Feature
- Mental Health Screenings Not Necessary in Abortions
- The Burqa Ban is ON!
- Middle-Class Moms and Alcoholism: A Rising Epidemic?
- Murderous Moms: The Peters Tragedy
- Does Being a Pear-Shape Affect Long-Term Memory?
- Is Joan Rivers a Matriarch of Feminism?
- Mother-Murdering Teen Addresses the Media From Jail
- Forget Ron Burgundy ... Anchorladies on the rise!
- Celebrate! Argentina Legalizes Same-Sex Marriage!
- Saudi Group Using “Prophet of Four” Concept to Control Women
The latest issue of Marie Claire has people talking — about sex, natch, and how many it actually takes to tango. The right way.
Contributor Pamela Druckerman states that in planning her husband’s 40th birthday bash, instead of asking for the obligatory tie or briefcase, her husband had requested a threesome — which, had my husband requested a threesome for a birthday, instead of honoring his request, I’d have to grant him a divorce as a birthday present. But hey … that’s just me.
However, although she approved of the ménage à trois, it was under strict condition that she choose the other woman. Druckerman claims that after naming various female friends (even pregnant ones!), her husband pretty much okayed every. single. one. She’s either got some pretty hot friends or this dude’s just not that discriminating. After seeking out various candidates, none had made the cut at that point.
Druckerman took it as her one do-or-die event to accomplish and went to the internet to seek a woman who’d be interested in sharing their bed. She finally finds “the one” on a website offering swingers-type arrangements and chooses to meet her due to her perfect spelling and grammar in electronic communications. (I kind of … get that, actually.) She meets with the woman a total of three times before D-Day.
Although the piece in Marie Claire was a two-part story and not yet available on the internet, the fabulous gals over at Jezebel took it upon themselves to actually purchase a printed magazine (who still does that?) and read the finale. Evidently, after much planning, all parties pulled out of the arrangement citing opinions that the planning had become too “boring” and had taken much of the excitement out of the prospect.
I’ve never had much of an interest in three-ways and what have you, but I think the story turned out quite interesting for the Marie Claire writer and her husband. It’s amazing the things that can pop up in a relationship that can either make you or break you — clearly she and her husband were comfortable enough with the idea to investigate it, pursue it and ultimately nix it, but I can tell you: it shows the spectrum of people’s tolerance levels because if my husband seriously asked me for a threesome after all of the time that we’ve been together … I don’t know, man. It wouldn’t be good. I can definitely say that it’d completely change my view of both him and the relationship. I probably wouldn’t be able to continue with our marriage, simply on the grounds that sexual fidelity, to me, is something that has to be mandatory common ground. When I experienced younger, wilder days I might not have thought twice about it but when marriage enters the picture, in my experiences, situations and circumstances change.
What do you guys think? Are you for or against that third (or more) person in the bedroom?
-
-
23
var feedback_widget = new GSFN.feedback_widget(feedback_widget_options);
I would like to have a threesome with another woman, and my husband says he wouldn’t mind it. I was recently invited to participate in a threesome with some married friends of mine, but since my husband wasn’t part of the invitation I had to decline. =)
I’m thinking about marrying two women.
An upstairs wife and a downstairs wife?
You like King of Queens too?
I was hoping someone would get the reference!
I don’t know how I feel about this.
I am incredibly greedy.
Didn’t you go to kindergarden,thats where you learn how to share. Hell,the way things are going,after you learn about three somes,they hand out condoms then its nap time.
Nope.
No kindergarten.
Just from encounters I have either read about or heard first person, I think most people are asking for trouble. For me, not in a million years. It’s a great fantasy, but unless I was pretty well drugged of drunked up (not in the picture anymore either), not gonna happen.
I really agree with Sarah on this one. Again, I’m not going to disparge anyone that enjoys threesomes though.
The way I see it, if my bf won’t go for a threesome with another guy for me, fuck no am I going to have one with another chick. Fair’s fair.
If I were bi this would be an entirely different matter. Sometimes I think it would be way more fun if I were…haha.
I think that’s totally fair.
To be honest, if I was asked to bring in an extra partner, I might not say no. It could make things more interesting. If you act adult and set up ground rules I don’t think it has to hurt your relationship. But I would also demand boy-boy-girl in return. Hey–fair is fair. If I’m willing to give it a go, they better be too.
Also I don’t think I believe in perfect monogamy over 30-50 years. Not just for men, but for women as well. I think it’s a nice goal. But often imperfect. I’d much rather my husband come to me when thinking of having sex outside the marriage, than do like so many other men do and go to a pro or pick up a girl at the bar.
I’ll take honesty any time over lies.
I think it just depends on the couple. If you are solid on the us and no one else thing, then you should both know better than to ask for anything else. If that’s not necessarily how your marriage works go forth and do what does.
I had a bunch of them in my misspent youth – 3 girls (damp). guy guy girl (painful ) and girl girl guy ( good as long as the guy knows his place) and I got over it.
If you are in a relationship, I have lived it and I have seen it, they cause trouble.
Thank God my slutty husband has had enough of them too so he doesn’t want one. he said if I ever wanted to I could have sex with another woman while he watched, but I dont want to have sex with anyone but him, in my heart of hearts.
I could see how it would be painful with the guy guy girl. Only so many orfices, pin cushion effect. Plus I think it’s hard enough to concentrate on just one act, way worse than walking and chewing gum at the same time!! Even thinking about it feels like work! Haha!
I think in the very begininng of my own relationship, like the first 2 or 3 months, I would have been open to a threesome. Once I realized I wanted this man for keeps, it was definitely off the table. We had the oppertunity to do it with one of our mutual friends but it was him who kept his attention only on me. He told me later he really considered it but he didn’t want to risk me thinking he wasn’t serious about us. Military relationships are precarious as it is. He’s a smart man, my husband! :)
[...] Planning a Threesome to Spice Up Your Marriage – Zelda Lily [...]
Don’t know, I mean it’s such a personal choice and it depends so much on what your relationship is like…! I don’t know whether I’d accept or not, frankly.
I’ve missed you! I was even thinking “God, hope the girl is ok and nothing has happened. Naw, she’s just busy with school and life.”
God, I’m slowly turning into my mother!!!
There is just no way my fiance and I would ever participate in a threesome. That’s one of the sacred cardinal sex rules my fiance and I have.
We draw the line on gas powered sex toys,battery and solar only.
What, no lawn mowers??? I’m shocked Joey, I thought you were more open than that.
brings a whole new meaning to mulching.
what good timing for this week’s postsecret: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_a7jkcMVp5Vg/S27wBUAbgJI/AAAAAAAALCM/QI0GymSWF6g/s1600-h/standup.jpg
[...] I guess there are healthier ways to spice up your marriage than embracing the swinger lifestyle. Scientists are apparently concerned, because this [...]