Sex Addiction Real – Or a Real Convenient Excuse?

Everyone and their little, old Aunt Bertha appears to be suffering from sex addiction these days.  It’s the new whooping cough epidemic.  It’s all over the place.  At the grocery store, glossy photos of celebrities and their various call girls or lovers grace the covers of People and Us magazine.  Their captions mentioning sex rehab and an addiction to getting it on.

Sex addiction appears to be the new trendy vice, or at the very least, the weakness of many a celebrity.  Within the last 12 months we have seen public figure after public figure bestowed with the title of “sex addict.” Jesse James, Charlie Sheen, and Tiger Woods to name just a few.  New …

… state-of-the-art fancy-schmancy sex rehab centers are popping up all over the place for those poor, poor souls that have suffered through too much intercourse. In the past, David Duchovny, Eric Benet, and Russell Brand have all admittedly sought treatment for the sex addiction and have publicly come forward to acknowledge their flaws.

The question is – is sex addiction really a terrible, all-encompassing disease that is wreaking havoc on people’s lives, or is it merely a convenient excuse for selfish and narcissistic behavior?

I think it’s both.  I think that in regards to public figures (a lot of the time, if not most of the time), they use sex addiction as a convenient excuse for inexcusable behavior.  In other words, cheating on their spouses was not their fault – it was their inner demons and addiction to beautiful genitals that lead them to sleep with all those hot young things.  For celebrities, most of the time it’s an image thing, or a belief that the general public will forgive them if their problem stems from addiction rather than general douchbaggery.

That being said, I do believe that sex addiction is a valid disorder for some.

What sets sex addiction apart from alcoholism, gambling, or heroin addiction is that sex is natural. People are supposed to have sex.  It’s a part of life.  The only problem is that there is no set of rules that says when enough is enough. Sexual behavior crosses the line into addiction when it becomes a constant obsession that rules someone’s life.  When every and all decision is based around getting laid, sex becomes a dangerous vice.

While society shuns cheaters, we also find it perfectly acceptable – even awesome – for men to bed numerous women, so we are sending a bit of a mixed message in regards to sex addiction.

According to the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health, sex addiction affects about 3 to 5 percent of the United States population.  That’s a whopping amount of sex addicts.

So what do you guys think? Is sex addiction real or just an excuse?

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15 thoughts on “Sex Addiction Real – Or a Real Convenient Excuse?

  1. I wonder if people thought addiction to cocaine was an excuse when it first become public.

    But really, I have no doubt that celebrities are addicted to sex. I’m sure it’s much more of a prevalent problem than we think, especially in our times now.

  2. There’s addiction, and there’s addiction. Certain substances can cause physical dependency, and no-one doubts that these are real addictions. But it’s possible for a person to develop a psychological depedency, and this could be focused on anything pleasurable.
    I suppose they could just as easily be characterised as compulsions or obsessions, but then they would be viewed as mental health issues, and the stigma towards mental health means that it’s less likely to be taken seriously.
    The use of the label ‘addiction’ brings legitimacy by invoking the physical dependency experienced by substance addicts, but at the same time does a disservice to the mental health movement by disassociation.

  3. Certainly some people are ‘addicted’ to sex, but chances are it is a small number of people, and most of the claimed ‘addicts’ are just assholes.
    “While society shuns cheaters, we also find it perfectly acceptable – even awesome – for men to bed numerous women, so we are sending a bit of a mixed message in regards to sex addiction.”
    This is not logically consistent. For one, even if I take both your premises as correct, there is no definite conflict. It is very possible to celebrate a man for having sex with tons of women, but only if he is single. If he chooses to commit himself, then he’s changing the rules, and he is no longer awesome for having sex with multiple women, but a cheating scumbag.
    Two different areas.
    However, I don’t think your premises are correct. I think the “men are considered awesome for sleeping with tons of women” complained is rather tired.
    I think there is absolutely a part of society that works that way – but I think it’s getting smaller. Many people do think a guy who sleeps with a lot of women isn’t anything special. Even if they are impressed at what he has managed, many women would have no interest in sleeping with a guy for whom she’ll be another conquest. Men are called out for that behaviour regularly today. Yes, it’s still with a ‘aren’t you naughty’ slant than a ‘you terrible person’, but I don’t think it’s still that simple.
    And as long as most men have to work for sex and most women have it offered to them, there will be some double standard between ‘managing to have sex with lots of people’ and ‘agreeing to have sex with lots of people’.

  4. I don’t believe that some of these famous men are addicted to sex. Why (prepare for some generalizations)? Because for the most part they pursued highly attractive women. This, to me, indicates a “normal” desire to use their fame and power to fuck attractive women. I say normal because that desire is not inherently showing an addiction. I would expect an addict to sleep with anyone they could come across. Do heroin addicts want nice, clean heroin? Do meth addicts want their meth made in a nice lab that’s cleaned with disinfectant after every batch is made? No, they just want their fix. So it would seem logical to me that a sex addict would take it from anyone and everyone, regardless of status and physical appearance. This lack of exclusivity is pointedly lacking in these male celebs.

  5. I would say the proper level of addiction to compare this with would be smokers. If they have good cash flow they buy the highest quality favorite they can get, but when they don’t they go for the cheaper brands.
    I think you have to have and greater constitution then the average man to be famous, rich and good looking. With the over sexual culture we have today may men come predisposed with the desire to have that first “cigarette.” Unlike smoking the cigarettes can approach you and ask to be had.
    I think the apprehension that keeps us from calling this an addiction is that when single women and men sleep we many partners we tend not to call them addicted. However, If we view the behavior much like how we view smoking it becomes okay~ as long as it’s not hurting anyone.
    I don’t really like comparing sex to smoking because I would like to view it as a an emotion filled act of intimacy. The sad truth however is that many women and men have sex for fun and no other reason. I feel that is enough reason to separate sex and love and compare sex to another common act of pleasure.

  6. I can’t recall any celebrity women being called out as being sex addicts but I have noticed that the many celebrity men who have claimed to have this addiction are those who have a Mrs. attached to their address label. Are single Hollywood men immune to this disease? Seems very suspicious to me.

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