You know, as sad as it is, many rape victims feel that they were at least partially to blame for their sexual assault, usually because they feel they “egged” on their perpetrator at one point, or in another case, were friends with their assailant and felt that they should have given in easier or something equally pitiful. It’s a sad, sad thing when an individual (male or female; rape knows no victim discrimination) feels the need to take some of the responsibility for their horrific experience in an effort to assert more control over the situation — and that’s precisely what it is: a fledgling grasp to feel at least remotely responsible and in control, to a certain extent, for the ultimate violation which they suffered at the hands of another.
Rape is a sick, twisted power play that often has nothing to do with sexual attraction, and while this is the case, any male or female who insinuates that their victim was “asking for it” is even further deluded than society could ever truly fathom.
A Scottish organization known as “Not Ever” tackles this issue head-on with the recently-filmed video above (which I highly recommend you watch, if you haven’t already). The video was filmed with the perpetuated myth in mind that some people “ask” for their sexual assault, whether overtly or in a less-direct, and more subliminal (say, you know, because of the skirt that they’re wearing, for example), manner.
The video, I’ll warn you, is almost appalling in its clarity, and doesn’t hold punches when it comes to discussing rape and how people feel that some women — mostly men — “ask for it.”
You can get involved with the “Not Ever” movement here, and I definitely urge you to do so — it’s clearly a worthy cause.
Regardless of what some people think, there’s no excuse for rape — in any way, shape or form — ever.