with murder.

Yeah, freaking logical, right?

Tamara Gribble did admit in court to breaking a wooden spoon when she was hitting her son, but that it was a one shot deal and that she never again hit him.

Here’s the thing.  Corporal punishment is completely legal.  There’s a line, of course, and an argument could be made that breaking a spoon over your kid’s body is crossing it … but does it excuse a murder that was almost Mansonesque?

I was spanked as a child.  A lot, actually.  It has never once occurred to me to kill someone, like, seriously commit murder. 

This is a pale comparison, but I had a hard enough time holding onto my golden retriever, Puck, when she was euthanized at the age of fourteen so she wouldn’t have to die alone.  Watching a dog that I knew and loved pass away before my eyes was horrible, and it was the right thing to do (Puck was arthritic, incontinent, and starting to suffer) … the idea of causing the flame of a human life to extinguish is just unspeakable.

And Christopher Gribble took a human life.  He can blame his mother all he wants—mothers tend to make convenient targets in situations like this—but the fact is that many people walk this earth having endured far more than a broken wooden spoon that wouldn’t hurt a fly.

Judge Abramson was right … infinity is not long enough.



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