What Happened To Dexter (And Other Shopping Horrors)

I’m uncertain as to how to properly trigger warn the story to which I refer in this post. Aggressive anti-gay sentiment and action on the part of a burly stranger against a toddler, and it could be so much worse but there is a hint of violence. I’m glad that I read it but I am seething and also going to take a clonazepam and fantasize about justified homicide for a bit. Sorry—I don’t like chocolate, so that’s how I make myself feel better.

I read this story, by Katie Vyktoriah. It is well-written, and describes her wonderful son, Dexter, and a frightening and haunting outing that they took just a few days ago.

I’m not going to go through the story itself because it is a good idea if you read it. There are wretched people in this world.

This story could be a lot worse. Most upsetting stores-and-children anecdotes involve a parent abusing a child or a situation in which the parent is clearly abusive. Those are the stories that reinforce the suspicions that plague me at all times. Those are the stories that keep me up at night because that child, and millions like him or her, are trapped in homes like that, in legal systems too restrained by the democratic process and sickening cowardice to do anything about it—or allow anyone to do anything about it.

I’ll be honest, one of the many reasons for which I hate going to stores such as grocery stores during the daylight is that there are children there. I don’t dislike children—I’m good with kids and I’ve worked with children. But I always suspect parents of being bad parents—and, specifically, abusive—until proven otherwise. Every time that I see a child with a parent, I’m (usually subconsciously) looking for sharp looks or frightened expressions that might be clues that domestic violence is a part of their life. It’s not like on television, where victims of domestic abuse have inexplicably broken arms and black eyes and have fathers who look like drill sergeants. For every scenario like that, there are countless more situations of domestic abuse in which marks are rarely, if ever, left on the victim. Monsters who rule their homes through terror and violence.

And I am never surprised by them. Ever.

Do you watch Game Of Thrones? During the tense moments when Sansa is at Joffrey’s mercy, do you find yourself tensing up, holding your breath, waiting for what cruel thing he will say or what capricious act of violence he will order?

I do, too. But I feel like that many, many other times.

That level of apprehension is how I feel when a parent whom I do not yet trust is interacting with a child. Always. I become incredibly anxious, to the point where I’ll avoid watching a television show. And to the point where that is one of the reasons for which I am more comfortable doing my grocery shopping as close to midnight as I can manage (though there are endless benefits to this).

When I have friends whose parents I know were never violent, that’s great. It’s a relief.

And then I have friends who had violent parents. And I know that there are millions more out there, as confirmed by surveys and common sense. In many of these cases, the abuse goes unnoticed or unreported. In so many others, people are uncertain if it was even a crime.

Most articles about child-abuse will get someone or another defending the abuser or the abuse itself, excuses ranging from “well she’d had a long day” or “that child needed discipline.” There are people out there who are willing to give a voice to defend this horrifying evil that has been a reality for billions of humans—likely for as long as humans have existed.

I know that not every child whom I see experiences some form of violence at home. There’s a chance that as many of half do not. I am well-aware that both my natural tendency to consider various possibilities and my PTSD are tremendous factors in how I experience the world. That does not make child-abuse any less evil, or any less a nightmarishly widespread part of reality.

I can honestly say that that story really struck a chord with me, because I am so accustomed to suspecting wrongdoing on the part of the parents (and so often that suspicion is reinforced by confirmation), one usually thinks of strangers as a threat for child-abduction.

I am pleased that Dexter has a mother who (from what I gather) is a good mother. She certainly acted appropriately in the situation that she describes in the article. Calling the police is something that I strongly recommend—if he could be identified from the security tapes at the store, he could at the very least have his life turned upside down for a while. He could be identified by the press. Most importantly, if that wretched creature has children of his own, charges of assault on a random toddler in a store should most certainly trigger an investigation.

Tragically, current US law will not allow for this man to be fed to sharks (even though Shark Week is only a few days away). But the toddler in question, Dexter, is not trapped at home with this man. Dexter’s story is distressing, but will not haunt my thoughts like so many other stories do.

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Scientology Nightmare

The above image would be the Scientology Cross, the eight points of which represent the eight dynamics of existence. I used this screencap that I took from an episode of South Park instead because the extremely litigious Church of Scientology owns the Scientology Cross. This is the horrifying organization that intimidated and blackmailed the IRS into granting them tax-exempt status.

The Wikipedia article on Scientology is probably as good a place as any to start if you want to learn about it.

When the topic of Scientology is brought up, a lot of people talk about Lord Xenu and thetans and the strange alternate language that Scientologists use. They talk about how the Church of Scientology keeps rigid control over its members, how the Church includes a number of celebrities, how it cheats its members out of a great deal of money, and how it is creepily aggressive in taking down anything that might cast it in a negative life. People may also mention that the Church of Scientology is strongly opposed to psychiatry.

And those are good things to mention. But, let’s just talk about a few of these things.

Any religion is going to have some of its own vocabulary. The further removed from the religion that you are, the weirder that it will sound. Scientology takes this to a new level, with new terminology for everyday conversations. This is, well, deliberate—it helps to drive a wedge between Scientologists and outsiders.

Scientology has some wacky beliefs. By which I mean that Scientology’s beliefs are “out there” even in comparison to literal interpretations of creation narratives from the Abrahamic faiths or the aborigines of Australia or the Epic of Gilgamesh. But this should never be the real focus of criticism of Scientology. It is a subjective argument (again, just about every religion has some wacky beliefs held by at least some of the adherents, if not all). But the beliefs held by Scientologists are the least troubling thing about the Church of Scientology.

Yes, the Church of Scientology exercises a great deal of control over its members. This is not uncommon for organized religions that have a central hierarchy (or for small, fundamentalist groups). The Church of Scientology receiving money from its members in order to continue to be a part of the organization goes beyond tithing and really calls into question the merits of the organization’s tax-exempt status.

Yes, Scientologists are strongly opposed to psychiatry. They believe that it harms the mind and is another “trick” (like religions other than Scientology) that keeps people away from Scientology, which has the answers. And that is more than troubling, because psychiatry helps millions of people and saves lives. But not unique to Scientology—have you ever heard of someone with depression being told by a religious conservative that he or she “needs more Jesus” in his or her life? I have. That’s not the recommendation of mainstream Christians, but it happens.

But before we talk about the things that are easy to bring up—the things that make us laugh—let’s remember that just dismissively saying: “Oh, that’s a cult,” is meaningless (these days, a lot of people use “cult” for any organization that they do not like—and sometimes for things that are not even organizations).

The real problem with Scientology arises when it harms people. My absolute least favorite thing on Earth is the abuse of children (rape being an extremely close second). Scientology does that. I’m not a big fan of anti-gay sentiments, particularly when they come from people and organizations with influence. Scientology does that. No one should be controlled, isolated, or be a victim of violence or brainwashing. Scientology certainly does that.

If you are discussing Scientology, remember that it’s not its newness or its origins that make it a cause for concern. There is more to be said about the Church of Scientology than that Tom Cruise is a crazy, crazy man who says crazy things.

Remember the bad things that the Church of Scientology does that actually matter.

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Chris Brown is a Horrible Person, Exhibit #1,249

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I thought I was done writing about Chris Brown, but now I’m a resigned to the fact that I will never be done writing about Chris Brown. Sometimes I think he’s not even human; it’s like he just doesn’t qualify. Let’s do a quick recap of Chris Brown’s offenses thus far in no particular order:

• He beat the hell out of Rihanna
• Responded to people being upset that he was performing at the Grammy’s by saying, “”HATE ALL YOU WANT BECUZ I GOT A GRAMMY Now! That’s the ultimate F-CK OFF!”
• Began using the pickup line, “Can I get your number? I promise I won’t beat you.”
• He snatched a girls cell phone and said, “Bitch, you not gonna put this up on no website,” before driving off with the phone. E.g., he robbed a fan.
• After being asked about his domestic violence case on Good Morning America, he stormed off the stage and broke the window in his dressing room. Because he was MAD.
• Went on a homophobic Twitter rant.

This is just off the top of my head. That’s six completely disgusting things that took place. Admits all these things taking place he got 11.6 million of Twitter followers, Grammys and anyone that stood up to him or spoke out about what a gross person he is was forced to publicly apologize (see Usher for reference). Now, he’s at it again. Chris Brown tweeted, “I look old as f-ck! I’m only 23.” Comedy writer Jenny Johnson replied at him, “@chrisbrown I know. Being a worthless piece of shit can really age a person.”

Now, she is a comedy writer who wrote something funny to a 23-year-old man who beats on women, makes no apologies and thinks he did nothing wrong. He responded with, @JennyJohnsonHi5 Take them teeth out when u Sucking my d-ck HOE. (Classy, classy dude.) That prompted Johnson to say, @chrisbrown It’s ‘HO’ not ‘HOE’ you ignorant f-ck. (Totally accurate, he misspelled “ho” and he is an ignorant f-ck. It may not be his fault that he’s an ignorant f-ck. But he is.)

The feud went on with Chris Brown saying that he should fart on Johnson while she’s “giving him top,” and after that, she called him a flirt. He said he should shit on her. She said his mother must be proud and posted a picture of Rihanna’s beat-up face. Before canceling his Twitter account Brown replied with this gem of a tweet, “Just ask Rihanna if she mad??????”

I feel sick for so many reasons, one being Rihanna isn’t mad. In fact she recently posted a picture of a shirtless Brown, pants sagging in her bed moments after tweeted a topless picture of herself. My main reason for feeling sick over this is “Team Breezy.” When Brown deleted his Twitter his fans, “Team Breezy” went into high gear.

Here’s a few choice Tweets from “Team Breezy”:

@NellyBreezy: Do u wanna know what im gonna do now ? Im gonna kill that Jenny Johnson for making Chris delete his twitter

@NinaBreezy16: @ jennyjohnsonhi5 whore bitch. if chris kill you i will have more respect of him ..

@Trigga_breezy: @JennyJohnsonHi5 Stfu bitch honestly, i wanna sit on your face and stab 1235 needles in your eyeball, you son of a motherless goat. #bushpig

@_Haineko_: super mad right now if i see that jenny johnson i’ll stab her to death.

@LizzieLovesFood: @ jennyjohnsonhi5 who the f-ck are you? what the f-ck did you do with Chris Brown? GIIIIRL, I HOPE YOU KNOW.. I WILL KILL YOU.

@ItzBREEZY_ygm: @ jennyjohnsonhi5 thanks to you!!! Chris has deleted his twitter!!!! I can f-ckin kill you

@ASWNCUK: @JennyJohnsonHi5 come on Breezy !!! let’s kill this bitch out !! #Breezywantsthisbitchdead

@230Olianis: @JennyJohnsonHi5 I will kill to jenny johnson hateeeeeeee

@SmileCBrown: @JennyJohnsonHi5 Bitch please shut up,i want kill you! you don’t know nothing about Chris Brown and you are a piece of shit to #TeamBreezy

@shanicepaige: If he don’t ever come back to twitter I’ma hunt @ jennyjohnsonhi5 down and kill her :)

@TheChrisGoins: @JennyJohnsonHi5 kill yourself bitch! #EATAD-CK!!!!!

@YoungWhiteNigga: @JennyJohnsonHi5 I would not wish anyone death but I hope you die.

@GirlsDemSugar_: WHO DF is Jenny Johnson . I’ll kill you


Now, the fact that all these people are coming to the defense of Chris Brown isn’t nearly as bad as them emulating his behavior. Telling someone you’re going to kill and rape them because a 23-year-old man who beats women left Twitter is … there’s not even a name for it. It’s repulsive and now? Well, I’ve lost all hope in humanity. Can people really not see themselves? Is there so little self-awareness in the world that this kind of behavior happens? Does hiding behind 140 characters and a stupid avatar really give you the right to talk to another human being that way?

Chris Brown is a plague. He’s a f-cking epidemic. He is everything that is currently wrong with the world. He needs to be stopped, all of this needs to be stop. This shouldn’t be allowed! Consequences! There needs to be consequences for actions. It’s so easy to fly off the handle and break windows, beat your girl, rob your fans, and not feel sorry about it when 11.6 million people tell you how f-cking great you are. Has the world gone mad?!!?

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Chris Brown Sucks, Another Illustration

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Chris Brown recently got a tattoo on his neck. And quite honestly, the tattoo looks a lot like Rihanna’s face after Chris Brown punched it several times. Brown says this is not the case and it’s a MAC cosmetics drawing associated with the Mexican celebration of the Day of the Dead. It’s a drawing of a woman’s face—the right side is lovely and well made up and the left side is a skull.

I’m not going to go into how completely ridiculous it is for a man to get a MAC cosmetics drawing tattooed on his neck, because people get ridiculous tattoos and it’s their own business—even I have one. I will, however, state that it is ridiculous for Chris Brown to tattoo anything having to do with women on his body. Furthermore, as far as my research has shown, Chris Brown is not Mexican in any way. Its one thing to respect and be interested in the culture … it’s another to tattoo a cosmetics drawing of a heritage that has nothing to do with you on your neck. What it boils down to is he saw this drawing of a woman that was half alive and half dead and tattooed it on his neck because he sucks.

He gets away with being an awful, terrible, horrible person. Remember when all of this happened and the Hollywood community rallied around Brown? Yeah, that happened. They either didn’t say anything or said crap like this:

Carrie Underwood: “I don’t think anybody actually knows what happened. I have no advice.”

Lindsay Lohan: “I have no comment on that. That’s not my relationship. I think they’re both great people.”

Nia Long: “I know both of them well. They’re young, and all we can do is pray for them at this point.”

Mary J. Blige: “They’re both young and beautiful people, and that’s it.”

When a picture of Brown on a jet ski in Miami came out, Usher said on a video, “I’m a little disappointed in this …

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