Mom Chronicles 7-Year-Old Daughter’s “Obesity” Battle in Vogue

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Let’s talk about fat, shall we?  In fact, let’s just throw caution to the wind and talk about the potential damage parents can do to their children in the name of curtailing the national trend toward childhood obesity.

Or we could just talk about what a crazy bitch Dara-Lynn Weiss, who recently wrote a piece for Vogue focused on the alleged need for her 7-year-old daughter’s need to lose weight, is.

Incidentally, her daughter Bea was 4’4” and weighed 93 pounds.  She is now sixteen pounds lighter.

And, in case I haven’t already mentioned it, seven.

According to Weiss, Bea’s diet was recommended by her pediatrician, who felt that “she was clinically obese and could be at risk for high blood pressure, cholesterol, and diabetes.”

Just for shits and giggles, I put Bea’s stats into the BMI calculator at the National Heart Lung Institute.  It came out as normal. While, to be completely fair, the CDC has a pediatric BMI calculator that does classify Bea as “overweight” considering her age, I think there’s more than meets the eye here.

To wit, here’s what Weiss had to say about Bea’s dietary habits … and her own actions undertaken as…

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Should Public Schools Be Teaching Life Skills, Empathy, and (Gulp) Morals?

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Tennessee’s Carter Middle School is taking curriculum-changing steps to address the needs of its students—and we’re not talking reading, writing, and arithmetic. Nope, this school has identified a disconcerting lack of empathy in its students and is intentionally tackling this in the classroom.

From Knox News:

‘We knew that our kids were missing something,’ said assistant principal Katye Clemmons. ‘When we would talk to them, it didn’t matter if they were high or low-achieving students, or came from a broken home or a great home, there was just something missing.’

The missing piece became evident when Clemmons, Principal Michael Derrick, guidance counselor Tracy Cagle, school counselor Lori Miller, and teachers Jessica Smith, Chris Smith and Nathan Hone attended a Positive Behavior Conference in Nashville last spring.

‘When they started talking about Why Try, we just looked at each other and thought, ‘This is it!’ Why Try gives you a language, it has pictures that goes with it, it’s very kid-friendly, and every kid in the spectrum can relate to it in some way.’

Apathy is an increasing problem in a generation of kids that get instant gratification (or dire consequences, which is an interesting gamut when you think about it) on the computer screen or through possession of the latest cell phone. If you have been provided with the finer things—because this is, after all, the rat race that American children and their parents …

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Revisiting the Fat vs. Thin Debate

Weight and clothing size seem to be issues that we cannot get away from, both here on Zelda Lily and in reality. Looking back through recent posts — and reading the intelligent and well thought-out comments provided by you — gives a lot of food for thought, but very few hard and fast conclusions.

The sad truth is that, wherever on the spectrum she falls, almost every woman struggles with her weight. The spectrum extremes are morbidly obese through anorexic; both are medical terms since these two deadly conditions have detrimental effects that should be avoided at all costs.

Thankfully, most women fall elsewhere on the spectrum. It’s a good thing, too, since being too far over on either end of the weight loss spectrum puts you at serious risk for a variety of dangerous medical conditions, and judgement from peers, both of which can result in ill effects for the person in question, like it or not.

Looking at this longtime debate from a feminist standpoint isn’t always easy. You don’t want to say, “Go sit on the couch watching TV and eating bonbons all day if that’s your prerogative,” and yet it is impossible to condone the fat-shaming that goes on in virtually all aspects of the media.

Last spring, for example, there was something of a blow-up between Lane Bryant and Victoria’s Secret. Lane Bryant, a plus-size clothing store (although they regularly use models that barely meet the “plus-size” threshold, perpetuating the idealism of the women selling their clothes, albeit on a larger scale), released an ad for a new bra that was refused by several news networks … news networks that were all too happy to air ads from Victoria’s Secret.

From Lane Bryant vs. Victoria’s Secret: No Winner:

Victoria’s Secret models are ridiculously skinny, and the message sent out by the company’s ads, shows, and catalogues is that this is how normal women should strive to look. It’s sickening! And the fact that networks are willing to allow Victoria’s Secret ads on the air but not Lane Bryant’s lingerie offerings is a completely unacceptable double standard.

The reason that this lingerie feud was declared a draw is because normal-sized, healthy women are by and large (haha) ignored. As numerous wise commenters pointed out, you can be a small clothing size but need a bigger bra size that isn’t targeted by Victoria’s Secret. You can be technically plus-sized but don’t look it, so you’re treated rudely by salespeople at both Lane Bryant and Abercrombie and Fitch.

Family-friendly retailer (and creator of a large portion of my wardrobe when I was in high school) The Gap is also playing a dangerous game with the recent ad tagline “Put some pants on, because we can’t all look good in shorts.”

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