Category Archives: Friends

A General Ode To Female Friendship and to One Bunny In Particular

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I hate L.A. I’ll be honest about it – I do not like the city I live in one bit. I like the scenery, I like the weather, I like the beaches, but I hate the city. I’m not the kind of girl that goes out, I don’t like getting dressed up, and I hate having my picture taken.  Nothing about me screams “stereotypically girly.”  I’d rather be at home with my dogs and my documentaries. I’m also not big on bragging. I won’t tell you what celebrity I talked to, or name drop the person/production I work for, I won’t help your career. If you want to be friends with me, my friendship only comes with me it doesn’t come with my connections, I’m big on hard work and making your own way. In a city like L.A, where everything is very visual and all about, “where you’ve been”, “who you saw”, “who you know”, and “what can you do for me” it can be hard to fit in.

But I’ve never really fit in. I’ve always been a “guy’s girl”. Which I’m not complaining about, because I am what I am. I was a tomboy and sort of sensitive, and I grew up really fast and so I couldn’t relate with most of the girls my age. I found them generally frivolous, and I didn’t think boys weren’t into silly things, either. Boys liked sports, and video games and we didn’t have to talk about “who we liked” or “what new dress we got” so I mostly hung around them. I didn’t have to relate to boys. They didn’t want to know what I was thinking or feeling and I was much more comfortable that way. They just let me be. Girls back then had a way of wanting to bond in an emotional, intimate way and that just wasn’t my style. It wasn’t then and it’s still not now.

The girls were always too mean and harshly judgmental for me to deal with when I was growing up. It wasn’t that big of a deal in middle school, but when I got to high school the girls became ruthless. My guy friends who had girlfriends couldn’t hang out with me …

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Bitches Be Fightin’: UK Cosmo Covers the Mysterious World of Ladyfriends

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January’s Cosmopolitan UK focused on the highs and lows of female friendship, featuring famous British TV personalities and best friends Fearne Cotton and Holly Willoughby. Cotton and Willoughby’s presence on the British small screen came under some fire a little while back with accusations that the blonde duo were edging out the older and more experienced competition by selling their abundant sex and youth to BBC producers and audiences.

Rather than help them fight their image as giggly girlfriends, the interview focuses on what they envy in one …

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Research Shows that One Night Stands Can Lead to More

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Who among us hasn’t dreamed of true love, of finding that one special person to share their life with?  Sometimes, however, we get bogged down in the Disney princess mentality and miss the opportunities that exist right under our noses.  And sometimes, friends with benefits, casual dating with occasional (and non-monogamous sex), and the odd hookup are just easier.

But according to recent research out of the University of Iowa led by sociologist Anthony Paik, these informal relationships aren’t necessarily a bad thing … even in terms of finding your one true love (if you believe in such a thing, of course).

From The University of Iowa News Services:

Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship ended up just as happy as those who dated and waited.

“We didn’t see much evidence that relationships were lower quality because they started off as hookups,” said Paik, an assistant professor in the UI College of Liberal Arts and Sciences. “The study suggests that rewarding relationships are possible for those who delay sex. But it’s also possible for true love to emerge if things start off with a more ‘Sex and the City’ approach, when people spot each other across the room, become sexually involved and then build a relationship.”

You know, part of me is really pretty excited about this even while my brain is screaming, “That’s freaking rudimentary!”

What this research is basically saying, after all, is that those willing to invest the time and energy and desire into making a relationship successful are more likely to be successful at the great long-term relationship game.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter as much if a couple start out as friends …

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A Useful List: “9 ‘Harmless’ Habits That Age You”

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It’s been awhile since I had the distinct pleasure of addressing another asinine list. The thing about this list, entitled “9 Harmless Habits That Age You” and brought to you by Yahoo Health, is that it makes sense. Oh, and there is elaboration and useful suggestions. While I adore ripping stupid lists apart, there’s so much useful information here that I’m turning the snark way down.

It pretty much goes without saying that smoking cigarettes and frying your skin in the sun make you older, so kudos for quitting and slathering on the sunscreen religiously. But if you’re trying to turn back the clock—or at least slow it down a little—don’t overlook these other habits that may be sabotaging your efforts.

1. You keep your college bedtime.

We’re not saying you need a perfect 8 hours every single night, but make sleep a priority more often and your body will thank you. Everyone’s sleep needs are different; to find out what yours are, sleep experts recommend you turn off the alarm clock when you’re well rested, and see how long you naturally sleep. (Most people need 7 to 8 hours.)

All right, so make sure you get enough sleep. Of course, some people work multiple jobs or suffer from insomnia (or both). I can’t think of the last time I got seven hours of sleep … I’m curious enough that I’m probably going to look at my old Facebook status updates. My doctor told me to keep a “sleep journal” to keep track of my sleep patterns, but I don’t need to thanks to Facebook.

2. You have a soft spot for sweets.

It’s not easy to eliminate sugar completely, but limiting added sugar to no more than 10% of total calories can help. If you’re a 45-year-old woman of average height (5-foot-4), that’s 160 calories (or 10 teaspoons) from added sugar—about the number in one 12-ounce can of Coca-Cola or six Hershey’s Kisses. By comparison, the average American consumes 31 teaspoons per day of added sugar, or the equivalent of 465 calories. Watch for stealthy sugar in unexpected foods, like salad dressing. Many prepared foods contain hefty amounts of sugar, but it’s hidden under aliases—including barley malt, corn syrup, dextrose, fruit juice concentrate, maltose, maple syrup, molasses, and turbinado—on ingredient panels.

Damn, no more Ben and Jerry’s runs for me. But seriously, I went through my cupboards looking for some of those words I’ve never heard before on ingredient labels (yes, I’ll have some turbinado in my coffee, please) and it was kind of scary.

3. You’re stressed more often than not.

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