Holla!

Have you heard of “Hollaback”? Not “Hollaback Girl” that awful Gwen Stefani song…but Hollaback! Organization? I hadn’t either…but damn, are they awesome. They aim to “take action against street harassment: don’t just walk on…Hollaback!”
According to their website: “The real motive of street harassment is intimidation. To make its target scared or uncomfortable, and to make the harasser feel powerful. But what if there was a simple way to take that power away by exposing it? You can now use your smartphone to do just that by documenting, mapping, and sharing incidents of street harassment. Join an entire community ready to Hollaback!”
Their mission is to: “end street harassment powered by a network of local activists around the world. We work together to better understand street harassment, to ignite public conversations, and to develop innovative strategies to ensure equal access to public spaces.”
To do this they take out ad campaigns on sidewalks, subways, street corners and it’s so cool. The ads say things like “Nice A** Is Not A Compliment”, “If You See It Happen, Have Her Back”, and “Hey Sexy Is Not A Compliment”.
I love this so hard. Really, I cannot count the number of times I’ve said into my cell phone, “Oh no oh no I don’t want to walk by these guys” or “Ugh, sorry some guys were making cat calls”. It doesn’t make me feel good it makes me feel vulnerable, distracted, and gross. I just want to walk to my destination without having to cower from booming voices whistling or saying, “Hey baby”. It’s a form of intimidation and it’s a form of subversion. I’m glad someone is taking a stand. Holla!



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Articles Intended to “Improve One’s Sex Life” Continue to be Asinine

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I always find it entertaining (and more than a little bit disheartening) that people are so quick to read glaring headlines like “5 Things Wrecking Your Sex Life” because, let’s face it, most of it is either a) obvious, b) for the vast minority, or c) set up for shock value (a la the whole Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon).

So yeah, according to My Daily Moment, here are five areas of concern when it comes to snafus in your sex life.

1. Getting Grossed Out – Let’s face it – the human body doesn’t always produce the sexiest smells, areas of hair or secretions. If you flinch at the hint of a little B.O. down there, an untrimmed bikini line or the thought of bodily fluids touching you anywhere, you could be turning your partner off, or even worse, offending him or her.

There are a few ways you can overcome the “ick” factor – only have intercourse in or right after a shower, turn the lights off to avoid looking at things you don’t like and keep plenty of towels or tissues on hand for liquid mishaps.

So, basically, you should plan your sex life based on the shower?

And maybe I’m totally off-base here, but if you’re flinching at bodily fluids, you have bigger problems than your sex life.  And furthermore, isn’t implying that sex should be a lights-off activity sort of implying that there’s something wrong with your body?  I know a lot of women that hate having sex with the lights on because they have body image issues … way to reinforce this, Daily Moment!

2. Being Afraid to Experiment – Instead of laughing in his or her face the next time your partner suggests a sexy cowgirl getup or edible underwear, give it a try. You could find it silly, but it may increase the pleasure your partner experiences and rejecting him or her could kill the mood. Unless it’s something you morally object to or might cause you harm, go for it. Who knows — you might even discover that being “Nurse Betty” is your thing.

Before I met my current boyfriend, I met some very bizarre men on the dating circuit, which is kind of a tough playing field when you’re in your almost-mid-thirties.  One of them asked, on our first (and, needless to say, only) date, if he could pee on me during sex.  Now, getting peed on is not something I morally object to and it probably wouldn’t cause me harm … but I do find it disgusting.  According to this, maybe I should have given it a try??

I also believe that, by implying the word “experimentation” in a sexual context involves things like cowgirl outfits and edible …

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Tweeters Taking on Facebook … Over Women’s Rights?

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Social networking is, whether we like it or not, a part of life.

The fact that things come up on the interwebs that are just morally repugnant … well, I’ve always written it off as kind of a necessary evil, a sort of “let’s laugh at the ignorant” kind of thing.

There’s a contingency on Tweeter, however, that seems to be taking matters into their own hands.

From Women’s ENews:

Thousands of people across the globe are joining a Twitter campaign asking Facebook to remove pages that promote rape and sexual assault, Change.org said in a Nov 3 press statement. The social media action is part of an ongoing campaign on Change.org with more than 180,000 supporters. People are locating offensive Facebook pages and tweeting them with the hashtag #notfunnyfacebook to pressure Facebook to remove pages that violate the company’s terms of service. One such page title reads, “What’s 10 inches and gets girls to have sex with me? My knife.”

While I have a kneejerk reaction to jump on this bandwagon (after all, I can see myself contemplating joining a group called, say, “Herman Cain is a Sexual Predator” or something), I have some obvious reservations.

The most significant concern this raises for me is, ironically, the Constitutional right to express your beliefs, an argument more commonly espoused by the radical right as it fits their needs.

Do you sound like a freaking moron if you, as a much-maligned high school principal did last year, join a Facebook group entitled “Dear Lord, This Year You Took My Favorite Actor, Patrick Swazie (sic). You Took My Favorite Actress Farah (sic) Fawcett. You Took My Favorite Singer, Michael Jackson. I Just Wanted to Let You Know, My Favorite President is Barack Obama. Amen”?

Absolutely.

Does the First Amendment allow you the legal freedom to show your ignorance, bigotry, and blatant disrespect?

Um … yes.

The fact is, there are Facebook pages that promote all sorts of horrible things, from pedophilia to violence against women to trash-talking the size of your ex’s penis (I wish I was joking on that one, and no, I’m not a member) to how to set up a casual hook-up.

Oh, and, uh … Twitter’s not exactly immune from this sort of thing itself, as Anthony Wiener could tell you.

I’m clearly a loser … Facebook pages I belong to are generally based in literature or Star Wars. (And, to be completely upfront, I have a Twitter, too, which I love as it offers far more anonymity than Facebook)

That being said, the nature of my profession necessitates that I hold much of my personal life back in the social networking world.  Even if I—as Katie Loud the human being, not the schoolteacher currently teaching your kids allegory through George Orwell’s Animal Farm—wanted to join an anti-Herman Cain Facebook page, I wouldn’t.

It’s a matter of respect.

So while I find a lot of these pages pretty hard to take, I pretty much keep myself to myself in terms of the me that exists on Facebook.  Even if I were not in a profession held to a higher standard than most, I would make a moral, personal choice to not be mean … that’s just not who I am.

Others certainly have the right to feel differently, and I’m glad that the Twitterphiles are speaking out about their concerns.  I even agree with the moral bottom line of their argument.

I am bothered by their choice to focus on sexual assault pages on Facebook to spearhead their attack.  I am very vocal on my feelings about sexual assault, but I’m also bothered when it’s used as a rallying cry to make a point that I’m not sure I agree with.

What are your thoughts on this one?



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Ashton Kutcher Hopes His New Film Will “Inspire” Ladies and their Lady Parts

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Hot on the heels of his revelation that texting is ruining modern romance, Ashton Kutcher is back once again to dispense the wisdom of love. According to the Toronto Sun, “Ashton Kutcher hopes that Natalie Portman’s role in his new romantic comedy No Strings Attached will inspire young …

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