I always find it entertaining (and more than a little bit disheartening) that people are so quick to read glaring headlines like “5 Things Wrecking Your Sex Life” because, let’s face it, most of it is either a) obvious, b) for the vast minority, or c) set up for shock value (a la the whole Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon).
So yeah, according to My Daily Moment, here are five areas of concern when it comes to snafus in your sex life.
1. Getting Grossed Out – Let’s face it – the human body doesn’t always produce the sexiest smells, areas of hair or secretions. If you flinch at the hint of a little B.O. down there, an untrimmed bikini line or the thought of bodily fluids touching you anywhere, you could be turning your partner off, or even worse, offending him or her.
There are a few ways you can overcome the “ick” factor – only have intercourse in or right after a shower, turn the lights off to avoid looking at things you don’t like and keep plenty of towels or tissues on hand for liquid mishaps.
So, basically, you should plan your sex life based on the shower?
And maybe I’m totally off-base here, but if you’re flinching at bodily fluids, you have bigger problems than your sex life. And furthermore, isn’t implying that sex should be a lights-off activity sort of implying that there’s something wrong with your body? I know a lot of women that hate having sex with the lights on because they have body image issues … way to reinforce this, Daily Moment!
2. Being Afraid to Experiment – Instead of laughing in his or her face the next time your partner suggests a sexy cowgirl getup or edible underwear, give it a try. You could find it silly, but it may increase the pleasure your partner experiences and rejecting him or her could kill the mood. Unless it’s something you morally object to or might cause you harm, go for it. Who knows — you might even discover that being “Nurse Betty” is your thing.
Before I met my current boyfriend, I met some very bizarre men on the dating circuit, which is kind of a tough playing field when you’re in your almost-mid-thirties. One of them asked, on our first (and, needless to say, only) date, if he could pee on me during sex. Now, getting peed on is not something I morally object to and it probably wouldn’t cause me harm … but I do find it disgusting. According to this, maybe I should have given it a try??
I also believe that, by implying the word “experimentation” in a sexual context involves things like cowgirl outfits and edible …