19-year-old San Diego City College student Diana Gonzalez was found dead in a campus men’s room nearly a week ago. The prime suspect—unsurprisingly—is her husband of nine months, Armando Gabriel Perez, who has apparently fled to Mexico.
I hate stories like this where escalating domestic violence leads to death. I mean, divorce isn’t pleasant and it isn’t fun, but it’s certainly better than laying dead beside a toilet or finding refuge in a country that masses of people try to escape from …
… every day.
And as Ted Hughes can tell you, sometimes marriages just aren’t meant to work out.
While a warrant has been issued for Perez’s arrest and he faces a hefty prison term if found, it’s frustrating that nobody saw this coming and took preventative action.
Gonzalez had filed for a temporary restraining order against her husband of nine months on Sept. 28 after she told police that he kidnapped, assaulted and raped her over a three-day period.
She told investigators that he ambushed her at her car parked just north of campus the night of Sept. 21 and choked her before kidnapping her. He allegedly held her captive in motels for three days, raping her and threatening to kill her, before letting her go home to her parents in National City. She tried to escape once, but he caught up with her and threatened her, according to the police report
Wow. And while Perez was jailed for a few days, the D.A. decided not to file charges against him (and believe me when I say that I’m getting a little bit tired of D.A.s caring more about their win-loss record than in doing what’s right).
Gonzalez did receive a temporary restraining order against her husband, but it clearly wasn’t worth the paper it was printed on.
And what’s really scary is that this was a recurring theme with this guy.
Perez’s ex-wife had also accused him of domestic violence in February 2009, just months before their divorce was final.
Olga Vera-Perez claimed he choked her and threw her against an entertainment center during an argument over $500, according to court documents.
Perez was charged two months later with battery, but it was dismissed this year, in April, for unknown reasons.
Yeah, Armando Perez was a ticking time bomb. He’d recently been fired from Montbleau and Associates, where he worked as a cabinet maker for fourteen years. He had obligations to both his 10-month-old daughter with Diana Gonzalez and the two children from his marriage to Olga Vera-Perez.
A man with a history of violence, in particular of resorting to using his hands against women he’s intimate with, should never have been allowed the opportunity to stab to death a woman who had gone through the system to obtain a restraining order.
Sadly this happens all the time–to give one of thousands of examples, the very same thing happened on the other side of the country to New Hampshire’s Melissa Charbonneau. Tragic.
There is something very, very wrong with our system.