Awesome Grandma Has Had Enough Of Your Anti-Gay Rhetoric

You guys may have read this story a few weeks ago (and yes, I used the same picture as the previous article did, because it’s perfect).

A twenty-year-old young man (and Reddit user) came out to his conservative grandmother, and their relationship was stronger than any anti-gay leanings or beliefs that she might have previously held. For months, she was uncomfortable at her church because of the pastor’s strong anti-LGBT leanings.

A high school boy is gay and his family attends the same church as the grandmother in question, and his parents wrote a letter to the pastor asking him what to do. The pastor read the letter to the congregation (and outing someone is a dick move on its own, but especially in that context), and said that they would all work together to address the “problem.”

The grandmother of the Reddit poster (who is not related to the gay high schooler) stood up and said: “There are a lot of problems here, and him being gay is not one of them.” She apologized to the boy and walked out. She was later told that her taking a brave stand like that might help to give other unhappy members of the congregation the courage to voice their disapproval of the pastor’s anti-LGBT stances (or even possibly to leave for a different church, if I understand how church congregations operate).

That is such a sweet story. And that grandmother is brave. I mean, really. How many people hear people say awful things and don’t speak up? How much harder must it be to speak up in opposition to a person in a position of religious authority?

More and more people, families, and religious congregations are realizing that anti-gay legislation, prejudice, and stances are on the wrong (and losing) side of history. Better yet, many are realizing that that position is morally wrong.

I’ll admit that I may have some mixed feelings about Christian organizations shifting to be openly inclusive of the LGBT community. It’s not surprising, exactly—any culture or religion that lasts adapts to survive, and Christianity has certainly done so over the years.

Contrary to the beliefs of certain insane people on the fringes of the Religious Right, my being gay and my being Pagan does not mean that I go to bed each night fondly dreaming of the downfall of Christianity. I do like pluralism and I would like to see people look for religions other than the religion of their parents. And there is something to be said for religions that were already fine with gays to start with as opposed to religious bodies that are just recently coming around to gays (and sometimes out of self-preservation).

That said, I want to live in a world in which anyone who is LGBT (or straight, obviously) has no conflict between his or her family, religious path, and sexual orientation. There is enough suffering in the world without religion, which should be a source of strength and peace, becoming an instrument of shame, doubt, and self-loathing.


PS: I said “anti-gay” rather than “homophobic” because “anti-gay” seems more accurate. A lot of us are accustomed to using the terms interchangeably, but they do mean different things. “I don’t want a gay roommate or gay guys using the same gym or bathroom,” sounds pretty homophobic. People who freak out when they realize that they’re at a party with a bunch of gay guys are homophobic. Anti-gay is a personal, religious, or political stance against gay people, gay sex, or gay rights (or, more generally, LGBT people, the sex that they may or may not have, and the rights which they possess which may or may not be protected under the law). Anti-gay sentiment and homophobia may frequently accompany the same people, but not always, and the terms have distinct meanings. Someone could have anti-gay beliefs and have no instinctive fear or unease around gay people, while someone could support gay rights in theory while being very uncomfortable around the LGBT community.

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The Ex-Benedict

Let me start this post by saying I am not Catholic and I do not mean to offend any Catholics with this post—I have studied Catholicism so I am not completely ignorant on the topic. With this said, again, I intend no offense this is satire, this is opinion, this is jest. This is not fact this is my stance on it.

Pope Benedict XVI announced that he will be resigning as Pope. This is the first time a Pope has stepped down in almost 500 years. Pope Benedict XVI is eighty-five-years-old and I can see why he would feel tired and not quite up to the job. I mean, you can start collecting social security in the United States at age sixty-five. I think the average retirement age is around sixty-five/seventy. This guy’s fifteen years passed that…he’s tired I get it.

My problem with the Pope stepping down is I didn’t realize this was a job you could quit. Again, I am not Catholic—this impacts me in no way but I think it’s making a pretty big statement. The Pope’s official statement was:

“As you know, I have decided to renounce the ministry that the Lord gave to me on April 19, 2005,I did this in full liberty for the good of the church.”

Hang on, hold the phone—the Lord gave you this job? God handed this mission, this position, this title to you and you are saying “no thanks?” Can you do that? I don’t think so…I’m pretty sure if God says do this…you do it. But again, I’m not Catholic maybe it works differently in the Catholic church—maybe you get to pick and choose what you listen to when God talks.

Maybe it was too much to deal with: delivering mass, dealing with moving pedophiles around, dealing with those pictures of him the SS uniform, Twitter. I mean that’s a lot for an eighty-five year old he probably just wants to chill out and catch up on Breaking Bad like the rest of us. I doubt he’s even gotten a chance to start House of Cards it’s not fair to ask him to fulfill the role that God gave him. God just asked too much.
Well, it’s been swell Pope Benedict XVI but I guess the swellings gone down. Hopefully, the church will elect…I mean…God will choose a younger Pope with a more progressive stance on women, contraceptive, homosexuality, hashtags and the like. Only time… I mean God…will tell.

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God Wants You to Choose the Edifi Tablet

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I have a pretty eclectic collection of apps on my iPhone, ranging from a pedometer to Domino’s Pizza (which probably explains the need for a pedometer) to Walgreens (who knew you could refill a prescription simply by taking a picture of the barcode?) to a graphing calculator to … well, you get the idea.

The idea that there’s a Bible application, however, would never have occurred to me had I not heard about Edifi, an Android-based tablet that will hopefully “spread God’s word through a tablet”, according to Brian Honorable of Family Christian, the company behind the Edifi.

Family Christian is evidently trying to address the “inevitable intersection of technology and religion.”

Hmm …

Just for kicks and giggles, I searched “Bible” in my iPhone’s App Store, and there were scores of free downloads (and, for .99, I could go for the “Daily Audio Bible” should I so desire).

So why would anyone, even the most devout of Christians, opt for the Edifi, which sells for around $150 and is designed to be similar to Amazon’s Kindle Fire, when there are so many varieties of tablets?

From Fox News:

The Christian tablet is more than just an e-reader. It also comes with movie-watching capabilities, Christian radio stations, and even a web browser with built-in “safe search,” so the tablet is safe for the whole family. “We put that on there just in case it was given as a gift to a child, so they wouldn’t have access to things they shouldn’t have access to,” said Honorable. “We definitely had to tailor it to our customers.”

Ah, so there’s the crux of it. Basically, religious radicals are accepting that technology can’t be ignored forever, particularly by teens and tweens, so here’s a great way to control the situation, to micromanage the message that people are hearing in the hopes that they …

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Warren Jeffs, Clearly Not “The Prophet”, Underscores the Continued Need for Feminism

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It’s comforting to think that polygamy and the cruel, inhumane treatment of women in the name of God is something that only happens in hardline Muslim countries where female children are married off, often for a high price paid to their fathers, to rich sexual deviants who collect them like playthings for harems.

Yeah, it happens here in the good old United States, too.

The silver lining here, of course, is that sometimes the bad guy gets caught, as in the recent sentencing of Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints head Warren Jeffs to life in prison.

Jeffs, who evidently fathered a fifteen-year-old girl’s baby and stood accused of sexually assaulting seemingly countless young girls, argued that he was being persecuted for his religious beliefs.

Hmm, yes, because pedophilia is evidently church-sanctioned in his warped mind (I thought that was just a Vatican thing …).

From Fox News:

The Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, a radical offshoot of mainstream Mormonism that believes polygamy brings exaltation in heaven, has more than 10,000 followers who …

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