Oh Deer…

 

Some women have ‘the bride gene’ they just want to be brides. They can’t wait for that special day when they drop 35k on a single event. They spend years dreaming about their perfect dress, the food, the venue etc. They pick out bridesmaids gifts and plan their something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue. But now there is a new trend in bridal fashion and it’s very deer. No, I didn’t misspell that…it’s deer antlers.
For $325.00 you can put a “bridal mini hat” made by Fine & Fleurie on your head as you walk up the aisle. But it’s not any “mini hat” it’s antlers. They’re freaking antlers. I love minis anything teacup sized will send me into squeals so I’m pretty upset that they’re using people’s love of mini’s to lure them into antlers.
Fine & Fleurie say, “this is a great piece for a fearless, whimsical bride.” Huh? Fearless I get…but whimsical? What is whimsical about strapping antlers on your head? I’m not knocking crazy fashion, I’m a grown woman that wears an owl snow hat…I get it sometimes you just feel like being an animal but antlers? On your wedding day?
Maybe I’m not the best source for this. Weddings have always been a source of confusion for me. If I’m going to go in debt I’m not going in debt over a wedding—a car, a house, a month in Europe yes, but not a wedding. I don’t understand why this one day matters so much and to that point I’d like to submit that women that have Pinterest boards planning their wedding—when they are not engaged should be quarantined.
In researching outlandish wedding ideas I headed to Pinterest which is the Mecca of weddings and food. I was browsing through some friend’s boards, some friends of friends, and was amazed at how many of these people are planning lavish weddings when they don’t have a proposal. Some have boyfriends—which shocks me that this doesn’t send a man running—but most are single.
Wait, I think I understand it…the same women that plan a wedding without a proposal are the “whimsical” types that pay $325 bucks to stick antlers on their head and call it fashion.

I was discussing this article with my friend Bunny and she put it best. She asked what one had to with the other and I said that I was trying to illustrate that there are varying degrees of crazy but crazy is crazy. To which she replied, “No way. There are a million different shades of crazy. I’m crazy, but in a much different way than you are crazy, and we are both crazy in different ways than Martha Stewart -now that bitch is crazy.”

So the point is, ladies, embrace your crazy. If you want to plan a wedding without a proposal, put antlers on your head, or go to jail for insider training and come out wearing a poncho knitted by your cell mate– do you.



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I’m not a fashionista to say the least. If it’s comfortable, I wear it. But I do really love fashion. I like runway shows and I’m astounded by how designers can come up with these moving pieces of wearable art. But with fashion comes models, and with models come body issues. Ms. magazine’s January issues takes a look at whether or not feminists are “allowed” to like fashion in their article “If The Clothes Fit: A Feminist Take On Fashion”. They argue that fashion has been both an advancement for women (Coco Chanel anyone?) and a “weapon of restraint” (Kate Moss’ figure).

The Ms. article talks a lot about how fashion was used to show independence, such as in New York City, when women garment workers in the early 20th century wore hats to signify that they were earning their own money, and thus financially independent. In the 1980s, women adopted a male style of dress (ties, tailored skirt suits, shoulder pads) in an attempt to be respected by their male counterparts in the business world. Not to mention Carol Moseley Braun, the first African-American woman elected to the U.S. Senate, who (gasp!) wore a pantsuit on the Senate floor in 1993, ending the Senate’s age-long ban on women wearing slacks there. (Yes, in 1993 there was a ban on women wearing pants in the Senate.) The other side of the coin is that fashion puts a lot of pressure on women to be ridiculously thin …

… and conveys the idea that they are worth the same amount that they are willing to spend on a pair of shoes. Is a high heel any better because the bottom of it is red? Are you any happier because it’s sitting in your closet? Do you think about it day in and day out, knowing that that particular shoe is making a world of difference in your life? Probably not, but people may think more highly of you, so why not be a little short on rent this month to buy the Jimmy Choo?

Said Vogue editor Anna Wintour in her February 2008 editor’s letter wrote:

“The notion that a contemporary woman must look mannish in order to be taken seriously as a seeker of power is frankly dismaying. How has our country come to this?…This is America, not Saudi Arabia.”

This can be construed as a very feminist point of view. One could also fault Wintour for pushing those unrealistic ideals as well as expecting us normal folks to measure up to her – when she has a $250,000 clothing allowance as part of her perk salary at Vogue. Which yes, most of us are extremely jealous of.

See, even “not caring” too much about fashion,I fall victim to it. I can’t tell you the last time I wore heels that weren’t boots or any piece of clothing that made me uncomfortable just because it looked good. I don’t have any designer labels (unless they were given to me by my fashion-forward friends as charity) but I would still kill to have that $250,000 perk to go buy this amazing Marchesa dress I saw. It’s a sickness, right?

So, can a feminist love fashion? Absolutely! Does it make her any less feminist? Well, no. Not at all, actually. We like what we like because it tickles a part of our brain, and nursing and nurturing our own interests and growing them in a way that makes us happy is extremely feminist – especially if we’re doing it for ourselves and no one else.



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