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After admitting to People magazine last month that she went under the knife for ten procedures in one day, Heidi Montag took the long walk back to her hometown of Crested Butte, Colorado, to visit with her mother and flash her new … cough, appendages.
Although Heidi’s mother had already stated an opinion to the effect of displeasure at plastic surgery, it didn’t prevent Montag from heading on home to show off her new assets. According to Heidi, the reunion which was filmed for The Hills, ended up being a bust. Montag states that her mother looked at her as if she were a “circus freak.”
As a mom, I can side just a little here with Montag’s mother, Darlene Egelhoff. Imaging looking at your perfect, beautiful offspring and seeing a mere shadow of who they used to be. I’m not saying that Egelhoff’s alleged response was the right one but how could a mother truly embrace such a drastic change on a child she raised from birth? I know if my daughter came home with thousands and thousands (and thousands more) worth of plastic surgery, I’d be a bit taken aback, too.
On her current relationship with her mother, Heidi states:
“I tried to leave it [Crested Butte] as best as I could, but my heart was breaking.”
Heidi also claims that her decision to undergo such dramatic plastic surgeries was due to the desire to be “the most beautiful, inside and out.”
As much as I’ve kind of despised this girl in the past, I really kind of feel bad for her. Her self-esteem is damaged beyond the point where any plastic surgery could possibly repair it. To have multiple appearance-altering surgeries in order to become the person you want to be … I don’t know. It seems a little much to me. I’m no beauty queen by far, but I know that even if I had the money that half of these Hollywood starlets do, I sure wouldn’t be wasting it on facial reconstruction. Would the thought cross my mind? Probably. But I couldn’t imagine seeing a different face in the mirror than the one that I’ve grown accustomed to over the past twenty-six years — as much as I’d want to on some days.
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I feel for her mother. It must be awful to see your child doing that to themselves. I imagine she’s spent a lot of time wondering where she went wrong.
Would you agree that parents of children seeking gender-reassignment feel the same?
Since gender assignment is an inborn thing (and has nothing to do with how a child was raised) no, I imagine they wouldn’t. Unless they think it’s “choice” like the parents of some gay people do.
How old is Heidi now? 23? My mother was still smack-dab in the middle of all my business (hell, who am I kidding, she still is!) at that age! Parenting doesn’t stop at 18. Her mother’s first mistake was allowing her daughter to be filmed by MTV while still in high school. I understand child actors, but to allow your daughter to be on a show that is all about superficiality, s.ex, and drama is just irresponsible in my eyes. What mother wants their beautiful, insecure, young daughter on the TV screen in a bikini, making out with guys, driving around in BMWs, making a buck off their youthful indescretions? Not my mother, I can tell you that much.
This is just a really sad situation. I honestly feel bad for Heidi. I used to just despise the crap out of her, but I think she may have some serious issues to deal with.
I was married at 22. The minute I was married, my parents totally backed off being that involved in my life. They didn’t stop parenting, but they respected that I was married and needed to make my own decisions and mistakes.
Heidi was married at 22 as well so it’s possible that her parents have stepped back in order to let her and her husband become adults.
I realize, of course, that these two idiots are incapable of being adults but her parents might be blind to that reality.
But where were her parents before? The fact that she had 10 procedures in one day is a flashing, florescent strobe light that proclaims “HELP ME!!!” Does she not communicate with her mother ever? Did her mother not know about this before it happened? How do you NOT tell your mother when you’re going in for surgery? Does her mother not say, “Heidi, you’re so beautiful. How’s married life? Are you happy? Tell me how you’re feeling.” ???
I’m not saying that parents shouldn’t back off once their children have lives of their own, but it just seems like her parents were completely absent the last 5 years of her life. Her mother’s reaction should definitely not be to look at her daughter like a “circus freak,” but to sit down and ask her why on Earth she felt the need to do this.
I tolly agree Whit. I am nearly 30, am married with offspring (not the band) and my mother lives on the other side of the globe. And she is totally in my business. With the power of email and telephone the woman parents by remote control. And when she is getting too suffocaty she says “i know its none of my business and I am overstepping boundaries but….”
Heidi Montag’s mother should realise that being a parent is not being a yes man or a best buddy – its being a parent.
Exactly! Thank you! When I moved 1,000 miles away from my Mom, she did the exact same thing! She still never hesitates to tell me when she thinks I have my head stuck up my ass.
if i do something she doesn’t want me to do:
phone: [pregnant pause ]“well it is your life….”
email: [start email] thats nice…. [end email].
they learn passive parenting.
OMG. I get the pregnant pause, then “…..okay” with this little head shake and eyebrow raise (that I can literally hear and see OVER the phone!). Also, the huff. The quick exhale of exasperation. But dammit, I love her. :)
My daughter is 17 (and a 1/2) so I’m trying to start pulling back on little things. You know, getting practice for when she’s an actual adult.
I say things like, “I bet you can tell me why I hate that idea. Now try to convince me I shouldn’t.”
It causes her to think it through herself with an actual adult perspective. It works most of the time too!
We’ll see how long that lasts…
That’s a really smart idea! I may stick that back for when I have a teenager!
“Her mother’s first mistake was allowing her daughter to be filmed by MTV while still in high school.”
Yeah. Her mom shoulda said, “I realize you think this is an amazing opportunity, and you’ll probably make a whole lot of money, but hell no.”
My foot would have been put so far down on that one it would’ve caused an earthquake.
Right?! It just seems like total common sense for me to NOT allow my young daughter to be se.xualized at a young age in front of MILLIONS! Call me crazy!
I’m afraid it’s just going to become much, much worse for her.
Heidi Montag is really messed up. I’m not saying that to be mean; she seriously has issues.
She went from looking like the all American girl to a porn star,bad move Heidi. Bonnie Hunt is going to have the doctor(being generous there)who did the procedures on her show tomorrow. Hope she rips him a new one.
I almost think Heidi needs someone to give her that look that says she’s gone too far and needs to stop. Certainly, her mother could have made better choices in the past, but that can’t be changed now. What can be changed is Heidi’s addiction and her self esteem; I think that having people, especially her mother, refrain from fawning over her new changes is probably a good thing.
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Blaming the mother for a grown woman’s actions in this case doesn’t compute with me. It’s called accountability – taking responsibility for one’s own actions. We are all eff’d up in one way or another for christ sake, and crying about how your mother didn’t tell you were pretty often enough is b*llsh*t. Obviously Heidi isn’t in the right frame of mind to realize she’s turned herself into a freak, but someday she’ll have to come to terms with it.
Must be awful for her to see how her daughter looks nothing like the child she raised.