Book Review: Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide

 

Reading Half the Sky by Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn is an intensely sobering experience. Meena, a sex slave in India, had such a horrendous life that I doubt anyone could make this up. Minds don’t seem dark enough for the atrocities the book speaks of, and yet they still occurred  The very idea that we still have slaves today (or pirates, or anything that seems out of my old 8th grade History book) seems laughable. However, the United Nations estimates that there are about 12.3 million enslaved people today. Among them are one million enslaved children in Asia.

Women who are forced into prostitution are rather an epitome of heartbreak for women-kind. As the opening quote of Chapter One states, “Women might just have something to contribute to civilization other than their vaginas.” When I first read this quote, I thought “haha, that’s witty because it is so obviously true.” However, for Meena, this was the not the case of her entire young life.

My mind draws a parallel between these women locked away in brothels to women in America who suffer domestic abuse. In my work at the National Suicide Hotline, I was not allowed to call the police about domestic abuse. If I did call it is likely that the police would go to the residence, but the woman would lie and protect her abuser, and when the police left the abuser could beat up his victim again for getting him in trouble. This seems so similar to the women in forced prostitution because even though they do not want to be in their situation, they may stay out of fear for their children or lack of outside support. Attempts to leave will usually result in beatings or death.

The section in the book that focused on Cambodia left me feeling like I should be donating money in order for more young women to not have to enter sex trafficking. There are children in Cambodia that drop out of school in order to make two dollars a day to support their families! This makes me sadder than the Sarah Mclachlan commercials.

Half the Sky says that people become slaves because other people see these slaves as lesser humans. They are from supposed lesser cultures, classes, castes, and other countries. Those deemed as “less” can be used for money and pleasure of the greater person. This is ethnocentrism at it’s worst.

I could go on for days, lamenting other countries and the horrors of the world- but prior to opening Half the Sky, I had no knowledge of sex trafficking. My largest encounter with this topic was probably a viewing of the Liam Neeson film Taken. My thoughts inspired by this film were mostly 1) I wish I had a badass dad 2) don’t travel oversees without a man and 3) virgins really don’t die in movies, do they? Guess it isn’t really the same scenario when you are a twelve year old impoverished Cambodian virgin that has been sold into sex slavery.

Half the Sky is sensational, gut-wrenching, and mind-blowing. It has spawned fundraising, a documentary, a movement, and even a Facebook game. Pick your poison.



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‘How To Be A Woman’ By Caitlin Moran

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When Nora Ephron passed away, I was devastated. I didn’t know her, but I really, really wanted to. I guess I felt like I did know her in a way that we were in the same club … female writers. I felt a great loss when Nora Ephron passed away, and I felt like there was a hole in our club. Then I found Caitlin Moran. I instantly took a liking to Moran and her take on feminism.

Moran, who proudly says she’s a “strident feminist,” has come up with a very simple way to help women who are on the fence about being a feminist: “Here,” Moran says, “is the quick way of working out if you’re a feminist. Put your hand in your underpants. a) Do you have a vagina? and b) Do you want to be in charge of it?” If you said “yes” to both questions, Moran says, “Then congratulations! You’re a feminist.”

That’s how Moran writes her collection of essays newly published here in the states called, How To Be a Woman. It’s already a best seller in her native England, and it’s poised to take the top spot here in America as well. Generally, America is somewhat late to the self-deprecating-dry humor train but we’re getting there, thank God.

I’m a big fan of Moran for her honest, brave and funny take on herself. As Moran says, “I do not look very feminine. Diana, Princess of Wales is feminine … I am … femi-none.”

I also relate to Moran, as one of my first pieces for Zelda Lily I talked about having to “de-fur.” Moran has an essay called, “I Become Furry!” where she recounts the momentous occasion of growing pubic hair; she then uses that memory to reflect on what she calls “pube disapproval.” She says, “I can’t believe we’ve got to a point where it’s basically costing us money to have a vagina. They’re making us pay for maintenance and upkeep of our lulus, like they’re a communal garden. It’s a stealth tax. … This is money we should be spending on THE ELECTRICITY BILL and CHEESE and BERETS …”

Stop reading this article (but come back to finish the rest of the page) and go get “How To Be a Woman” by Caitlin Moran. I promise you will not be disappointed.



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Five Shades of Misogyny in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

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As soon as I heard about E.L. James’ Fifty Shades of Grey, I knew I’d probably end up reading it.  I tend to go to the those “bandwagon books” (The Hunger Games, The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo, and so on) kicking and screaming, but I’m somehow always convinced to read them.

I bought Fifty Shades of Grey when I went into the town bookstore to get a book for one of my students.  I’d heard about it, of course, and figured it was as good a time as any to read it.  I read that book with a mixture of fascination and disgust, and I’m pretty sure my family was disgusted with me.  I kept commenting on how skeeved out I was by it, and my mother would say, “Then why the hell are you still reading it?”

And then I lost all credibility when I got the subsequent books (Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed) on my Nook.  Why, you might ask, if I was not exactly enjoying the experience?  Well, I wanted to know what happened.

Which is really stupid if you think about it; after all, I’ve read the Twilight books, and Fifty Shades began life as Twilight fanfiction.  What that means, just so you know, is that you can do this:

Twilight/Fifty Shades of Grey is the story of an innocent young woman named Bella Swann/Anastasia Steele who somehow attracts the attention of a gorgeous, rich young man named Edward Cullen/Christian Grey who lives with his adoptive family.  Edward/Christian is not as perfect as he appears, though; there is something about him that could be potentially fatal to Bella/Ana: he is a vampire/obsessed with S&M.  There are several twists and turns, of course (notably Bella’s/Ana’s longtime friend, Jacob/Jose, who develops romantic feelings for her that lead to awkwardness with Edward/Christian), but they ultimately end up together after Bella/Ana changes herself to become a true part of Edward’s/Christian’s dark world, and they all live happily every after.

But that isn’t really my problem … I mean, to some degree, you can do that with many stories.  As one of my wise English professors once said, “There are only five original stories in the world.  The rest is in the details.”  And, to be fair, this book was never billed as fine literature.

Nope, my beef with Fifty Shades is the misogyny present therein.  A small sampling …

1.  A woman should not have to change herself to fit into the idea of a man’s perfection.

I’m not talking about the S&M so much, either.

Ana is chastised repeatedly for going out with her friends without Christian’s …

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The Conflict: How Modern Motherhood Undermines The Status of Women Book Review

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Elisabeth Badinter has written a new book called The Conflict: How Modern Motherhood Undermines The Status of Women, and it’s intriguing. The book’s title seems a bit harsh, but when you talk to Elisabeth and hear her side of things, it’s actually not as bad as it would suggest. We all know that a catchy title is a marketing ploy more than an actual representation of the story inside, anyway—in short, don’t judge a book by the cover. We’ve all probably learned this lesson in some way, shape, or form by now.

In the book, Elisabeth takes issue with someone becoming a mother and then automatically taking a backseat to her own children. In my opinion, that’s what motherhood is: you start to live for your child. Having a baby is an amazing responsibility and it’s a 24/7 job, so it’s only natural that you would give all of yourself to this all-consuming being. Right? No—not according to Elisabeth Badinter.

In her book, she talks about how a working mother is looked down upon for not spending time with her children, and if they’re not there for them, there’s massive anxiety and guilt. Now, I don’t have children but I have two “fur babies” and I work a full-time job and sometimes I look at them and think, “I’m a bad pet parent to you guys, I’m never here,” so I can only imagine what it’s like to have that resonating feeling when it comes to rearing a child. Elisabeth, however, is telling women “you’re a human too, you also have needs and that’s okay.” It’s a very healthy way to look at motherhood.

Badinter’s book is telling women that you can be both a mother and a person, that you don’t have to give up everything, and that’s it’s okay to take some time for you. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind (yes, I rely heavily on advice from 80′s songs) and that’s apparently what Elisabeth is doing with her new book. It’s a harsh wake-up call telling women that they aren’t bad parents if they take time for themselves, because in fact you’ll be a better-balanced role model for your children in the long run. Isn’t that what it’s all about in the end, anyway?



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