Rielle Hunter spoke out earlier this week for the first televised interview since allegations of the John Edwards affair broke and she subsequently gave birth to the child that Edwards had vehemently denied parenting.
If you didn’t catch the interview, you can watch a great synopsis of the interview here at Jezebel, because the entire interview just isn’t worth watching. It’s just going to anger you over the entire situation. Or put you to sleep, one or the other.
However, a lot of women (like the ones on The View) are pitting the majority of the responsibility on Hunter, rather than Edwards, who was the married one. Jenny Sanford, another “cheated upon” wife of the politically-shunned Mark Sanford, was guest on the episode and put her two cents in on the interview with Oprah.
You know, while Hunter knowingly engaged in a relationship with a married man, I hardly think the entire thing (including the pregnancy, obviously) is her fault. It does take two to tango. What is the most maddening thing to me, in any case, is that the wife is usually angrier at the mistress than she is at her own philandering husband. Was there some sort of kinship that women are supposed to share — because they’re women — that should prevent women from engaging in a relationship with the husband of another woman? It’s a nice sentiment, but it’s completely wrong. Not everyone is Miss Rosy-Posy-I’d-Never-Steal-Your-Husband. You fell in love with him, what’s to say that other women won’t? It’s not realistic. While Elizabeth Edwards should blame her husband — and only her husband — it’s not for the world to decide who was ultimately at fault.
These two people, Edwards and Hunter, engaged in a relationship and behaviors that were not morally right based upon the marriage vows that Edwards had taken. I think what they did was completely wrong and reprehensible, because that’s my opinion, but I’m not going to apportion blame to a person (namely Hunter) who only listened to what her heart allegedly told her. Although she acted upon it and didn’t “do the right thing,” whatever the “right thing” is in each and every particular case, is aside from the matter at hand.
If you want to superfluously blame just one, it better be the husband who encouraged the unethical attention and fostered the feelings of another person to begin with — or you better be pitting the blame on both.