Tarrah Seymour, 21, is a happily married (albeit young) mother of one and mother-to-be to another. She and her husband have the ideal life together. They have both attended college and graduated – both are in law enforcement. Tarrah carried and gave birth to one healthy child who is seemingly being raised in a stable environment and she is also five months pregnant with her second (and last, as far as she is concerned) child. There have been no complications to date. The couple’s decision to limit their children to two was inspired by the desire to be financially capable for caring for two other lives. After they were married, they consciously decided together that two children would be their limit and stated that there were no other options. These two intelligent individuals seemed to have the right idea when it came to living successfully in this world and balancing work and family issues, alike.
However, Tarrah is choosing to receive a tubal ligation after she gives birth in four short months, but her physician is flat-out refusing to take part in her procedure, and is, in fact, encouraging her to give this decision second thought, as young as she is. According to the doctor, he refuses to perform the procedure on any woman under the age of twenty-five, claiming that it’s a permanent sterilization procedure and he does not want to be held liable for any woman’s desire down the road to have children.
The couple expressed their anger at the doctor’s biased negation and stated:
“I don’t really understand,” her husband says. “I thought it would be our decision to make, not somebody else’s, about what we can and cannot do.”
“We were mad, we were mad, definitely,” she explains. “We know what we want in life: we want two kids and then we want to start our careers. We had logical reasons behind it. He should have listened and respected that.”
According to the OB that was requested to perform the procedure, the majority of physicians would refuse to complete this procedure simply and primarily based on the patient’s age.
A recent study indicates that twenty percent of women surveyed who were sterilized prior to age thirty regretted their decision in their later years.
How pretentious are these doctors in refusing an intelligently-requested procedure from a patient? This woman and her husband have seemingly good heads on their shoulders, in that they consciously choose to not bring children into this world if they don’t feel comfortable in doing so, for whatever reason. You look at that effing psychobitch Octo-Mom (she completely turns my stomach in everything that she does) who has more children than she can willingly take care of and uses her publicity to further her own warped desire to be just another tabloid fame whore. You have couples (and women) who have children for an additional welfare check. You have individuals popping out more children than they can fiscally manage, but yet there were over 118,000 children up for adoption in the United States alone in the 2000-2004 time frame. That means that there are almost two hundred thousand children awaiting homes, wasting away in the system who are capable of loving and deserving to be loved, yet people like Nadya Suleman choose to reproduce and reproduce and put the welfare of even more children at risk. I wouldn’t be surprised if some of her offspring ended up in the system, too, unfortunately.
The bottom line is, if you don’t want to continue having children (or have them at all, and tubal ligation is your method of preference), you should be allowed the freedoms of making said choice and going about your decision in your own way. The underlying connotation of what this asshole doctor is saying is more along the lines of anti-choice in every possible facet of being than what’s being recognized.
FIrst off, when you say 118,000 up for adoption, how do you get off rounding that to 200,000 up for adoption? And if you’re complaining about the octo-mom being a “fame whore” why further that by bringing her back into public eye by making references to her? You’re only giving her what she wants then,
As for the rest of the article, while I agree it is her right to decide whether or not she wants to have any more children as it is her body and tactfully planned out, it is also the doctor’s decision to decide what procedures he preforms, especially since his reasonings are just as well planned out. She can still get the surgery but she should just do it with someone who supports it. Compare it to gay marriage. Gays now have the right to get married in enough states across the country, but is it fair to have a priest wed them that does not believe in gay marriage? It’s wreaking havoc on someone’s conscious who actually tries to live up to their set morals. And should they refuse to compromise their morals they are bombarded with complaints and degrading insults tarnishing their reputations.
This article should really be about celebrating both the young mother and the doctor for having a plan and sticking to their morals. Just because the desired doctor does not preform the surgery it does not mean the lady cannot get the surgery. And just because the doctor refuses to preform a surgery he does not support, it takes not make him a bad guy. It makes him a man with morals- something not often found, or apparently praised, in today’s society.
Amen to Cheesepop’s comment…Much more eloquently written and a whole lot more sensible than the article itself…