Elisabeth Hasselbeck Thinks Older Women become Lesbians Because Men Don’t Like Them

Yesterday on The View, Elisabeth Hasselbeck, known for her irrational right-wing paranoia, said that the reason older women tend to become lesbians is because men their age go after younger women. She also claims that many of these women are more interested in companionship than sex and they feel drawn to other women because they feel there is a mutual understanding of the female experience. Whoopi felt that this was somewhat true, as she feels women would be better at sex because they know each others’ bodies best.

However, Joy Behar disagreed with Hasselbeck saying that, “being gay is not just holding hands and walking through the tulips.” While some have argued that Hasselbeck was dissing lesbians, I think that there is some truth in what she says, to a certain extent.

The famous writer Susan Sontag, who had a long relationship with photographer Annie Liebowitz said that although she was bisexual, she dated women almost exclusively after she turned 45, since men no longer found her attractive. This seems to be a common theme, as many women tend to get divorced after their children move out of the house and their husbands see little reason to stay married. Where I would disagree with Hasselbeck is that women don’t desire sex in the way I think she means. While perhaps their libidos are not quite as high at 45 plus as they were in their 20s and 30s, many women certainly want intimate relationships and would not settle for celibacy with their partners. I also feel that many women who grew up in a more sexually rigid time period now feel that it is culturally acceptable for them to explore other aspects of their sexuality. Indeed, another side of this coin that serves to prove Hasselbeck wrong is the cougar trend, where older women are behaving just like there male counterparts and going after younger partners themselves. Thus, while Hasselbeck was not totally wrong, she came off sounding more bigoted than ignorant (which is sometimes just as bad), thus she may get some extra flack from those looking to make a bigger story out of this than it really is.



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30 thoughts on “Elisabeth Hasselbeck Thinks Older Women become Lesbians Because Men Don’t Like Them

  1. I don’t think anybody “becomes” gay after a certain age. I couldn’t imagine “becoming” straight in 10 years…

  2. I think Hasselbeck is completely wrong. I recommend finding the clip of this conversation on YouTube or something. I first read about it yesterday on Feministing (video link there), and to hear the tone she uses when she makes those statements is infuriating. Joy Behar proceeded to put the smackdown on Hasselbeck, which was pretty entertaining. These comments prove that Hasselbeck is nothing more than a bigoted, uninformed idiot.

    I see sexuality in the same way as hand-dominance*. Some people are born right-handed, some people are born left-handed, some people are born ambidexterous; just like some people are born straight, some are born gay, and others are born bisexual (or somwhere in between). To imply that sexuality or sexual orientation is a choice or decision is, frankly, ridiculous.

    *Note: In no way do I consider sexuality a strict binary. I fully recognize that there are many more sexualities than straight or gay. However, I use the hand-dominance analogy because hand-dominance is a characteristic with which people are born, not one that is chosen.

  3. Maybe older women stay straight because women don’t like them. There are a lot more older straight women than lesbians : )
    I realized at 40 that I was a lesbian. Men never liked me a whole lot, but I think that may partly have been that they sensed that I didn’t like them a whole lot. I always thought I had a very poor libido because I wasn’t wanting men like my female friends did. Where I grew up and in my family, it wasn’t an option to be gay. So any vague thoughts I had about women I stuffed down and ignored. It wasn’t until much later that I realized what I had been all along. I didn’t “become gay” or “choose to be gay” or “go gay” because I was getting a poor response from men, I simply realized who I always had been but couldn’t admit to myself.

  4. Ohhh Elizabeth…my two year old has waaaaay more brains than you. You need to have your mouth permanently sealed, my dear.

  5. I’m not sure I agree with this. Do men really flock to twentysomethings in their mid-40s? Sure, but certainly not in the numbers that seem to be implied by Hasselbeck and this post. That gives far too little credit to the men who want mature relationships and paints all male post-divorcees as horny poon-chasers lusting after the college girls on spring break. Not all older men want stupid bleach blonde 20-year-olds (and I’m not bashing on bleach blond 20-year-olds, I’m one of them).

  6. In short, women become lesbians because they can’t get a man? I thought that canard went out of style around 1973. Feminism 101, remember?

    Women who come out after 40 do so because they’re no longer as bound by societal gender expectations. They’re more likely to have completed their education, be economically secure, and have raised children. They’ve spent a couple of decades taking care of other people, and are ready to figure out what genuinely fulfills them. The sad news is that some women still suppress their sexuality. The good news? Middle age can be a blast, and a revelation.

  7. I have always thought that the “men don’t like blankety blank women” is a load of crap. There are only two legitimate reasons why a woman cannot find the type of man she desires at any time. 1) Circus Ugly 2) So batsh*t crazy she cannot tell the difference between “Excuse me would you mind moving to the side, you’re blocking the door” and “All women are sluts! RAWWWWWWWWRRRRRRR!”.

  8. Oh, and just for the record. I get the feeling that she is like 5-7 years from having a “realization” about herself “wink wink”.

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  10. I think that biologically it makes perfect sense that some women who were primarily attracted to men would begin to feel more drawn to women once they reach middle age. If you think about it, the purpose of people at the most basic is to procreate. Therefore throughout history and our evolution when people were living in small tribes and clans it would make sense that once a woman reached an age where they were no longer viable for procreation their attractions would begin to lean toward other women of a similar age so that the men were free to turn their attentions toward the younger females who were more likely to concieve and birth a healthy child. These older women would then be able to count on one another for emotional, physical and sexual “support”.

  11. The worst part is that she’s a woman given the rare opportunity of being on television. Men are all over the tv and movies. She has the chance to say something and it’s all just drivel.

  12. I can’t wait until she gets older. Why is is we women are always represented by cute but brain dead puppets on TV? I keep expecting to see Dick Cheney’s hand in her back making her talk. She lives in her bubble of perfection. Either you fit in or you do not. She could never understand the opinions of others because she only spends time with like minded people. The world is not black and white. It’s all shades of gray and anyone who can’t see that is blind and I feel sorry for them.

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  15. This current, fashionable phenomenon (see O Magazine fall 2009) of straight women “trying out being with another woman” IS SUCH NONSENSE!

    What kind of society have we become that we glorify women like Cynthia Nixon who leave the fathers of their children to have affairs with other women????? This disgusting behavior is considered an “exploration of newfound lesbian and blossoming sexual awakening,” and ridiculous talking heads and psychological theorists suddenly claim all women are “sexually fluid” instead of pointing out how extreme the abyss of values in America has become. Would we glorify such behavior if Nixon left to have an affair with another man? No! But instead, articles are written about “sexual fluidity in women” and “the awakening of a woman’s lesbian sexuality.”

    Every bit of REAL, non-politicized science has no firm biological conclusions about sexuality but does include a firm awareness of an age old truth: PEOPLE SCREW AROUND. People screw around in any way that is condoned in society. And today’s society constantly gives straight women so many messages to “try out being with a woman” as if such behavior is a positive. And so it is becoming more common among older women, plus more “experimentation” is happening among younger women with a huge number of young people calling themselves ‘bisexual’ and phrases like “I’m into girls…”

    Perfectly straight women becoming/trying out screwing women is much more common in today’s American society because it is SO accepted and encouraged EVERYWHERE, especially in the media. If Americans decided this behavior among straight women was repugnant and an affront to the real struggles of ACTUAL LESBIANS whose firm sexual orientation emerges at a young age – not middle aged nonsense – would we see Lindsay Lohan on 60 Minutes saying ‘um I guess I’m bi…?” OF COURSE NOT.

    Elizabeth Hasselbeck spoke her mind about a real, ridiculous behaviors going on in America which underscore the oversexed, pleasure-focused, morally bankrupt society we have become. Her ‘conservative’ opinion in the midst of liberal, politically correct women doesn’t make her a paragon of “right-wing paranoia.”

  16. Question: How is it an affair if she’s already left her husband? So it’s better to stay with someone you don’t love, hide who you really are and squash every natural physical biological urge you have? Perhaps it’s noble to attempt that but as we’ve seen time and time and time again, it doesn’t work. I can’t even count how many politicians, celebrities, and priests have been rumored to secretly be gay. Headlines all the time suggest they’re having affairs. Yes, gossip columns are deplorable and not a trusted news outlet but plenty of politicians have come out. Instead of saying “hey everyone, I’m gay” it’s had to be “hey everyone, I’m gay and because society has made me feel ashamed about it, I’ve had to find less than safe and un-moral ways to express my homosexuality.” I think the take home message is that no matter what, in the end you’re not going to be able to hide who you are forever so instead of putting up a phasod (sp?) which in the end will hurt people around you, we all just have to be who we are from the beginning.

    I remember watching SATC with my college roommates and couldn’t believe Nixon wasn’t gay. I debated it with them and their only argument was “but she’s married and has kids!” So? That equally supports the idea that she just hasn’t accepted it yet. Yes, we wouldn’t be applauding her had she left her husband for another man (unless of course he was abusive and such) but that’s because no one applauds divorce. What we do applaud is being brave enough to stand up against a society that can be horribly cruel to homosexuals. There is literally no way she could have stayed with her husband and been happy.

    Maybe there are some women out there that will see what Nixon did, how brave she was to come out but how much it impacted her family and choose to take that big leap BEFORE creating an entire lifestyle and self-image that is entirely false.

    Another key point I think you’re missing is that these women are gay from birth. You’re right, no one wakes up one day and decides to become gay. They only wake up and decide to accept they’re gay. They may not have realized it because the pressures to be straight are so overwhelming in this country that it’s very likely a lot of people are in complete and utter denial most of their lives. My uncle was married for 20 years with two children before he realized it. My mother, however, always knew he was. From the inside, he couldn’t see that his behavior and thoughts were “gay”. They were just who he was and in a society where straight is perceived as the only norm, why would he have thought he was any different?

    I think a lot of these women who say they aren’t gay but are just choosing to live a gay lifestyle because it’s easier in their older age are STILL in denial. They’re gay but don’t want the backlash from society. So instead of getting dejected from those who don’t believe in homosexuality, they just get pitied as poor lonely old women who are so desperate for companionship that they’ll shack up with another lady.

  17. women that are lesbians to begin with are dirty, low life, diseased, infested pigs. they are the filth that god created. i always wondered why would god create such filth like this, especially that a lot of us good straight men are looking to meet decent women today. did i say decent women? where the hell are they today?

    • Decent women are those you see running like mad AWAY from men that have the temerity and lack of knowledge of the human condition to call any segment of the population “dirty, low life, diseased, infested pigs. they are the filth that god created.”

      • for your information blurry, in my state women are low life pigs, especially the lesbians. good men cannot meet decent women today. why should we blame ourselves, for these women that turned out to be garbage today. absolutely not, that is for sure. even the ones that are straight, are very nasty and have a very bad attitude now. if your so smart, what the hell is up with that?

      • Well… God doesn’t create filth, but there are plenty of dirty, low life, and disease people, men and women both. Unfortunately women in particular tend to have no hard coded moral code. They are submissive to the dominant meme and will describe any behavior they happen to practice as justifiable, even if it is repugnant and destructive to the human condition. There is no evolutionary basis for a woman to desire to lick pu$$y except for the desire to be evil. Evil is the intentional corruption of the human pysche, going against innate wiring, doing things that cause unhealthfulness and trauma, both physical and emotional. Humans have unfortunately lost touch with the meaning of good and evil and this always results in some major catastrophe that brings understandings back in line.

        • to Matt, i will have to say that in my STATE where i live, many women are LESBIANS TODAY. so much more women today, are CERTAINLY into other women now than ever before. do you have an ANSWER for that?, i sure don’t. even the ones that appear to be STRAIGHT, are very hard to START a CONVERSATION with. they are so very NASTY to talk too, and have such an ATTITUDE PROBLEM. by the way, i live down the SHORE and they think that their SHIT DON’T STINK. many of them seem to be playing that GAME, who is better. i am a STRAIGHT MAN, that had been married at one time, but she turned out to be THE FILTHY WHORE that i never knew. i was very COMMITTED to her, and LOVED her very much at the time thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my LIFE with her. but that obviously never happened. i am in my LATE FIFTIES, so it does make it that MUCH HARDER for me to meet a good STRAIGHT WOMAN now. i can’t BLAME MYSELF, since i am looking to meet a good woman, and hopefully START a new relationship again. can’t BLAME me for that CAN YOU? it is so sad that we live in DIFFERENT TIMES that women have to be so MEAN AND NASTY today. there are so many women today that are FILTHY WHORES, these are the women that like men, but need a DIFFERENT MAN for each day of the week to keep their SORRY ASS happy. GOD FORBID, if they were just to have ONLY ONE MAN to be with, that would be a MIRACLE. so you can see why i am a VERY BITTER PERSON, since i been very hurt by women. if i can only meet a GOOD ONE, it would be like WINNING THE LOTTERY.

        • to Matt, i will have to say that in my STATE where i live, many women are LESBIANS TODAY. so much more women today, are CERTAINLY into other women now than ever before. do you have an ANSWER for that?, i sure don’t. even the ones that appear to be STRAIGHT, are very hard to START a CONVERSATION with. they are so very NASTY to talk too, and have such an ATTITUDE PROBLEM. by the way, i live down the SHORE and they think that their SHIT DON’T STINK. many of them seem to be playing that GAME, who is better. i am a STRAIGHT MAN, that had been married at one time, but she turned out to be THE FILTHY WHORE that i never knew. i was very COMMITTED to her, and LOVED her very much at the time thinking that i was going to spend the rest of my LIFE with her. but that obviously never happened. i am in my LATE FIFTIES, so it does make it that MUCH HARDER for me to meet a good STRAIGHT WOMAN now. i can’t BLAME MYSELF, since i am looking to meet a good woman, and hopefully START a new relationship again. can’t BLAME me for that CAN YOU? it is so sad that we live in DIFFERENT TIMES that women have to be so MEAN AND NASTY today. there are so many women today that are FILTHY WHORES, these are the women that like men, but need a DIFFERENT MAN for each day of the week to keep their SORRY ASS happy. GOD FORBID, if they were just to have ONLY ONE MAN to be with, that would be a MIRACLE. so you can see why i am a VERY BITTER PERSON, since i been very hurt by women. if i can only meet a GOOD ONE, it would be like WINNING THE LOTTERY.

  18. i cannot understand it, as a straight man that was married twice at one time i was a very caring and loving husband that never cheated on them. they both did cheat on me, and i was very committed to them as well. when i go out now i do seem to meet the nastiest women with their no good attitude as well. what is up with that? i am not doing anything wrong, the way i see it. many women are just into women now, rather than being with men. they are just low life trash, the way i see it. no wonder why good men like us cannot meet a good woman today, if there are any left.

  19. there are so many women out there now that need to be with other women, since they cannot make it with a man, lesbians are a dime a dozen today, especially where i live. half of the women now are lesbians today to begin with, making it much harder for us straight men that are really looking to meet a nice woman today.

  20. these type of women that are out there are just losers to begin with, and are not worth the time of day. i just consider them a freak of nature.

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