Yes, I’m Still Pissed At Robin Thicke

In case you’ve forgotten…the rapey-ist song ever is still at the top of the charts. Oh, and the douche that sings it was recently pictured putting his hand so far up a girl’s dress, while being photographed with her, that it looked like a proctology exam–I don’t think he asked before he did that.

But Mr. Thicke can get away with anything. He can get away with demeaning women and tweeting about it. He can say this song is a “feminist movement in itself” (yeah he said that), he can man handle women, he can blow smoke in their faces, he can parade them around naked and no one says “boo” because women are objects. Women are to be treated as toys. Women are to be demeaned. Women are to be tortured. Women are made to be taken advantage of. Right? Because that is what we are saying when we turn up “Blurred Lines” and allow Robin Thicke to make millions by turning what rapist tell their victims into “catchy lyrics”.

On the left side of this photo are the lyrics to “Blurred Lines” on the right are photos of rape victims holding up the words their rapists said to them as they violated them. Nice work Mr. Thicke…great job people of America for putting this at #1 with a bullet.

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What I Begrudgingly Admit As A Woman

We, the women of the feministic mindset, like to pretend we can do anything we set our minds to.

We can do a lot, but we definitely can’t do everything. Certain categories of life require the help of others. It shouldn’t be a problem to ask for help in life. No one is perfect, except perhaps Beyonce. Yet, we work so hard for our rights- and even the rights to have opinions- that we sometimes forget to chill out and admit weaknesses.

There are a few things the male body is more naturally suited for. The physical set of a man’s hips is more efficient for running. Women certainly can and should run if they should choose, but it comes slightly easier to a man. Just as childbirth comes easier (ok, physically possible) for women. That is what our hips were made for. The disgruntled runner inside me begrudgingly admits this.

Many men even lose weight easier than women do- something that weight loss shows have to take into mathematical account when competing men versus women. I find this wholly unfair and something that I will continue to pout about.

Something else that comes easier to men: being alone in certain situations. I don’t want to walk alone at night. I don’t want to walk through a parking garage or pump gasoline alone, thanks to television deja vu. I don’t get into a vehicle alone at night without being afraid that a person sits await in my backseat, waiting to garrot me, or lies under my car, waiting to stick a knife out to cut my Achillie’s tendon and disable me from running away.

I don’t care how safe the neighborhood is supposed to be- I don’t want to be outside in it, alone, when there is a sparse grouping of people in the area. These may sound completely paranoid, but this fear has been drilled into me by news stories and foreboding warnings. How many women carry pepper spray, mace, a taser, or even a very pointy keychain that they could use to stab with in defense? How many men do the same? We are right to be scared. Ask for help, even if it is hard to admit. Get a ride home.

As much as we’d like for everything to be naturally even, the world is not. I am not admitting defeat, just further problem areas. Certainly every person can admit something they are jealous of the other gender for. I would add “peeing standing up” to the list, but I’m lazy. I enjoy extra opportunities to sit.

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A Follow-Up: The Miami University Pro-Rape Flyer

Last fall, a flyer was posted in a male dorm bathroom at Miami University in Ohio. It had been made by an Freshman student who had already been creating havoc and destruction in the dormitory. The flyer contained disgusting tips on how to successfully rape a girl (and get away with it). It was quickly found by an R.A. and taken down. The R.A. was instructed to tell no one.

In case you can’t read the image, this is what it says:
Top Ten Ways to Get Away with Rape
1) Put drugs in the woman’s drink, that way she won’t remember you.
2) When you see a woman walking by herself, take advantage by the fact that she is alone.
3) Wear protection.
4) If a woman’s window is unlocked, sneak in and rape her to teach her not to do it again.
5) Sex with an unconscious body does count, so don’t back down if she’s sleeping.
6) Honesty is the best policy, if the girl says she doesn’t want to have sex tell her you are going to get her a drink, slip some roofies in it and you’ll have her in bed in no time.
7) Practice makes perfect, the more you rape, the better you get at it.
8) If you are afraid the girl will identify you, slit her throat.
9) Never take pictures with or give your number to the girl you rape.
10) RAPE RAPE RAPE, it’s college boys, live it up!!

Disgusting. He has either a sick sense of humor or is seriously sick.

The school tried tried to keep it quiet while considering punishment for the student. However, news of the event leaked out. The student body roared in disgust, at both the Freshman for posting this, and at the school for trying to keep the event quiet.

I was a student at Miami University when this occurred. I was in shock. Sure, sometimes email alerts went out about girls being attacked, and I even worked in junction with the Rape Crisis unit in town. This is known to be a very safe school in the middle of nowhere. There are no “bad” neighborhoods around campus that girls are afraid to be alone in.

Everyone was still surprised and appalled that someone would have the audacity to, well.. be such an asshole. I didn’t have a single class that week where we didn’t discuss the flyer.

The student pled guilty of disorderly conduct, presumably paid a fine of $100 or less, and is no longer a student at Miami.

I am a proud Alumni of this college. In 2012, Miami University was ranked third by US News in Undergraduate Teaching Methodology. Third, after Dartmouth and Princeton. This is a great academic education. I also met so many wonderful people and made so many wonderful memories at this college.

Not only am I disgusted that people like this exist, but I am also disgusted that this tarnishes my school. We already have to deal with the reputation of having educated Ben Rapelisberger. I mean, Roethlisberger.

The story made the Cincinnati news and many student organizations reacted to the event. The story circulated the internet and ended up here. As a reader at the time, I was tempted to leave a very long comment giving more information. Now you know. There are terrible people no matter where you go, including safe little college towns in the middle of nowhere. This is why I own a pink taser.

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Humanity, I Love You

After the horror of the Boston bombing I didn’t think I could ever believe that humanity was worth it. Really, I just don’t understand how blowing up innocents makes sense to anyone, but then all the stories of people opening their homes to those stranded came out. London had their marathon and they ran with American Flags and with signs that said, “Finish for Boston.” Syria, which has been ravaged by booms and genocides, took a moment to send condolences to Boston.
I saw window washers dress up as Spiderman, Captain America, Batman and the like to clean the windows of a children’s hospital. I was taken aback by how in the face of such tragedy I saw the best of humanity. Instead of breaking me—I was lifted up by the generosity and kindness of the human spirit.
Naturally, it didn’t last long. Bombs went off in Pakistan, earthquakes ruined cities, and a five-year old girl was raped in Indian. She’s not the first child raped, she’s not even the youngest child raped. But this five-year-old gets an article written about her because finally, finally something is going to be done about it.
Last week she was abducted and raped by a neighbor who kept her for three days and then left her for dead. India, like America, has a rape culture. They blame the women, they blame the victim…but how can you blame a five-year-old? What suggestive clothing was she wearing? How did she drink too much? How was her sexual history to blame for this?

The Guardian took aim at the Indian police force, “[O]fficers allegedly initially refused to investigate after the girl, from a working class family, disappeared while playing early in the evening outside her home. She was eventually found by neighbours. When the case was picked up by the local media, the parents were offered 2,000 rupees (£25) to drop the case, relatives of the victim have said.”
By the weekend hundreds of protesters were outside the police headquarters demand that the police chief, that wanted this dropped, be fired. India’s Home Minister has vowed that the officers on duty will be punished.
Once again, in darkness there is light. People will surprise you if you just let them. I don’t know why it takes horrible circumstances for people to take a stand—but maybe one day we’ll all realize that you don’t have to wait for something bad to do some good.

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