I’m A Human Being

I’ve had a lot of debates recently about rights. Equal rights. Civil rights. Something happened to me during these debates. An epiphany if you will. The problem most people are having when they say things like, “gays shouldn’t get married” or “women should be happy they have jobs and stop complaining” or “slavery ended how many years ago”? Whenever they say really offensive things about a group they are forgetting one thing.


They are forgetting the two things can exist simultaneously. I am not only a woman—I’m also a human being and I can be both of those things at the same time. I should not be treated any differently than anyone else because at the very basis of everything we are all human.


While I was having a discussion I had this epiphany: ‘this person is saying this because he is not viewing a minority as a human being he’s viewing them as a minority” it’s not a human who happens to be gay…its’ a gay. That’s it.


I think I may have solved this problem. If we could all take our heads out of our butts and remember that before we are anything else—we are human. And in being human we have feelings, rights, thoughts, and are owed respect. Let’s try that—just for a little while—and see what happens.

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I’m Done With Lindsay Lohan, We All Need To Be Done With Lindsay Lohan

There are all these stories about Lindsay Lohan admitting she’s an addict. Saying she only snorted cocaine so she could drink more. That she drank to cope. That she didn’t listen to her family when they said to move home. How she can make a come back and get her career back on track. Blah, blah, blah.

Here’s the problem I’m having with all of this. She’s not a good actress. She landed SNL, and the Canyons, and the other B.S she’s done lately because of her train wreck lifestyle. But she fails on screen. She has that very “Disney Actress” way of delivering her lines.

This again, is a testament to how we treat celebrity. We just wanted to watch her fall—no one is interested in her comeback. It’s not the nicest thing to admit but I don’t really care. She’s a sideshow. She a no talent, sideshow.

Is anyone really expecting a career from her? Really? She is not the Robert Downey Jr. of her generation—she is the Corey Feldman of her generation. We should all do the kind thing and stop paying any attention to her. Just let her fade into the darkness. We’d all be better off and so would she.

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Afraid to Look Smart?

I’ve always thought pin-up pictures, while pretty, were extremely awkward. Who stands like that? But even I can recognize the appeal to these positions. I never thought them to be sexiest in nature—I mean; I know cheesecake poses are for locker doors and bedroom walls…but I don’t know why it just never occurred to me that these poses make us look ridiculous.

It was just the sign of the times to me. The 1950’s were a ridiculous time. Naturally, models posed ridiculously. But with this influx of interest into the “vintage” eras these cheesecake poses are returning. You see it as Jessica Simpson poses in panties while Swifering on the cover of a magazine. That shot…I mean; all I see is legs and ass which is super flattering for women. It’s a flattering pose, right?

Then I saw this flikr post these poses are ridiculous. They are subservient. And no man would ever subject himself to this…unless it was to make a point. Look at them–these poses make no sense unless you’re highlighting tits and ass and showing that women are simple pretty little things available for your posing (molding).

This comes on the heels of the “Blurred Lines” video, Ashton Kutcher—a man that made millions playing dumb—saying smart is sexy, and another video featuring female sports reporters dancing around their studio and fumbling a football. What is it about women that we let our brains take a backseat to our boobs?

Why are we afraid to look smart? Maybe it’s because the smart girl is always depicted as “nerdy”. Ill-fitted clothes, big glasses, no make-up, no sex appeal. Guys, as dumb and crappy as Ashton Kutcher is–he’s not wrong–smart is sexy. It’s the sexiest you can be.

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Intersectional Feminism: Because Feminism Is For Everyone

(The above image is from this article, which I also recommend reading, though I disagree with the idea of rejecting a widespread movement and ideal because some people in it are detrimental to the cause or simply don’t seem to grasp what the cause is about)

Feminism is great. It’s about opposition to the social and cultural forces that cause so much injustice in our world. Pernicious patriarchal societal forces tell people what they should and should not be, how they should behave, and how they should interact and regard one another, with many roles determined purely by the biological sex of the individual.

In other words, some things are for men and some things are for women, and in 99.99% of those instances, these socially prescribed gender roles favor men. Men getting paid more and having more power, with the lives of women revolving around men.

That’s patriarchy. It’s absolutely gross. It’s not a conspiracy by a cabal of bearded old men who sit around contemplating whom and how to oppress in order to keep themselves in power. For the most part, the presence of the patriarchy in the modern world is just the product of thousands of years of human stupidity. And a lot of tradition is involved.

And there’s a lot to it. This cultural force has an awful lot to do with men controlling families and, specifically, controlling their wives and daughters (and children in general being regarded as property). The modern and very real effects of patriarchy range from slut-shaming to street harassment to the many layers of rape culture to the proportions of men and women being much less than representative in most professions. It impacts how people are expected (and even allowed) to dress. It impacts what classes students are encouraged to take in school or what arts they may feel open to pursuing.

What the patriarchy does best of all is probably double-standards.

It’s wonderful that feminism exists to, essentially, be the solution that dissolves the patriarchy. All joking aside, feminism is not about women being better than men, or about women taking over the world and ruling it. Though the jokes are quite entertaining.

Like I said, entertaining.

Here’s the thing—for the majority of the Twentieth Century, study in the West of feminism (and, particularly, feminist movements) had to do with Western women. It had to do with white women. It had to do with straight women. And it had to do with cisgender women. Which is all great, if you’re a Western white straight woman whose female gender identity and expression happen to match up with female sex organs.

Not so great for, um, everyone else. In particular, women who are not white. If you point out that Third Wave feminism is noted for expanding the scope of the feminist movement to include Women of Color, LGBT women, and women from different social and economic backgrounds, then you’re right. But you should also consider that viewing feminism and the history of feminism from that perspective means that you are basically viewing feminism from a white/straight/cis perspective.

Unfortunately, as with a lot of LGBT Rights issues, sometimes a lot of important issues get overlooked when it comes to feminism—essentially, people who are campaigning for human rights and for social justice kind of forget to be inclusive. Sometimes, it’s a calculated PR campaign targeting an audience that may have a racial bias. And sometimes it’s an oversight.

If your feminism is not intersectional—if your idea of feminism does not consider and include people who are different from you—then you are not doing it right. I do not only say this because the demographic of “women” includes women of so many religions, ethnicities, nationalities, sexualities, body-types, and economic levels (though that should be reason enough). I say this because the patriarchal ideas of ownership and the ongoing fight for women to be recognized as peers and equals is very relevant to matters of racial equality and LGBT issues.

Unfortunately, while some people may not consciously view them as separate issues, some white feminists can neglect to include . . . well, everyone else . . . in their feminist promotions.

This article, regarding a topic on Twitter (#SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen), is really on-point (though it mostly just contains images of select tweets and a few editorial images).

Sometimes, you will see a promotional image or an image for an article about feminism discussing how feminists come from many different walks of life. The message loses some of its meaning when the image is of a bunch of white girls.

Sometimes, well-meaning feminists see religious garb worn by some women as oppressive. May the religion that gives a reason for a head-covering (I’m not speaking exclusively of Islam, here) be patriarchal in its origin and in many of its values? Absolutely. But being a feminist does not mean that you may not cover your hair, or your entire body—in fact, being a feminist does not need to impact any aspect of your appearance or what you do with your body, except that you should do it for you. A law requiring women to cover their heads? That is unjust. A woman wearing her own head-covering of her own volition, for any reason, is not a woman in need of rescuing.

Also, most uncomfortably of all, there is the White Savior idea. It’s the idea of a white person coming to the rescue of an oppressed racial minority. It’s a bizarre masturbatory, self-congratulatory aspect of white storytelling and it produces films like The Blind Side or The Help. You know, movies in which the message is “thank goodness that these black Americans had white ladies to fix their problems!”

Like I said: uncomfortable. It’s a problematic (and offensive) message.

Feminists should know better than most to be conscious of the privileges that they enjoy in society but others do not. That applies to straight feminists, cis feminists, wealthy feminists, and it certainly applies to white feminists.

Feminism is not just for any one group. Feminism wants to make the world a better place for everyone.

Feminism is for everyone.

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