It’s a common saying that “men are animals”. We say this when men cheat, when men act in a disgusting way, when men don’t control themselves. But lately I’ve been wondering if we do men a disservice by saying this.
We are all animals. We all come from the animal kingdom. We have evolved. I think it’s unfair to just say, “oh men are animals”. I think it gives them an excuse or a pass to behave badly. It’s like saying “they can’t do better.” But they most certainly can do better and many men do.
I have had the privilege of seeing both sides. I have suffered at the hands of men—I have seen the worst of men. For a long time I was scared because of what men did to me. I saw, what I thought was a great man, turn to a horrible man, I was lucky enough to have another great man pick up where that horrible man left off, and because of him I now I have seen a little boy grow into a man.
I’ve watched struggles and growth and pain and suffering and let me tell you—men are not animals. Men are humans. If you give anyone a pass to behave badly they will. If you give anyone the excuse to not try to exceed expectations—they won’t.
I’m sick of hearing people say, “that’s men for ya” or some form of that saying. Men—this country was built by great, flawed me. Some of the best books were written by genius men, discoveries were made, countries were grown, and children were raised. I would love to see an iguana do that—since men are just animals.
Men—like women, are subject to what is thought about them. If you think little of something or someone why would they ever strive to prove you wrong? Yet, if you look around you—every day men, like women, are fighting a battle for equal rights. The right to be a stay at home dad, the right to be a man even though women are leading the charge as bread winners, the right to be an equal partner, the right to be a feminist, the right to be more than an animal.