Rape Victim Vindicated … But Does it Change Anything for Other Women?

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Rape is arguably the worst possible crime in existence.  While the physical damage generally heals, the emotional repercussions of a sexual assault are lifelong.  Perhaps the worst thing about surviving a rape is the intrinsic need to keep it secret.

It is very difficult to say the words, “I was raped.”  It is even harder, however, to must the courage to say the words and face a firestorm of people casting doubt.  Since sexual assault is often difficult if not impossible to prove (never mind define), there is a surprisingly high percentage of people (and some of them are regular Zelda Lily readers) that automatically assume a woman claiming rape is lying.

I was raped.  It happened in 1998, I was drunk, and it was unspeakable.  While the physical effects healed fairly quickly, I will never fully recover emotionally.  To this day, I am not able to …

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Wook Kundor, 108, and Hubby Mohd Noor, 35, Seek Adoption

Something tells me an 108 year old and her 35 year old recovering husband should not look to adopt, but fuck, I really don’t know. Don’t really feel like I am in any position to be doling out family planning advice, especially when it concerns individuals whose economic, social, cultural, and religious circumstances are TOTALLY different from mine.

Wook Kundor (Nek Wook) and husband Mohd Noor Che Musa reunited earlier this month, upon Noor’s return from Besut drug rehabilitation center. Living in Kuala Terengganu, a north eastern city of Malaysia, Kundor and Moor received international …

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Angelina Jolie Another Woman Making Strides in a Male-Dominated Field

Angelina Jolie is a hot button topic, no question. There’s the role she might or might not have played in the demise of Brad Pitt’s marriage to Jennifer Aniston. The fact that she chooses to adopt children from other countries when there are plenty of children in need right here in the USA. The blood vial necklace. The, uh, intense public kiss with her brother. The fact that her father is totally bananas. However, Jolie has forged a great path for women in the movie industry, particular in the action/adventure genre, with her $20 million dollar payout for next summer’s action flick Salt … and the victory is especially sweet when you consider that the role was intended for a man (well, if you consider Tom Cruise to be a man).

From Yahoo:

“It’s definitely unusual that a female has become an action star,” “Salt” producer Lorenzo di Bonaventura says. “But it’s a funny thing. She’s not a female action star; she’s an action star. She’s really the first female to transcend gender. I don’t think it’s occurred before.”

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The Digital Wet Nurse: Would you Use a Breast Milk Bank?

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Breast milk has long been touted as the gold standard for infant nutritional intake.  This is more true today than ever before.  However, is there a point where this is taken too far (and I’m not even talking about the cooking thing)?  It’s entirely possible that we’ve reached it.

From Salon:

“Women are starting to get the message that mother’s milk is really important,” Nancy Mohrbacher, the author of “Breastfeeding Made Simple: Seven Natural Laws,” tells Newsweek reporter Maria Dolan, an understatement of vast magnitudes. With studies that credit breast-feeding for virtually every good — it will make your child smarter! — and an inoculation against every ill — prevents cancer, ear infections and obesity! — it may be more accurate to say that women are “getting the message” that offering one’s child anything less is tantamount to Parents like McNeil are fueling a boom in demand for the milk of others. Over the past decade, demand at milk banks — which accept human milk and screen for diseases, including HIV — has quadrupled. And those who can’t afford the milk bank’s prices — up to $3 an ounce, keeping in mind a baby can need up to 30 ounces each day — are turning to new, unregulated programs like the Milk Share website, which connects those who’ve got milk with those who need it, thanks to the miracles of ice and Fed Ex. just begging for an unhealthy kid with crappy SAT scores. But what about adoptive parents, gay male parents, and others who have trouble producing milk in house? “Just because he was adopted, my little one should not have to miss out on the antibodies and heath breast milk provides,” mother Sarah McNeil tells Dolan.

Okay, I know breastfeeding is important.  I nursed both of my daughters, and I’m very glad I did.  That said, though, it really pisses me off when I hear horror stories from other women (and I have … many of them) about the pressure they feel to breastfeed by both their Ob-Gyns and pediatricians.  Perhaps that’s part of why the concept of digital wet-nursing was born … and has grown exponentially.

Parents like McNeil are fueling a boom in demand for the milk of others. Over the past decade, demand at milk banks — which accept human milk and screen for diseases, including HIV — has quadrupled. And those who can’t afford the milk bank’s prices — up to $3 an ounce, keeping in mind a baby can need up to 30 ounces each day — are turning to new, unregulated programs like the Milk Share website, which connects those who’ve got milk with those who need it, thanks to the miracles of ice and Fed Ex.

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