Hey, Ohio–Go F Yourself

While all eyes were on Texas something really awful was happening in Ohio. Gov. John Kasich signed into law the state’s new $62 billion budget that just happened to sneak in a couple of rules. Rules about women, their choices, their health,  and their safety. He just neglected to bring that to the table because…well…because he is a spineless little worm.

Under this new budget comes the following rules: women are required to undergo a trans-abdominal ultrasound before receiving an abortion, regardless of whether or not the ultrasound is medically necessary. The budget also severely guts Planned Parenthood clinics in the state by cutting off $1.4 million in federal funding, reports the Columbus Dispatch. Rape crisis centers will now have “restrictions on what they can say to victims” and if they counsel victims on abortion options their funding can be suspended. If a clinic provides abortion services they will be required to obtain transfer agreements with local hospitals but, the budget bans public hospitals from establishing these agreements. I guess they figure—if you get an abortion and something goes wrong—you deserve to die due to no medical treatment. Just like if you were in a third world country, because lets face it—for women—America is a third world country.

One of two abortion providers in Toledo, Ohio, was forced to close it’s doors do to all the new restrictions. One of two. If the clinics stand this bullying and pressure and manage to stay open, physicians will be legally bound to provide materials informing women seeking abortions of the fetus’ “probable anatomical and physiological characteristics” during various stages of development. Doctors must also give women additional information on family planning alternatives if a heartbeat can be detected. Normally, when you get an abortion they tell you to download a packet and have it in your possession for 24 hours. At least, that’s how it was in the state of MI—but no one asked to see a packet, and no one made anyone look at it.

Here’s another gem from the budget. A “fetus” is defined as the “human offspring developing during pregnancy from the moment of conception,” meaning before the fertilized egg attaches to the uterine lining. This language could be used to make illegal certain forms of contraception, like an IUD, in the state of Ohio. Yup, now you really don’t have a choice. Stephanie Kight, president of Planned Parenthood of Greater Ohio, in a statement called the provisions “an orchestrated effort to roll back women’s rights and access to health care. The budget is only the latest in a series of restrictive laws signed by John Kasich that have hurt the women in our state who need more access to health care, not less.” This is infuriating. This should never have happened. This is dangerous to women. This is happening in 2013 in our country and are we really going to sit back and take it? These men think they’re saving a child when all they’re really doing is destroying women. But we just sit back and take it, like a good little girl.

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Boob Juice For Sale

I don’t want children. I find them–disturbing and selfish to be honest. I just have no room in my life for ‘jam hands’. That doesn’t mean I haven’t helped raise one, don’t love my nieces and nephews, or that I don’t get an opinion about them. See, the reason I can weigh in on this kind of thing even though it’s not my baby, & not my uterus, is because I do in fact have a uterus and can give birth to a baby so I get to have an opinion. I’m looking at you old, white Republican men.

So, here is my opinion on Alicia Silverstone deciding to open a boob juice shop. First quotes from Silverstone:

“Because we are a community of beautiful souls who recognize the importance of food as health, I say we help support those mamas and babies who need a hand during one of the most important times in their lives,” Silverstone wrote in her post about the milk share launch. ”If you have milk to share – post it! If you are in need of milk – post it! Think of all the babies we can help raise together!” 

“She tried reaching out in her community for donor milk, but it was almost impossible to figure out what kind of lifestyle choices the donors had made. And after all that hard work keeping herself vibrant and healthy, she felt she had a right to demand better for her baby,” Silverstone wrote. 

Alicia Silverstone is telling women to offer up their vegan breast milk so strangers can breast feed. Like a wet nurse…like an old fashioned wet nurse. There’s a reason those went out of style–it’s messed up. Look, I’m not against breast feeding. I’m pro-boob. I’m very pro-boob. It’s the swapping I don’t enjoy. Say what you will–these are bodily fluids. Strangers bodily fluids going into your baby. I don’t know–it’s not sitting right with me. How about you guys?

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Why Autism Breaks my Heart

I’m not here to whine about life. I’m here to take action.

For at least half of American citizens, life is full of first world problems. Divorce and cancer may plague you, but that is about it. You might belong to a minority that is discriminated against. You might have made rather poor life decisions. You might also consider it “life sucks, and then you die.” Everyone seems to lament what they don’t have. Apparently the grass is always greener on the other side.

In my weekday job, I’m an Early Intervention Autism Specialist. I work with children with autism, aged 2-10. They often have other disorders, on top of their autism conditions. They also are often completely nonverbal. Parents of these children knew they were pregnant, or even pregnant with multiples- but didn’t know they were pregnant with autistic children. That is a condition that is not possible to prepare for. You don’t expect your child to look exactly like other kids but act completely in a world of their own.

A quote has been sticking with me lately. Anonymous said “What do parents with money and healthy children worry about?” I can work with these children daily, but I can’t imagine being a parent of these children. It is a completely different scenario to make life decisions for a non typical child versus treating that child.

Attempting to see life through the eyes of a severely autistic child is rather difficult. I often have to guess at the child’s needs. The most common reason for concern is lack of communication. If a person can not communicate their needs, then those needs will often not be met. In our modern age, we take communication for granted. Here I am, blogging away my troubles. Perhaps someone will even read this posting.

Imagine not being able to speak. Your thoughts are trapped in your mind. When you are hungry, you can yell and pull at the fridge until someone gives you food. When you have too many demands placed on you, can can attempt to yell and leave the situation- if others will let you. If you are in pain, maybe you will cry and cry until someone comes to your aid and properly diagnoses your ailments without your input.

In the psychological world, I am seen as typical. This means that I am not diagnosed as having any conditions. I would not trade being “typical” for anything. I can emotionally and logically process the world around me. I can communicate my needs. I do not irrationally fear or become anxious. I surely have emotional issues- but they are typical issues. My issues are so normal, they are not worth diagnosis or medicine.

Autism is sometimes elongated into standing for “Always Unique, Totally Interesting, Sometimes Mysterious”. Those with autism are definitely unique, interesting, and mysterious. I would love to see into the minds of my children.

Every day, I am a little more amazed by what I see from these kids- but also a bit more broken hearted. Parents of a high functioning child ask me “do you think she will every try to play with other kids again?” or I imagine the gibberish from a nonverbal child suddenly turning into English. It is impossible to not love these kids. Not only are they sweethearts and frankly rather cute, but I somehow mysteriously wonder if they hold the keys to the universe. To what is locked inside all of us. Why won’t their minds release the words, or the social skills, or just simply become typical?

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What I Begrudgingly Admit As A Woman

We, the women of the feministic mindset, like to pretend we can do anything we set our minds to.

We can do a lot, but we definitely can’t do everything. Certain categories of life require the help of others. It shouldn’t be a problem to ask for help in life. No one is perfect, except perhaps Beyonce. Yet, we work so hard for our rights- and even the rights to have opinions- that we sometimes forget to chill out and admit weaknesses.

There are a few things the male body is more naturally suited for. The physical set of a man’s hips is more efficient for running. Women certainly can and should run if they should choose, but it comes slightly easier to a man. Just as childbirth comes easier (ok, physically possible) for women. That is what our hips were made for. The disgruntled runner inside me begrudgingly admits this.

Many men even lose weight easier than women do- something that weight loss shows have to take into mathematical account when competing men versus women. I find this wholly unfair and something that I will continue to pout about.

Something else that comes easier to men: being alone in certain situations. I don’t want to walk alone at night. I don’t want to walk through a parking garage or pump gasoline alone, thanks to television deja vu. I don’t get into a vehicle alone at night without being afraid that a person sits await in my backseat, waiting to garrot me, or lies under my car, waiting to stick a knife out to cut my Achillie’s tendon and disable me from running away.

I don’t care how safe the neighborhood is supposed to be- I don’t want to be outside in it, alone, when there is a sparse grouping of people in the area. These may sound completely paranoid, but this fear has been drilled into me by news stories and foreboding warnings. How many women carry pepper spray, mace, a taser, or even a very pointy keychain that they could use to stab with in defense? How many men do the same? We are right to be scared. Ask for help, even if it is hard to admit. Get a ride home.

As much as we’d like for everything to be naturally even, the world is not. I am not admitting defeat, just further problem areas. Certainly every person can admit something they are jealous of the other gender for. I would add “peeing standing up” to the list, but I’m lazy. I enjoy extra opportunities to sit.

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