And by “traditional,” I mean she saved her virginity for her husband.
Tina Fey, business bombshell and diatribe dynamo, speaks out about her personal choices on a rather revealing David Letterman show.
While current controversy regarding sexual relations swirls around Letterman and his late show, it comes as an almost welcome breath of fresh air that there still are individuals in popular society that consider their sacred choice to withhold sex to be that of a moral one.
Letterman, on his show, recounted various women who had held onto their virginities past sixteen and Tina had arrived on the list, stating that she had just about topped the record and had given it up at age twenty-four to — her husband.
Fey joked that it was either “just good, Christian values, or, being homely.”
I’d have to beg the former rather than the latter, as Tina Fey, in my opinion, is one of Hollywood’s bright, sexy and down-to-earth women and there’s nothing more appealing than a good combination of those three traits.
I, myself, was raised in a Christian home and had values instilled in me that sex was to be waited for until marriage. However, and despite years of being told otherwise, I had lost my virginity at eighteen – which is still a pretty good wait, in my opinion, considering there are twelve and thirteen year-olds nowadays that treat sex as flippantly casual as a trip to grocery – to my high school sweetheart. I can hardly say that I regret doing the deed prior to sanctimonious marriage, but I do give the individuals who do commit themselves to waiting some pretty mad props.
What about you ladies and gents? At what age (unless you yet haven’t) did you give it away? Do you think that women, particularly, are stigmatized more nowadays for losing their virginities at younger ages as opposed to men?
Good for Tina Fey–she is always quite the calss act, that one.
I’m with you, Sarah–raised Christian but lost my V-card at the age of 18 to the love of my life. It may not have been marriage, but at least I was an adult and with the man that I am going to marry and am madly in love with.
*CLASS act. Darn typos.
There’s nothing wrong with losing your virginity pre-marriage so long as it’s for the right reason: LOVE. Your first time should be special.
There’s nothing wrong with losing your virginity HOWEVER YOU WANT
I completely agree! It’s a personal choice that no one can take away. As long as you’re smart and safe about it and you aren’t hurting anyone else, it’s your own business. The high value placed on virginity in women makes them think that sex is bad, a sentiment that is extremely difficult to replace.
TOTALLY agree.
I meant– there is no “right” way to lose your virginity. To each their own.
I lost my virginity because I wanted to start having sex. It worked for me.
I actually agree with you…I’m not saying it’s bad to lose it with someone you don’t love but I feel like it might be better with someone you do love. Then again you can only lose it once so I can’t really compare.
Well, let me put it this way…when I lost my virginity, it was messy, painful, and did not live up to my expectations at all. However, because I had done it with the love of my life (who also lost his virginity to me, btw), it was actually a beautiful experience. The fact that we shared that kind of love took something thoroughly mediocre and made it into something amazing.
Of course, as you said, it’s something you can’t really compare…but I’m glad that it happened the way it did for me.
Exactly!!
It actually worked out the other way for me. I think if my first time had been with someone I loved, I’d've been paralyzed with anxiety. I’d want it to be wonderful for him, but have no idea exactly how to make it that way, and I’d be very, very shy about asking to try anything, or asking for feedback on what I’m doing, because I’d care WAY too much what he thought of me for it. It probably would’ve been pretty traumatic for me, looking back on it now.
Luckily for me, I made the very carefully thought-out choice to lose my virginity to a guy who had a ton of experience, always used protection, and had no qualms about telling me when I was doing something unpleasant and showing me better techniques. He really, really helped me understand how important it is for a woman to be more than a passive part of the sexual experience, and he very patiently worked with me through my self-confidence issues until I was able to assert myself and my needs, and to instigate sexual encounters without feeling like Queen Sluttina of the Slut People.
It was great. I learned a lot, I was in a really safe environment with a guy who respected me and made sure I was comfortable every step of the way, and in my case (although I would NOT advocate this for other girls since it has the potential to go so horribly wrong) it helped clear up a lot of self esteem hang-ups I had that might’ve gotten in the way of a real relationship. The sex wasn’t GREAT or anything, but I’m nonetheless very happy that I did it that way.
Some years later, I’m now with my fiancee, who I obviously care for very much, and we’re still discovering new things together since neither of us has much of a sexual history. I don’t think I could’ve been so open with my husband-to-be about my likes and dislikes, and so open to his ideas on what to try (and then able to frankly evaluate whether or not we liked it and whether or not we’d wanna do it again), had my first guy not taught me how to assert myself and have fun. Whatever I “gave up” to my first, he gave me something far more important in return, and I’ll treasure that forever.
So yeah, it’s different for everyone, and there’s no right answer, nor do girls who give it up have any fewer morals than the girls who wait, nor are the girls who wait any less fun than the girls who don’t. For me, I didn’t want my first time to be with the love of my life – I wanted to work hard and get good in bed so that when the love of my life finally showed up, I could rock his world. :)
Now I’m super jealous of Nat…
I was 16. My boyfriend was 18 and we waited until my 16th birthday so it would be legal. I remembered thinking “this is it?” It wasn’t a big deal to me. I had no attachment to my virginity and I had no shame in enjoying sex. I still have no shame in enjoying sex, which is a good thing for my husband.
I was 21. I was actually really eager to get my first time out of the way. I still waited until I found someone I really liked, but it was never something that was super important for me.
That was the same for me. I was 19 and not hugely attatched to my virginity but I didn’t just want to give it away. I don’t regret it.
Mine was exactly the same, other than the age.
I was 16 and my boyfriend was 25. I was on birth control, we were together for over 7 years, and he was a really good person and we parted on good terms. I don’t regret it at all. I don’t believe there is any shame in enjoying sex, but honestly, for me personally, I have to really care for someone to enjoy it. And I am still learning, in my late twenties, that guys really will say whatever they think you want to hear to get in your pants. I regret that I learned this through trial and error.
wait, so you started dating when you were 9 and he was 18??
She didn’t say they were together for 7 years before they had sex. She just said the relationship lasted 7 years…
I thought that she was 9 too for a minute…lol thanks.
I still have mine. Not raised christian, or any other religion. I just happen to be one of the unlucky people who is born ugly. I have literally tried to give my virginity away, no takers.
I lost mine a couple of weeks before my 19th birthday; my boyfriend was 19 at the time. I was raised christian (mostly by myself, my mother very rarely came to church with me) but I’d given up on that by then. Still considered it a big deal and I decided I only wanted to be with one man so I waited until I was pretty sure I was going to marry the guy. We got engaged 6 months later and we’ve been married for 8 years now.
Sounds rather like me (only I don’t consider myself to be a Christian).
I was almost 19, my boyfriend was 19, and I hope to marry him someday after I graduate college.
I was 17. I did it with my 1st serious boyfriend. I wanted to please him. low self-esteem does that to a girl. it didn’t help too that i was terribly naive, awkward and really really horny. I regret it because I did it for the wrong reasons. I wasn’t ready, I just wanted my boyfriend to be happy with me. I went into it unprepared. he was just 19 at that time.
Our relationship was tumultuous at best. and there were times when he’d emotionally and physically abuse me. I broke up with him before my 19th birthday. when i met my next boyfriend, i had a lot of fear about my sexual history. but my former boyfriend was very understanding and accepted me for everything I had to offer. there were times during the course of my relationship with my 2nd boyfriend that I truly wished I had waited and did it with him instead. He loved me completely and respected me.
For me pre-marital sex is okay as long as you do it for the right reasons (because you love your partner/because you are prepared for it and you want to experience it), you know the consequences of your actions and you take measures to protect yourself. I believe a woman’s worth should not be dependent on her sexual history.
If you paid attention to the interview, you would have heard Fey saying that she couldn’t give her virginity away, making me think that “good Christian values” was a joke and “being homely” was not. (If you’ve seen old photos, she wasn’t always the looker she is now.)
Furthermore, there is no suggestion that she waited until marriage; all we know is that she lost her virginity to the man who is now her husband. We don’t even know if he was her only partner. Maybe they broke up? Maybe there was infidelity? Who knows?
If you think that the choice to lose one’s virginity is “sacred”, it would behoove you not to blab about Tina Fey’s choice all over the internet. It was clear she was uncomfortable discussing it with Letterman, and she’s probably cringing with the coverage now.
I lost mine at twenty-one to some dude and went on to sleep with many more men, and now I’m married, and I’m happy. I feel no regrets, and neither does my husband. We sincerely love each other and accept each other’s choices — how’s that for sacred?
Thanks for mentioning that! Tina Fey lost her virginity to the man who later became her husband. She wasn’t a virgin on her wedding night!
I do not like the idea that your virginity is some gift you give away. I really don’t like how only girls seem to have this idea drilled into their skulls. Girls are supposed to “wait until marriage” but boys are not. THIS IS A STATISTICAL IMPROBABILITY! Can we just can the whole sacred virginity thing?
Sex is a very personal experience, and as long as you are educated about the risks (both emotional and physical), then how and when you have sex is completely your choice!
Oh, and I lost my virginity to my high school boyfriend at 17. It was awkward, and not particularly good, but we were safe and comfortable with each other. I don’t regret it in the slightest. And frankly, if that’s what I had to look forward to on my wedding night…not worth it!
I agree, something about the phrase “give it away” seems kind of gross to me
So on point.
Yeah, Tina Fey was joking about the Christian values, funny that this article is based around that when she didn’t actually mean it.
i was 16 and it was terrible. i thought “this is it?” also. i didn’t have fun with sex until my next really serious boyfriend at 19. all the ones in between were just kinda boring.
I totally agree with you. Sex became awesome and fun and fulfilling when I met the man who is now my husband. 11 years of marriage later and we’re still having fun and copious amounts of sex!
I was raised (and still am) a Christian, but my parents always made it clear to both my sister and I that they didn’t think there was anything wrong with sex before marriage. In fact, my mum has occasionally said that she wishes she had had more partners before she met my dad so she could have had some experience (she was 21 and he was 22 when they got together).
I’m 19 and a virgin – not for any special reason, just that I didn’t fancy my boyfriends enough. I figure when I really want to then I will. No point do anything just for the sake of it.
I’ve always found actually that my male friends and boyfriends always respected the fact that I won’t have sex until I want to, but some of my female friends judge me slightly – I think it’s different in the UK than in America. We’re generally more sexually active at a younger age, so it’s less acceptable to decide to be a virgin. Can you imagine if someone talked about promise rings in an English school? There’d be carnage!
I wouldn’t go that far. It’s not that long since I was in school and there were very few girls who were sexually active in my school. The few that were were mostly just giving BJs and such, very little actual intercourse. I can only think of 3 girls in my year who were almost certainly not virgins (2 in serious relationships, 1 was charging for it) but hardly anyone was even dating. A fair number of us left school without ever kissing anyone; my hubby was my first kiss at age 18. For all I know there was only one girl who got pregnant during the whole 6 years I was there. If any others did then they must have had abortions or dropped out before they started to show.
I was 20 when I first did it. I had just started college and was dating my first “real boyfriend”. He was 19 at the time, also a virgin. Things didn’t work out with him (and I’m very happy about that), but we dated all through college, and even lived together in our 2nd year. I get really weirded out hearing about teenagers who are having sex. It’s my personal belief that no one should until at least 18. Give yourself time to emotionally grow up.
I don’t regret any of it tho. I’m now 25 and have had several other experiences, some serious, some casual.. as someone who doesn’t necessarily take marriage very seriously – I cannot fathom the idea of waiting until marriage.
I’ve also dated someone who, after waiting a couple months, turned out to be TERRIBLE in bed… it wasn’t worth working on (for many reasons) – and honestly, I might feel the same about a husband if that happened.
Sex should be with someone you love, it doesn’t matter whether or not you are married. In my opinion, the whole wait-until-marriage thing primarily seems to be a kind of safety net so if there’s an unplanned pregnancy the woman isn’t left on her own if the man is horrible enough to do a runner, or just so people don’t find themselves in other situations they don’t want to be in (being considered “easy”, for example, or having sex with someone they’re not comfortable with, for example).
I have friends who’ve had sex at the ages of 15 and above, both in serious relationships and fairly casually, and there are some in the group (myself included) who are 17 and haven’t had sex yet for varying reasons. It depends on your approach on life. In my group, we’re pretty accepting and don’t judge people on the age/conditions in which they had sex (although we do try to keep a lookout for one another as any friends would) although I have seen cases where someone, especially a girl, is ostracised by friends for having sex, which is actually a very nasty thing to do to someone, and part of me does blame the attitude that people, especially women, should save themselves until marriage.
I feel there is a worrying growth in the emphasis on abstinence before marriage. I’m not saying that everyone should leap into bed with everyone else, but that it makes the whole idea of sex seem somehow dirty and forbidden, when in fact it is an expression of love. Also, it can mean that people who have had sex before marriage are seen as somehow unclean and an easy conquest when that is often far from the case.
My approach is what my mum told me: “save it for someone you feel comfortable with, and stay safe”. It doesn’t matter whether or not you’re married as long as you feel okay about it, and anyone who you may later decide to have sex with should not judge you if you’re not a virgin, because that’s pretty childish if you ask me.
I never have, and never will ‘lose’ or ‘give away’ virginity. This terminology just contributes to the idea that it’s a precious gift that girls have to give to someone, and that there’s nothing of worth left once it’s gone.
What about boys ‘giving away’ their virginity? Strangely never heard.
I don’t actually know the solution to the terminology issue, but I don’t care for these.
Good for her.
I was 18. Wasn’t married. Or in love. No big deal. People should basically wait until they are consenting adults (or at least a good chunk of the way through puberty) and base it off their own desires, emotions, and values, without pushing on anyone else. Variety is the spice of life….and ‘losing your virginity’ stories are almost always hilarious, cute, or entertaining, regardless of age and marital status.
I’m sixteen, and I’m still a virgin. I’m a year-ish young for my grade (senior in highschool) and I have several friends who are no longer virgins, and I can’t really explain how much it creeps me out. I still feel uncomfortable when I see couples making out in the hallways because no matter how much they act like adults, they’re still kids. Their parents drive them around still (mostly), they have peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch, and their chief concerns are homework and having money to see movies with. These people aren’t adults! They shouldn’t be having sex yet! I just don’t understand how anybody could feel ready for it that young. I still haven’t even held hands with a boy, because although I’ve had some serious crushes, I’ve never felt the need for a boyfriend. I suppose it also has something to do with the fact that I’m a late bloomer, but that’s besides the point. One of my friends had sex with a boy she was in the process of breaking up with. I’m pretty sure she did it to keep him. I was flummoxed. To keep him what? Holding hands with her at school and occasionally bringing her flowers? These things are on two completely different levels. These are our trial years and our trial relationships. I suppose what I’m basically saying is that people– yes, boys, too– should not be having sex in high school, and certainly not before. We’re just not mature enough yet!
What, until you move beyond peanut butter and jelly, you can’t be an adult? Bloody hell, I’ll be a child ’til I’m eighty!
(I recognise your other points about maturity, but found that one really silly.
Keep in mind that people have different ideas, and as long as they’re old enough to consider the implications, different people will have different idease about it. Your lack of readiness doesn’t say anything about anyone else’s.
Haha, I love PB and J! And I’m a professional with my own apartment etc.
Besides that, 16-year old me agrees with you, Alia.
I understand what you’re saying. My daughter has a friend that feels like you do. But that doesn’t mean that everybody your age is actually at the same level of maturity that you are. It’s really not beside the point that you’re a late bloomer. To judge all teenagers as unready to have sex just because you aren’t ready is kind of silly.
I lost my v-card at 15 – four months before turning 16. I loved him madly and he worshipped me. It was a weird slightly awkward experience – but because we loved each other in such a wonderful way I was able to ask questions and we giggled and – I just have such a fond memory of that experience. We didn’t get married but he is still one of my closest friends and I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything. When I was married, I remember wishing I had waited for my husband – who I loved so much. Let this be a lesson – things happen for a reason. My husband decided after not even a year of marriage that “this just isn’t for me.” So, I am so glad I didn’t wait and that I had that experience with someone I loved so deeply – that pure kind of love before life gets complicated.
kind of an interesting story behind mine…basically, summer 2008 i was with a guy, was planning to give him my V because we’d been together almost 8 months and i thought i really loved him and we were in it for the long haul, and then he broke up with me a week before i’d planned to let him convince me to go all the way. at the time i had just started a friendship of sorts with a guy i’d met on a summer vacation, and once my relationship ended, things with him got hot and heavy–online. webcam, im, etc. he told me that he loved me, that he’d never met anyone so hot or so perfect for him, and went so far as to buy plane tickets to fly up to stay with me for a weekend at school in september. on i think the second night of the weekend, i foolishly did not say no and let him go all the way–even though up until THE moment i was unsure whether I was ready (i wasn’t) and it hurt like fucking HELL because he didnt get me aroused enough before going for it. about two weeks after he flew back home (almost exactly a year ago), he stopped returning calls and texts, blocked me on IM, unfriended me on facebook…i have not heard a word from he-who-shall-forever-be-known-as-Douchebag since. oh, and for the record, I was 20 at the time, about a month before my 21st bday.
the only thing I don’t regret about my hesitation to say NO is that when I soon after met my current bf of 11 months and fell in love with him, i not only had the knowledge to take his virginity and take it well (;-)) but also didnt have any moral hang-ups about it–once your virginity is gone it’s gone, so why not enjoy yourself? but to this day i wish i had waited until i found someone who REALLY loved me, aka my current bf, who would never ever do anything i’m not ready for and only cares about my pleasure.
you’d think someone who’s a fan of romance novels with strong heroines who don’t take any shit wouldn’t be so naive as to sleep with a douche like that, but i guess i was just so ready to NOT be a virgin that i let myself be swept away.
live and learn, i guess.
I lost it this year, and I am 24. I didn’t wait for any reason except that I didn’t feel ready before that. I decided to do it after the third date with the first decent guy I’d dated. I don’t regret it. We dated for 5 months, he turned out to be a tool, and I still don’t regret it. I now have a few funny sex stories to tell, a greater confidence around guys, and more of a sense of my own sexuality. I can’t wait to try it with another guy, and who knows, maybe the next one will be my future husband, maybe not. Knowing me, it will probably be someone I’ve dated a few times first and feel comfortable with.
What’s the difference? Virginity is just an abstract concept (seeing as most of us pop the hymen before actual sex) and only serves to perpetuate discomfort and embarrassment around the issue of sex. For girls, it adds another way for others to attempt to control us, and places your entire self-worth on a little piece of skin. Until girls are not just considered easy if they have sex and virtuous if they wait, we will be oppressed. I am 15, and I haven’t had sex yet, but not because of any moral reason. When I, and nobody else can make this decision for me, am ready, I will have sex. I hope to be in love, but I can’t make any hard-and-fast rules about when and where I will do it first.
yeah, tina fey got married in 2001, when she was 31-ish. She wasn’t a virgin on her wedding night. Her and her now-husband dating for like 7 years.
I thought this story sounded wrong, so I just googled it. Wasn’t hard..
I was 16, and my first time was great…. and I have never stopped. I’m only surprised that I didn’t have sex sooner. Wasn’t in love or anything. Was just ready. I don’t understand the importance placed on sex. As long as you are careful and understand the potential consequences, have fucking fun.
hehe…”have fucking fun”
I love puns.
Well thank god, I thought I was the only virgin left. I’m 18 and it feels like everyone is having sex. My parents are christian and I am too (kinda) but I’m not opposed to sex before marriage. I just want to make sure its with the right person.
I am nearly 20. My boyfriend and I gave our virginity to each other when i was 15 and he was 14. We’re still together, and I’m pretty sure we always will be. Also, we are swingers. In high school we had a few threesomes and last year my boyfriend watched me take the virginity of a guy friend of ours. I think both loosing your virginity to the love of your life, like i did, or to a friend while her boyfriend watches, or anything in between, so long as both parties are happy about it is perfectly fine. My first time was in my boyfriend’s bathroom while his dad was outside gardening. I kept hitting my head on the tub, lol.
I lost my virginity at 15. If given it to do over again I would have waited longer than I did. I do not say so because of any special relationship with religion, though. I say so because it is premature to provide access to such an intimate part of yourself when you barely know yourself.
I was 15, he was 18. We’re still together 4 years later, and I have no regrets about it. Even if we were to split, I doubt I’d have any regrets. It’s a great relationship, and it has been a great part of our relationship. I think everyone should just wait until they’re ready and they know the possible consequences of their actions.
I totally agree with the several comments suggesting there is no wrong way to lose your virginity. (Except, when I think about it, I think it may be pretty wrong to have sex in order to get pregnant and keep someone with you….that is pretty horrendous. But who am I to judge….)
There is a lot of pressure to wait to have sex with ‘the one’. I do not think that has to be the case. Even if it was a terrible mistake, then at least your learned, and when the right one does drop into your life, you’ll appreciate it all the more.
This topic gets me heated with some of my girlfriends/sisters (age 13-16 lost virginity) that claim I was in the “5%” minority for waiting until I fell in love and in a committed relationship…age 26 to have sex. I think it is more common than we think but women like me were stigmatized as being “homely” if we waited. As if we didn’t have the opportunity before. (I am 5’10″ and an athlete…I had opportunity) That isn’t so and I am not particularly religious but felt my self-esteem wouldn’t withstand something less meaningful. I don’t care that others find their meaningful first time earlier than I did but I wish they wouldn’t try so hard to make those late-bloomers such as myself feel outcast for waiting. I know others that waited equally long but hate to openly admit it as if they did something wrong. I wasn’t married when I lost my virginity but I did happen to marry him which was actually unexpected. I just happen to feel safe and loved enough to be open to such vulnerability. Another reason to wait until you are responsible and mature enough to make this decision was that I had a vaginal tear the first time I had sex and lost several pints of blood, rushed to the hospital for surgery, and in the end…my boyfriend/husband stayed with me the whole time. I hate we have made “giving our virginity away” such a huge deal. It shouldn’t be the focus but finding a soul-mate should.
I’m sorry that you feel stigmatized for waiting to have sex. Neither group, whether you are waiting for love or responding to lust (or somewhere in-between), should be stigmatized. As long as you are safe and comfortable, the decision you make is the right one.
I don’t want to sound judgemental, but the concept of losing one’s virginity at age 13 creeps me out…
Losing your virginity sounds like it was a pretty nasty ordeal–it’s good that you waited for someone who was there for you through that :)
Agreed…..my little sister is 14, and she’s a typical silly 14-year-old who loves Twilight and iCarly. Thinking of her having sex with somebody makes me want to vomit. She’s a kid, for goodness’ sake.
Maybe this is horribly prudish of me, but I think sex is for grown-ups (i.e. 18+). Yes, I know that some teenagers are mature enough–but frankly, I doubt it’s a very high percentage–and yes, I know many people who ARE old enough are certainly not mature enough, but…..I just find it terribly disconcerting that people who are technically children–in America, anyway–are having sex.
A couple years ago, when I was fourteen, I would have been PISSED at your description of a typical fourteen-year old.
Well, it still bothers me now, but it’s probably because a lot of people have the same attitude as yours, directed towards me being sexually active at the age of sixteen.
Well, I’m certainly not going to apologize for my opinion. In my experience, there are far fewer teenagers out there who are mature enough for sex than there are teenagers who aren’t.
And I didn’t expect you too! I was just commenting on something you said, not demanding anything of you. :)
I’m 21 and a virgin. Don’t have a particularly religious background. I always known that I’m the type of girl that needs to have sex with someone that I love for my first time. I’ve had opportunities in the past with men that I’ve felt some very intense attraction to, but and we were casually dating (def. no love, lots of lust!). Also, my first boyfriend at the age of 16 really put a lot of pressure on me to push my sexual boundaries, and then broke up with me when I wouldn’t. He presented himself as this super caring, low pressure guy… Got the distinct impression that I was something to show off, or to conquer. I’ve also had a lot of close guy friends (5+) who turned out to be under the impression that I might change my mind about being just friends and when they finally faced the cold hard truth that it would NEVER happen, they ran off into the wind. For me, in order to feel ready for sex I want commitment, trust, really passionate emotions, deep attraction, and a powerful connection to someone. I guess that spells out love for me at the moment.
On the other hand, I lost what I consider my ‘lesbian’ or ‘bi’ virginity at 18 to a girl at a party. We just went off to her room and went at it. I felt no emotional ties there. I just wanted to have a fun experience and it was. I think I have more trust when it comes to girls…
I was 15. I initiated it and I really, really wanted to. I thought it was an important part of a relationship and a way to show love. It didn’t upset me and it didn’t hurt me. I’d been with the guy for 2 years before that, and it’s been 2 years since and we’re still together. Sex has made me feel connected to him on so many more levels. There’s the physical as well as the emotional and mental.
I waited until I was 20 because before then I was scared, even though I had been with my hs bf for years and loved him then.
My first time ended up being because I was curious and wanted to get it over with – definitely not out of love. That relationship didn’t last long and I now enjoy sex with someone that I love very much (who lost his virginity at 14). It may seem strange, but I felt safe with the person that I did it first with, and I don’t regret it at all.
I’d just like to point out that Tina Fey wasn’t abstaining from sex until marriage… she had sex at 24 with the man who she happened to marry many years later. They weren’t married at the time.