2010 brought many highly publicized celebrity divorces. For instance, Jesse James and Sandra Bullock, Eva Longoria and Tony Parker, Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren, Courtney Cox and David Arquette, and Christina Aguilera and Jordan Bratman to name just a few. The one thing nearly all these break-ups had in common? The women were the ones calling it quits.
Not surprisingly, the National Marriage Project suggests that two-thirds of divorces are initiated by women. It appears that the wives are the ones taking the initiative to call off marriages that are no longer working.
The question is—why are women the ones to throw in the towel? Is it because men are more resistant to change, women are more aware of when enough is enough, or is it because …
… men are more fearful to be alone?
According to the National Marriage Project:
“One recent study found that many of the reasons for this have to do with the nature of our divorce laws. For example, in most states women have a good chance of receiving custody of their children. Because women more strongly want to keep their children with them, in states where there is a presumption of shared custody with the husband the percentage of women who initiate divorces is much lower. Also, the higher rate of women initiators is probably due to the fact that men are more likely to be “badly behaved.” Husbands, for example, are more likely than wives to have problems with drinking, drug abuse, and infidelity.”
I think there is much more to it than the age old belief that marriages end due to bad boy behavior or that women file first due to custody issues. After all, studies seem to suggest that women cheat on their husbands at nearly the same frequency as men do. One recent study states that 50-60% of men are said to have cheated on a spouse while 45-50% of women have been unfaithful.
Perhaps the reason three-fourths of all divorces are filed by women is due to the idea that wives are becoming more and more aware of their needs and desires. As women we are often raised to be deeply in-tune with our emotions. Men don’t always have the same luxury. Often times little boys are taught that emotions equal weakness. Therefore, women may realize far before a man does that they don’t have to stay in loveless relationships. Perhaps we can sense this more clearly than our male counterparts can and as a result women are choosing to move on far more frequently than men.
So what do you guys think is the driving force behind women being the ones to more frequently end their marriages?