Call me the eternal optimist, but my marriage with my husband is a walk in the park and is constantly being viewed — by the two of us — through rose-colored glasses. While I’m aware that not everyone in today’s society is lucky enough or devoted enough to their marriages to be as happy as we are, I remain thankful that my particular set of circumstances are what they are: deliriously happy.
Fawn Weaver, proprietor of website happywivesclub.com agrees and raises me one. Weaver was sick and tired of marriage being stigmatized into the old ball-and-chain stereotype — whether the male or female was the ball — and looked into her own marriage to find out what it was that was so “abnormal” in today’s society. Her take on it? People — whether it’s co-workers in the office or shows like The Real Housewives of wherever the fuck — glamorize being unhappy. It gives them something to talk about. You all know the type: they’re totally unhappy and off-kilter unless they have something to complain about. It drives the ever-loving hell out of me, too. I’ve defriended people on Facebook for such actions — and yes, I take it that seriously.
Weaver claims that the only guideline to participating in her forums is to “do nothing but say positive things.” Although some people might consider this a detriment to feminism as a whole, Weaver herself is no stay-at-home nag that watches sappy movies all day long and cooks and cleans only to ensure her husband’s happiness, no matter how fleeting. Weaver is an executive at a hotel chain and claims to maintain a stringent work ethic along with balancing her home “duties.”
I love Weaver’s idea. While there are probably just as many unhappy women in relationships as there are in happy ones, I think it’s a good thing to concentrate on the good because it’s just as easy to fall into the pessimistic, negative pit that love just isn’t what it used to be. Congratulations you wonderfully-positive women, you, and may your upbeat, can-do attitude transcend into every facet of your lives.