I talk in hyperbole a lot. I use a lot of analogies and examples when I speak. On more than one occasion, someone has texted me – or the in case of my Aunt, scolded me – over my choice in language to get my point across. My retort is always the same to them: “I like to be descriptive.” And I do, I really do. I like to paint with words when I can. I feel it’s a writers place to be descriptive, and that’s why Stephen King is so successful. He can terrify you because he’s so thorough.
When I read an article that said that women make better writers when it comes to writing sex I thought “duh.” Now, I’m not talking 50 Shades of Grey, because that writing is terrible. I’m talking Ann Rice’s The Sleeping Beauty trilogy, if we must be specific. Even though 50 Shades of Grey has deplorable writing in it, it is incredibly successful because it is incredibly descriptive. In the article I read, it said that women “are more sincere in writing emotion,” and naturally, I think that is a load of bull – that is, most definitely, not why we’re better at writing about getting down.
I think it has to do with the fact that women like to describe things and we like to connect. Men turn into drooling babies when sex is involved. They use words like “bang,” “laid,” and “screw,” just to name a few. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve used those terms (and worse) too, but I would never use them to describe real, actual sex; I use them to make sex dismissive.
I was a little put off that the writer of the article made it all about emotions and being sincere. You know, things that are always used to describe women. It’s like saying a child should always go with the mother because she’s the mother and it doesn’t matter who the better parent is – a mother is kind and caring and what a child needs. Women are usually painted as these emotional, maternal archetypes, and it’s just crap. I mean, why can’t women write sex well because they understand sex better? That’s my stance – women can write sex better than men because they understand it better than men. Call it sincere or emotional, call it whatever you like. It’s knowledge, and knowledge is power.