Holla!

Have you heard of “Hollaback”? Not “Hollaback Girl” that awful Gwen Stefani song…but Hollaback! Organization? I hadn’t either…but damn, are they awesome. They aim to “take action against street harassment: don’t just walk on…Hollaback!”
According to their website: “The real motive of street harassment is intimidation. To make its target scared or uncomfortable, and to make the harasser feel powerful. But what if there was a simple way to take that power away by exposing it? You can now use your smartphone to do just that by documenting, mapping, and sharing incidents of street harassment. Join an entire community ready to Hollaback!”
Their mission is to: “end street harassment powered by a network of local activists around the world. We work together to better understand street harassment, to ignite public conversations, and to develop innovative strategies to ensure equal access to public spaces.”
To do this they take out ad campaigns on sidewalks, subways, street corners and it’s so cool. The ads say things like “Nice A** Is Not A Compliment”, “If You See It Happen, Have Her Back”, and “Hey Sexy Is Not A Compliment”.
I love this so hard. Really, I cannot count the number of times I’ve said into my cell phone, “Oh no oh no I don’t want to walk by these guys” or “Ugh, sorry some guys were making cat calls”. It doesn’t make me feel good it makes me feel vulnerable, distracted, and gross. I just want to walk to my destination without having to cower from booming voices whistling or saying, “Hey baby”. It’s a form of intimidation and it’s a form of subversion. I’m glad someone is taking a stand. Holla!



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I always find it entertaining (and more than a little bit disheartening) that people are so quick to read glaring headlines like “5 Things Wrecking Your Sex Life” because, let’s face it, most of it is either a) obvious, b) for the vast minority, or c) set up for shock value (a la the whole Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon).

So yeah, according to My Daily Moment, here are five areas of concern when it comes to snafus in your sex life.

1. Getting Grossed Out – Let’s face it – the human body doesn’t always produce the sexiest smells, areas of hair or secretions. If you flinch at the hint of a little B.O. down there, an untrimmed bikini line or the thought of bodily fluids touching you anywhere, you could be turning your partner off, or even worse, offending him or her.

There are a few ways you can overcome the “ick” factor – only have intercourse in or right after a shower, turn the lights off to avoid looking at things you don’t like and keep plenty of towels or tissues on hand for liquid mishaps.

So, basically, you should plan your sex life based on the shower?

And maybe I’m totally off-base here, but if you’re flinching at bodily fluids, you have bigger problems than your sex life.  And furthermore, isn’t implying that sex should be a lights-off activity sort of implying that there’s something wrong with your body?  I know a lot of women that hate having sex with the lights on because they have body image issues … way to reinforce this, Daily Moment!

2. Being Afraid to Experiment – Instead of laughing in his or her face the next time your partner suggests a sexy cowgirl getup or edible underwear, give it a try. You could find it silly, but it may increase the pleasure your partner experiences and rejecting him or her could kill the mood. Unless it’s something you morally object to or might cause you harm, go for it. Who knows — you might even discover that being “Nurse Betty” is your thing.

Before I met my current boyfriend, I met some very bizarre men on the dating circuit, which is kind of a tough playing field when you’re in your almost-mid-thirties.  One of them asked, on our first (and, needless to say, only) date, if he could pee on me during sex.  Now, getting peed on is not something I morally object to and it probably wouldn’t cause me harm … but I do find it disgusting.  According to this, maybe I should have given it a try??

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Putting the Kibosh on Dirty Dancing at School Dances … by Canceling Them

Ah, punishment, a word that brings up anecdotes, questions, and discussions on equity. It also, of course, leads to discussions on what might have caused bad behavior in the first place, as evidenced by a recent story out of Plaistow, New Hampshire, where Dirty Dancing became more than a film title and the entire student body was penalized for the actions of a few.

From WMUR:

A New Hampshire high school has canceled two dances over concerns that student dance moves are becoming too sexually suggestive.

Officials at Timberlane Regional High School in Plaistow say the spirit week and homecoming dances have been canceled. Principal Donald Woodworth tells The Eagle-Tribune that last year chaperones become uncomfortable when students started “grinding,” a form of dirty dancing…

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Jezebel posted a video of a filmmaker who wanted to test the theory that hot girls have it far easier than their frumpy, dowdy counterparts. She tested her hypothesis by going around asking if she could have things — bus rides, cab rides, drinks at a bar, fair rides, ice creams, etc. — for free. First, in a long drab skirt with her hair tied back and no make-up and then second with her hair done beautifully, her make-up perfect and her body glued into a tight short dress and cute little cardigan.

The results weren’t exactly shocking, but it seems as though the amateur anthropologist ignored one very, very large factor — how the change in clothes made her act or react.

As her “dowdy” self, she would sort of shuffle around, looking sad and ask for free stuff, which I’m guessing made a lot of people wonder if she wasn’t “on the dole,” as it were.

As her made-up self, she was flirtatious, giggly, sweet and charming. Sure, it helped that she was wearing tight clothes and make-up, but had she gone in with the same sad-sack demeanor, I think she …

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