You know, I honestly thought that Kathryn Jean Lopez was an anomaly in this day and age. Turns out I was dead wrong — there is a frighteningly large number of women willing to submit to the men in their lives, usually in the name of the Bible. It appears that, in some arenas, feminism is under attack in the name of God. Scary stuff!
Vision Forum Ministries recently sponsored “The Baby Conference: A Historic Family Summit on the Triumph of Life over the Culture of Death.” Attendants were able to experience everything from Ladies Tea Time with Michelle Duggar to The Texas Faith and Freedom Historical Tour.
From the Vision Forum Ministries website advertising promoting this conference:
As the world lauds barrenness for economic and personal convenience and marginalizes the value of our aging populace, we purpose [sic] to celebrate life and to explore a myriad of practical and theological issues that are pertinent to Christian families of the twenty-first century, such as: adoption, home birth, the coming cry for euthanasia on the horizon as our elderly generation increases, and the many blessings that come from raising children in the fear of the Lord.
The standard price of admission is $85 for an individual or $299.00 for a family residing in the same household. Children under 5 are free.
So let me get this straight … for the bargain price of $85, I could have celebrated life and explored practical and theological issues like adoption, euthanasia, and scaring the crap out of my kids in the name of God? Man, how did I miss out on this one? Throw in the tea with Michelle Duggar and the religious tour of Texas, and it’s clear as heck that I should be following the internet more regularly to capitalize on opportunities like this.
Okay, I was raised to believe that I could do anything I wanted with my life (within my abilities, of course … at 5’2”, professional basketball would never have been a viable option) regardless of my gender. I never thought of this as novel and I certainly didn’t view my mother as particularly progressive, but it turns out I was wrong on both counts.
There exists, in the year of our Lord 2010, a website called (I shit you not) Ladies Against Feminism.
From their introductory piece:
A wife’s submission has nothing to do with being inferior or unintelligent. Every person on earth has to submit to someone or some thing. Try having everyone do otherwise, and you’ll get anarchy on a massive scale. Men submit to their authorities. Women submit to theirs. What’s the big deal?
What’s the big deal? The big deal is that men are not authorities over women. They’re not.
We are aware that there are blogs and websites out there that slam LAF and take great delight in spreading misinformation, gossip, and rumor about what we stand for. We’ve gotten notes from people who say they’ve read that our husbands don’t allow us out of the house by ourselves, that they pick out all our clothes, order us around like waitresses, etc. Frankly, these rumors are so ridiculous that they don’t even deserve refutation. [Can anyone honestly believe that godly husbands keep their wives on a leash? I sure hope people are more discerning than that!] Concerned readers often ask if we plan to do anything about gossip-mongers and slanderers. The long and the short of it is that we do not read these sites or seek them out. We aren’t Googling them or watching them or paying attention to them. They are in clear violation of Matthew 18 and all biblical principles for confrontation and restoration.
Um … Matthew: 18 is full of loving the lost lamb most and removing body parts (metaphorically speaking) that bother you and forgiveness for everybody. Perhaps I’m just obtuse, but I’m not seeing the connection.
You know, I’m not even going to “take great delight” in ripping this to shreds. No, I’m going to leave that privilege to you, oh wise and wonderful ZL readers. And here’s a sampling of their posts to get you LAFfing started …
I’ve decided that I’m going to continue to behave while making history. Who knows, maybe I’ll be in the history books one day and you may not realize it. I’ll be the mother of the world-changers that you’re reading about.
This is in response to the popular bumper sticker reading “Well-behaved women rarely make history,” by the way. This blogger is evidently content to sit back and raise
sons children who could potentially change the world. She might be okay with that, but I’m not.
Do you see the unvarnished demands of feminism here? Let’s just break it down:
1. I want to set up life on my own terms, orienting my world to orbit around my own desires and needs. That means I’ll have a career when I want it and have children when I want them.
2. Children are nice when they are “convenient” and fit into my timeframe. I want to choose when that will be.
3. Wait a minute, this is not as easy as I thought it would be. I wanted the kids, but I really don’t want to lose my career, and child care is just too financially painful.
4. Government must come up with a solution for me so that this choice isn’t hard any more. I want my employer to pay for me to be a stay-at-home mom when I feel like it, then I want the government to pay for child care when I decide to go back to work. Oh, and I want flex time so that I can work when I feel like it.
Okay, feminism in the 21st century is kind of hard to define (and is arguably in need of a clear and stated definition), but this is definitively and unequivocally not it.
When women work for their own husbands and make their own families successful, they enjoy all the benefits and none of the heartaches of the nonsensical work-family “balance.” Being a part of a family is work. And it’s hard work. But it’s rewarding because it is done for and with our own kith and kin. We aren’t selling our labor to strangers or working thankless hours to please a man we don’t love. Choosing to make our husbands successful means we enjoy the rewards of work and family at the same time–no balancing act required other than the ordinary everyday decisions about priorities and goals that are a normal part of life.
Okay, here’s the thing. While I love my “kith and kin” dearly, it’s a fact that I would not be as good a mother if I didn’t work. I adore my children and cherish every moment I spend with them. That being said, I also love my profession and the difference I’ve been able to make in the lives of thousands of children (I counted). I do not think that my children have missed out in any way, shape, or form by my working full-time (except in the summer, which I’m supposed to have off, but we know how that goes). I am one of those people that needs to be fulfilled both personally and professionally, and I am honestly proud of the example that sets for my daughters.
Can you believe that stuff like this exists in this day and age?