I was going to write a piece about “what’s changed for women,” but in doing the research I was reminded that nothing has changed. Female M.B.A’s still make $4,600 less than their male counterparts, and the depressing statistics just go on and on. I don’t need to spout them here, because they’ve already been talked to death as it were.
You know, I’ve spent a lot of time trying to rally the troops to get feminism up and running (guys, these articles don’t write themselves). Now I’m starting to think that maybe I don’t need the rest of you. That’s right, I said it. I don’t need you guys to be feminist and I don’t need anybody to help propel feminism forward. I can do it all on my own.
I recently read in an article that “… no woman [I] know would unapologetically describe herself as a feminist.” Feminism is something dirty, denigrated—to be looked upon with scorn. If, in the modern culture, gender equality does come up, the response is simply: ‘I’m not a feminist, but—’ (Translation: Please don’t think I’m a man-hater/ugly/being difficult!) It’s true and I’m guilty of it too. No one can accuse me of caring what people think. I make terrible life decisions over and over and don’t care what people say about them and I am far too blunt when asked for my opinion, but when I tell people I write for Zelda Lily I always say, “They’re a feminist blog but not like man-hating feminism.” Why do I clarify that? Why do I feel the apparent need to specify this? Who cares if they are man-hating? It’s not like men haven’t given us a reason to have an issue with them. What do I care if someone thinks I hate men?
This could be my exhaustion, depression, or overall constant anxiety talking but I think I’m done making excuses for feminists. I will stand up and say unapologetically that I am a feminist, and if you think that makes me a man-hater, ugly, or difficult … well, that’s fine with me because if that’s what a feminist is to you—then I don’t want to know you anyway. I’m done waiting on the movement. I’m taking a page from Gandhi and I’m going to be the change I want to see in the world.