We’ve all read the recently released Tiger Woods-to-Joslyn James sexts by now … and if you haven’t, you can find the complete works at Sextingjoslynjames.com.
If you’d rather not, good for you. You’d just want to wash your brain out after anyway.
Whether you know the details or not, I’m curious as to whether Zelda Lily readers feel like releasing the texts was a step too far. In a perfect world, I’d like to think we wouldn’t know this much about anybody’s marital/extra-marital shenanigans. But we’re in this world, the texts are out there, and there’s no going home again. On the one hand, I think of the golfer’s family — haven’t they been humiliated enough? And if Tiger’s wife, Elin, was truly considering a reconciliation — if she was truly doing all the emotional work it takes to forgive – will it be spoiled by these down-and-dirty specifics?
On the other hand, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, and maybe James feels Tiger deserves all he has coming. Perhaps I’m naive, but judging by her press conference she appeared to have genuine feelings for Woods. (Not to say what they did was morally upright.)
But these explicit texts don’t just hurt and embarrass her ex-lover — these messages will haunt innocent parties. Fortunately for James, she has protected herself from some substantial embarrassment by not including her messages. By publishing a half-truth, she has downsized her own part in pursuing the affair. As for Tiger, in addition to being revealed as a bad speller with somewhat abusive-sounding sexual proclivities, he comes off (oh dear) as the sole architect of the betrayal, and the only one of them who advocated choking and slapping during sex. (For all we know, she was into it. It takes all kinds.)
At the end of the day, I don’t think revenge — however sweet — is worth inflicting pain on someone’s family. Two wrongs don’t make a right, am I right?