Oh, and it’s such a shame that society’s attempts to make human existence a little more civil be thought of as brainwashing.

And if I were you, I’d find hot men too, not just hot women.

I respect people’s decision to be polyamorous, but to say that it is “more honest” and natural” just screams “excuses” to me, as well as taking the easy way out. How is polyamory more honest? Are you saying that monogamy isn’t honest and natural? I know of people in polyamorous relationships, who still aren’t totally honest with their partners. Monogamy is meant to be honest, so does polyamory. Saying polyamory is more honest is like saying all people in monogamous relationships are dishonest to themselves and to each other, and that demeans everyone in a monogamous relationship. Not everyone likes the idea of their partner fucking another person other than themselves, and not everyone can even accept a situation like this.

And FYI, there are conflicting studies regarding the nature of man and marriage, so you can’t say that polyamory is more natural.

Anyway I never really thought seriously about polygamy before, and have only known it as some foreign thing. Here, I’ve only heard of 1 set of 3 gay guys doing it, and it’s been going on for a few years now. I myself was married for 4 years, and the whole relationship lasted 13 years, and not once did I ever consider a 2nd women. But while planning for kids and finances, there never seemed to be enough time for it all, and something felt wrong about that. Now I’m divorced and dating, and searching for the perfect person for me seems like an impossible mission, but if I could mix and match I’d be perfectly happy. So instead, I’ve run in my head, the what ifs, and I see all the things mentioned here, and I’m starting to think it’s not so bad. For starters both kids and finances wouldn’t have to be skimped in one way or another. What I mean by that is that people tend to chose work and less time with kids, or lots of time with kids and making less. The biggest drawbacks would certainly be jealousy, and the lack of making it all legal. If you can get past those drawbacks, and seriously try to make it work, I’m thinking it could be very good. Maybe it is selfish in a way, but I certainly am not talking about an open relationship which is much more selfish, I mean committed with shared responsibilities as a family.

I haven’t made any decisions yet, since jealousy can be very hard to overcome, but I’m keeping my mind open, and no longer think it’s a crazy thing, since it can be very practical if you look beyond the sex part.

Your original comment bugged me, but deflecting it as “just your opinion” really got under my skin. Enough to make me comment, apparently.

To claim that polyamory demeans a “loving” (polyamory can’t be loving?) monogamous relationship is akin to saying that homosexuality demeans heterosexuality, and both of those claims are deeply offensive. The way other people love has absolutely nothing to do with the way you or anyone else loves.

Maybe you can’t relate to polyamory, and that’s fine. But just because you can’t relate to it does not make it inferior, and it does not make it a threat.

I am not polyamorous; not because I think it is wrong or gross or deserving of judgement, but just because it’s not for me. There is no “right way” to love. And I trust other, consenting adults to make the right decisions for themselves, as I have been able to make the right decisions for myself.

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My heart only has room for one, and I love that one with everything I’ve got.