While sibling molestation is an often under-discussed topic in today’s society, it didn’t deter Precious star, Mo’Nique, from admitting to being a victim when she was a young child.
Mo’Nique spoke with Essence magazine almost two years ago and raised allegations against her own brother for incestuous behaviors when the two were seven and thirteen, respectively.
Initially, Mo’Nique stated that although she had voiced her concerns to her parents about the abuse, no one believed her enough to do anything:
“I was molested by my older brother. And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done … I’m not blaming my parents because me and my brother were both their children, and I just don’t know the kind of position they felt they were in. My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again. I’ll never forget my mother saying, ‘If it’s true, it will surface again,’ and I remember thinking, Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?”
While her parents didn’t initially believe her or agree that there were bad circumstances afoot, it didn’t stop her brother from coming forward — years and years later — on Oprah to admit and apologize for his behavior.
Mo’Nique’s brother, Gerald Imes, was a guest on Oprah’s talk show today and discussed the allegations pending against him for many years. He blames the molestation incidents on the fact that he, himself, was molested and had been under the influence of some pretty hard drugs at a very young age. Imes spoke exclusively to Oprah and stated:
“I started using cocaine, heroine, alcohol at the age of 11. I used these drugs to hide my own pain, to hide my own fears. The drugs allowed me and afforded me the opportunity to hurt my sister.”
Imes is now asking for Mo’Nique’s forgiveness and claims that he wants to repair the myriad years of estrangement and bad feelings by starting fresh with a clean familial slate.
Do you think it’s possible to start over after a close family member has hurt you in such a deep way? Is it ever possible to completely forgive a person in this capacity for completely obliterating your child-like innocence? Even if you found you were able to forgive, would you want this person as a close part of your life in the thereafter?