I already wrote about this over on Evil Beet, but I feel the need to address it on here, too, from a slightly different angle.

Paris Hilton made a guest appearance on Kathy Griffin’s My Life on the D-List last night, and, with absolutely no prompting, made the following statement about blow jobs: “I never do that. My mom always taught me, ‘Only ugly girls need to go down on their knees and do things like that.’”

This is upsetting for a lot of reasons. First, because Paris Hilton has been videotaped giving a blow job. That video tape was sold to Red Light video and distributed via the Internet and in adult stores around the world. We have all seen Paris Hilton suck a cock.

Second, because it gives her younger and more impressionable fans the idea that performing oral sex on a man is somehow a sign of decreased value and/or low moral character. It is so frustrating to see perpetuated the idea that a woman’s choice to perform a certain sexual act is always an act of desperation or an indicator that a man has diminished respect for her. I am not saying that all blow jobs are acts of saintly goodness (although some men may disagree with me on that point), but I hate the idea of a young woman being convinced that she’s somehow a less worthy person because she chose to perform oral sex. Because as much as someone like myself recognizes that Paris Hilton is a fucking lying, narcissistic moron, you better believe that plenty of young women in this country view her opinion as Bible. (I know this as a result of reading the comments on my celebrity gossip blog for three years.) I have this image of young women across America watching her on this show and thinking to themselves, “Oh my God. I give head. Am I ugly? Am I worthless? Paris Hilton thinks so. What have I done?” I know I don’t carry the kind of clout that Paris does, but allow me to address that question: You have done nothing wrong, and you have done nothing that makes you less deserving of respect.

Thirdly, I am infuriated with the idea that mothers are passing this kind of bullshit advice on to their daughters. These are the kind of statements we pass on to our daughters that strip women of sexual power and confidence. I would tell my daughter — if it came up — that she should perform the sexual acts she chooses when, and only when, she wants to. If she’s uncomfortable with something, she should pass, and she should expect a man to respect her decision. If she wants to do it, she should enjoy herself thoroughly. No one should make her feel somehow lesser because she wants to give head.

In summary: Shut up, Paris.

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