Should A Guy Go to Jail for Giving His Girlfriend Herpes?

Poster of Herpes

When two people engage in sexual behaviors, there is a risk.  No matter how well you think you know somebody, however honest you believe someone to be in terms of their sexual history, there is a leap of faith involved.

Period.

Is that level of trust often given too easily?  Of course it is.

Does that make a person knowingly walking around with an STI keeping that information from his or her sexual partner a cad?  Absolutely.

Does it make him or her a criminal?

Well, that’s the question du jour following reports that 28-year-old David Golding of the U.K. received 14 months in prison for “inflicting grievous bodily harm” after giving his girlfriend genital herpes.

From Fox News:

The court heard Golding had denied having the infection when his then girlfriend, 24-year-old Cara Scott, was diagnosed with it soon after their relationship began in 2009. He only admitted it to her shortly before they broke up in 2010. Scott then went to the police.

According to the Daily Mail, Judge Michael Fowler said at sentencing, “‘Because it was in a relationship, it was particularly mean and an offense which amounted to a betrayal — a betrayal in a relationship in which you [Golding] professed love.

“The injury you caused her by this infection is at least or more …

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Rape Victim Vindicated … But Does it Change Anything for Other Women?

Photo of Rapist Willis in Handcuffs

Rape is arguably the worst possible crime in existence.  While the physical damage generally heals, the emotional repercussions of a sexual assault are lifelong.  Perhaps the worst thing about surviving a rape is the intrinsic need to keep it secret.

It is very difficult to say the words, “I was raped.”  It is even harder, however, to must the courage to say the words and face a firestorm of people casting doubt.  Since sexual assault is often difficult if not impossible to prove (never mind define), there is a surprisingly high percentage of people (and some of them are regular Zelda Lily readers) that automatically assume a woman claiming rape is lying.

I was raped.  It happened in 1998, I was drunk, and it was unspeakable.  While the physical effects healed fairly quickly, I will never fully recover emotionally.  To this day, I am not able to …

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New Hampshire Killer Fails In Effort To Blame Mother For His “Insanity”

Photo of Christopher Gribble Testifying in his Murder Trial

In October of 2009, Kimberly Cates of New Hampshire’s Mont Vernon was savagely and senselessly murdered by a group of angry, antisocial adolescent boys.  Her daughter Jaimie was also stabbed and beaten but survived the attack.

Steven Spader was found guilty of first-degree murder last fall.  In light of Spader’s fate, his chief accomplice, Christopher Gribble, decided to go the “not guilty by reason of insanity” route … and failed miserably. 

Yup, Gribble, like Spader, was found guilty of first-degree murder (Judge Gillian Abramson actually said in court, “Infinity is not enough jail time for you”) … and deemed “sane”.

Sanity is an interesting concept, one that means different things to many people.  To me, anybody that cold-bloodedly kills someone else is completely insane—but that doesn’t mean the person should not be punished to the fullest extent of the law.

I mention this because one of Gribble’s tactics involved laying the blame for his “insanity” directly on the doorstep of his mother, sharing in court details of what he considered to be a “troubled” childhood and exposing fantasies he had about killing his mother, Tamara, who he claims abused him.

From WMUR:

[Gribble] at first declined to go into detail about his fantasies, smiling and saying he didn’t think his lawyers wanted him to get too specific while on camera. But when his lawyer pushed for detail, he obliged.

“Things like cutting little pieces of her off, little bit by bit,” he said. “Listening to her scream like I screamed. Telling her, ‘Hey! How’s it feel now?’”

According to Gribble, his mother’s overprotective and overbearing nature in raising him directly correlated to the killer he became … and therefore should allow him to get away with murder.

Yeah, freaking logical, right?

Tamara Gribble did admit in court to breaking a wooden spoon when she was hitting her son, but that it was a one shot deal and that she never again hit him.

Here’s the thing.  Corporal punishment is completely legal.  There’s a line, of course, and an argument could be made that breaking a spoon over your kid’s body is crossing it … but does it excuse a murder that was almost Mansonesque?

I was spanked as a child.  A lot, actually.  It has never once occurred to me to kill someone, like, seriously commit murder. 

This is a pale comparison, but I had a hard enough time holding onto my golden retriever, Puck, when she was euthanized at the age of fourteen so she wouldn’t have to die alone.  Watching a dog that I knew and loved pass away before my eyes was horrible, and it was the right thing to do (Puck was arthritic, incontinent, and starting to suffer) … the idea of causing the flame of a human life to extinguish is just unspeakable.

And Christopher Gribble took a human life.  He can blame his mother all he wants—mothers tend to make convenient targets in situations like this—but the fact is that many people walk this earth having endured far more than a broken wooden spoon that wouldn’t hurt a fly.

Judge Abramson was right … infinity is not long enough.



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Death Stops Elderly Father from Death Penalty Activism

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In situations of murder, those affected ripple outward from the victim like rings in water.  The closest of those proverbial rings is almost always the immediate family of the victim, and the savage 1984 strangling of 24-year-old Janette Cullins is no exception.

The perpetrator, Dean Carter, was a real gem.   Strangling Janette Cullins and sticking her body into a closet in her San Diego home,  was not his first crime.  In fact, he’d killed three women just the day before in L.A. and had a history of raping women who didn’t exactly think he was Rico Suave.  Sick.

Anyway, this douchebag went to trial in 1991 and was convicted of all four murders and two rapes.  He was sentenced to death for his desecration of Janette …

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